being single is it all that or not ?

[stolat]

No, talking to Sin Cut. He was doing abit of bragging in another thread......

[horsey]

 
gotcha '

[crazycheryl]

Horsey - being single is great for all the reasons stated in this thread. I chose not to get married until I was like 33 cause I wanted kids but now I hate marriage. It's like having a kid without giving birth. I should have just cohabitated with my husband and never got married. Now, I will stay because of the kids but I'm sacrificing happiness big time. And I dated my husband for four years before we got married. Thought we had a lot in common but as the years go on, it doesn't seem so much anymore. Like he makes fun of me for blogging on this board and my obsession with bands. He says I should grow up. I spend too much on concert tickets but it is ok for him to spend mega bucks on season football tickets, going to hockey games and baseball as well as getting into every sports pool out there.

When I was single with no boyfriends for periods of time, I would use the time to better myself - take a class I had interest in, train for a running marathon, exercise, got a dog, spent mega time with the dog, do some volunteer work, etc. It made me feel really good about myself and I met more people than I could have ever imagined even though I didn't date anyone, it opened up many channels. And on weekends when I wasn't out with friends or going on a date, I would do home improvement projects to make my crib a killer pad. But, most of all, as sex kitten stated, it's your attitude and I would go out with people thinking, oh another bullshit date, but I came to realize after talking about the dates with friends, that something funny always happened and even though it is still a bitch getting to know people, most of it is funny and provided much humor in my life when I look back on it.

I've also learned that some people cannot function unless they are in a relationship. They go from person to person just to have someone there even if the person is annoying or not right for them. I disagree with this because they are not allowing themselves time to just focus on them and never stop to think about what they really want. You don't want to be like that.

I've also learned that some people like to be alone and even if you are together, you can still be alone with them. I am probably like this so I have no problem being single but many people don't understand this either.

Hang tight and concentrate on yourself and yourself only - you'll see that women will start being attracted to you because you exude confidence and care about yourself - you won't come across as desperate or needy and they will think you have a full life, which you will. Try a pet if you don't already have one - no sick animal jokes from the usual suspects either. Pets are awesome roomies! They will love you unconditionally.

If you need to get laid, pick up a chick for a one nighter or hire a hooker - just remember, you only want to get laid so you don't beat yourself up the next day. Keep your intentions in mind and there will be no guilt. Always use condoms...

[horsey]

im a female  lookin for a man ,not a woman.i had my time im done with women.one keeps calling me now.i can't get rid of lol.

[Natasha23]

Crazy Cheryl is right on!  My best friend has not been single in 14 years (we're both 28).  In 14 years she has never not had a man, and she cannot be alone.  She receives all of her validation and self-esteem from men who want to have sex with her. 

I'm single right now -- have been for 3 years and yes, in a lot of ways being single sucks, but being in bad/so-so relationships are such a waste of time and energy.  My last boyfriend was an asshole but I'm glad I went through it because it taught me to pay attention to the early warning signs and not to settle for someone crappy and average.  And I am so blessed that I came through it without having to suffer majorly.

For the most part, I really just submerge myself in my interests.  I'm trying to start a new business, I want to paint and redecorate my house, I want to exercise more and be more healthy.  I have so many goals I want to achieve that a relationship would not be practical right now, even though I am lonely.  It's at night that it really hits me, because I would much rather be sleeping next to someone I love than going to bed alone.  And I can't think of anything in life really that isn't sweeter when you share it with the right person.  But I tell myself it just isn't the right time. 

Focus on yourself and what you want in life and a relationship will come when the time is right.  Unfortunately it really is true that relationships happen when you stop looking.

[stolat]

Hey it's 2007! Time to find a better words that describes being single............

How about "Independent".............there's a thought.........

[Natasha23]

Hey it's 2007! Time to find a better words that describes being single............

How about "Independent".............there's a thought.........

You can be independent and in a relationship.

[horsey]

i was independent also and had a b/f for many years.so yes it can happene.he was very easy unless it was a guy ,then he said he would rip my head off.if i was to cheat on him.so i never did with any men but a woman i did.and he knew about her an didn't like her at all.

[stolat]

Hey it's 2007! Time to find a better words that describes being single............

How about "Independent".............there's a thought.........

You can be independent and in a relationship.

Yes, that is called having lovers 

[JMack]

Lovers, free and independent?  They were used in the past no? lets just go back to Swingers Baby..Yeah  Austin Powers style of course w/o the chest hair and bad teeth.

[stolat]

Think Venetian Court - ever heard of Courtesans?