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 Have YOU ever cheated or been cheated on??
 What is your story?


Personal Answer:

i have been cheated on once..

my boyfriend of 2 years had another relationship with a girl for at least 3 months... he would see me on the weekends and sometimes during the week, and then he would spend the rest of the time with her..
Now everyone was telling me that he was cheating on me, i confronted him and he said that he wasnt and that i was the only one he loved...
then one weekend when we were at his house i asked his brother

" is Cameron cheating on me with Jade?"

and his reply

" yeaaahhh" he said it in a voice like " everyone knows and i cant belive you didnt find out sooner"

that was the end of that and i left him...
then i packed up all his clothes and belongings from my house put them in a bag and dumped it at his doorstep.

Now I have ALSO cheated..
i was 14 and i ended up kissing my ex boyfriend one night.....
i know i didnt have sex or anything but i class being affectionate to someone else that is not your partner as cheating...
the next morning i woke up and went strait to my boyfriends house and told him what had happened....
he broke up with me, and it didnt faze me at all cos i had lost my actraction for him..

well thats it !!

No.
But I think the whole deal with cheating is somewhat hypocrite.

What is cheating? For me it's not kissing, grils have kissed me often enough at the clubs. What's the deal, it's just a kiss? And I also have turned my head away when or if they use tongue too much.

Is it sex? There don't need to be any emotion in that, it can just be lust.
And having really cheated, or if she or he just *thinks* you've cheated, well, you get the same amount of shit anyway.

im too scared of my girlfried, she would rip my head apart ... and i love her.
:)

Yes i have cheated, and this because the father's baby hadn't touched me in over 2 years when he had, in the past, cheated on me. When you know you don't get any but someone probably does get it all and yet, your man begs you to not leave him, you feel completely stuck, emotionally and betrayed.

So yes, i saw someone for 9 months, my self esteem went up, i started to want things for me, to do things for me and i had great amazing daily sex. I would have liked to see him as a boyfriend, but then, he wasn't serious.

Which is a shame really. He had given me courage to physically leave the other. I had great difficulties cutting he ties with the other, but i was very slowly getting there. It would probably have been better if he had taken me to the other side of the world right there and then, but there was no way this could have happened  :rofl:

And suddenly, my " was in his way to be confirmed ex" takes a treatment and transforms into a sweetie pie, his libido goes abck up with me, his moods seem settled and he is finally the man i wanted ?

So me being me ( this means stoopid) , i accepted to see him again on these bases and quickly, he was living under MY roof. When i discovered he had stopped his treatment and back to shitty him, our baby was on the way.

I told him i'd seen someone. He was mad at me. So mad i actually got bruised. But i told him he couldn't be mad because a man had given me what he obviously felt pissed off to give me and that he should thank this other man for so graciously doing what he felt was a shore.

I don't know if he has forgiven me, but i don't care in fact. i don't look for forgiveness.

I have stood by him through all his infidelities, through his madness ( wait until one of his employees finds out, it may take time, but when they do, they will be in for the shock of their lifes) , through his horrible nutty family's attack on me, through lack of money because he wanted to set up his business, through people thinking i'm a bitch for daring to criticize saint angel the hypocrit , i have stood by this when he didn't cuddle me, hold me, kiss me, when he didn't make love to me for over 2 YEARS, some of my personal money went in it to help him and all i was asking was for some company.

You know, something simple, easy going, no problems, just nice and sweet.

At least, it's made me realise the baby's dad will NEVER be the man of my life.

life without sex... now THAT would be sad  ::)

cheating is for losers.

i would never cheat again...
it is against my morals..

plus my boyfriend sprung a rather scary question at me the other day...

he wants to settle down and have a family and OTHER things  :nervous:

there is a time when everyone must settle down, and to be honest i would rather have one partner that i can love than go through many different relationships.

but he wont even let me take a lil bit of go go juice!!!

i'm not even gonna ask... :nervous:

See cheating was against my morals, but i was just too lonely and yet, completely lost as to what i should do about a relationship of a fewyears with someone;

And when i never looked at men, i couldn't have cared for any, i just saw that guy's eyes one day and it was instantaneous.

Oh well...

So gunna_girl01, don't you want to settle down ?

but why don't people just break up with the person instead of cheating.
the day i will think of cheating with my girlfriend, i'll call her and say " we're done, have a good life ..."

until then, i stay with her and dont cheat on her.

thing is, i didn't know if we were done or not.

Come back and post when she isn't in the room with you.......... :hihi:

you need to rev it up a little bit more, im sure itll run like a charm lol

cheating is disrespectful and amoral...i am proud to say i have never cheated on anyone... :)

I have never cheated for one simple reason...I have been cheated on repeatedly over the years because I am just too trusting and easy going....it hurts too much so I would just break up with the person before inflicting that kind of pain on another human being

yes definatly...
i cant wait to have a family...
i was an aunty when  i was 5 and now i have 4 nieces and one nephew... i love children.

i would rather stay with one partner and be happy, than have many different relationship.. one to another to another is just not me....
when i enter a relationship it is for the long term... i hate switching guys around.

what about you.. are you happy now?

lol.. uhhmm but you do know what i mean when i say go go juice dont you ? ???

No, not at all, but i have been brought up to stay with a man even though i am not and that's what gets me into shit.

Ideally, i am with one man, we are happy, and since i am very physical,  unless i get sex and cuddles a few times a week, i tend to build frustration and it ends up angering me a lot.

So even if i get on marvellously with a man, i have to have something very physical going on too.

And with the baby's father, there are emotional issues, he sees my intellectual capacities as competition ( his mother tells him i outshine him, bitch) so it's always a case of telling me to shut up in front of people ( dunno how it makes him feel but it makes me feel humiliated) and he tends to use sex as a way to control me, so since it doesn't work anymore, he doesn't touch me or very little ( miracle that baby is on the way i tell you) ...

And although i have worked enormously on me since i was 20 years old in therapy, i can't seem to be able to let go of the very little material comfort i have, it's as if i was very affraid to go abck down if i did and i can't.

In fact, i just got terribly terribly fooled.

I thought this story of treatment was real, and it was, but just for 2 months, the time to get me back and that was it.

I've been stupid.

i think you deserve to be happy you sound like an awsome chik...

dont settle for second best.. i did that and i ended up getting itroduced to bad things and became addicted to speed.
he put me down that much, and he beat me up... emotional torture is so much worse than physical i think.. emotional abuse plays with your mind..

i am seeing a councellor at the momment, trying to get rid of my pain.. that has been bundled up for? 5 years !!!

here is a poem i wrote the day before i met my current boyfriend!! and that was 2 months ago

Swallowed in the depths of unmoving depression
My soul lies in a dark pit of aggression,
My spirit has passed and I don?t care if I die
For I wish not another day would go by,
I cannot overcome my feeling of sorrow
For I am in a deep dark hole where there is no tomorrow,
Happiness never comes and emotional torture never goes
Silence is my way, so not a single heart or soul knows,
My thoughts cannot be pushed aside
I know this for 5 years I have tried,
It haunts it tortures
My soul is in flames my body it scorches,
Words cannot describe the darkness I feel
For I died along time ago and happiness is not real,
My life is a dead end to which I can not turn around
Darkness made sure I kept falling to the ground,
I crave love I pray for happiness
But I have fallen to far? I have plunged into deapness,
I hope that one day I will live again
Darkness behind me and my new life will begin...

my words are copywritted no thiefing!!

i still have depression locked up inside of me and it is a very difficult to let it all out when i have told no one for 5 years..

Wow... you must have a friggin clear mind.  You're deluding yourself but if that's how you feel, I hope you're not in a relationship.  Because you'll hurt someone real bad with that attitude.

Unfortunately, us loners have no one to cheat on...  :crying:

yup, i sure do :P

i am the master of innuendo  :o

 : ok: :rofl:

"No.
But I think the whole deal with cheating is somewhat hypocrite.

What is cheating? For me it's not kissing, grils have kissed me often enough at the clubs. What's the deal, it's just a kiss? And I also have turned my head away when or if they use tongue too much.

Is it sex? There don't need to be any emotion in that, it can just be lust.
And having really cheated, or if she or he just *thinks* you've cheated, well, you get the same amount of shit anyway."

So that's a 2 way street right??? If you saw your girlfriend kissing someone or she just grabbed some dude in a bar as a fuck lust buddy, you'd be cool...wow you're miles more mature than your age ;D

no, my point is that if your boyfriend or girlfriend really thinks you've cheated it doesn't really matter have you or not.

I've never cheated, and hopefully never will.

When with my ex, she thought I did and when we had broke up she saw me with a friend from work and came calling her a slut etc. Later she told a guy what an asshole I was, and how I cheated on her, even if the worst I did was a drunken kiss (and later "no" to the girls invite). So the guy attacked me, and later ran from the fight, it didn't comfort much when later in the hospital getting stitches.

And I thought "Fuck I should've cheated on her one thousand times"

So, you see? It doesn't matter that I haven't had other girls I slept with, it doesn't even matter that I had chances to do so. She thougth I did, and has told that to all our friends, some believe her, some not.

Yeah, don't cheat. And why the fuck not?

i kissed a guy the other day.  a guy that i have loved for years. he has finally come back from geralton, and i went around to see him BY MYSELF ( what a foolish thing) i went there convinsing myself that i no longer had feelings, but when he opened the door, my legs gave way, and he was still the lovely gorgeous fun guy that he was 4 years ago.
he was beautiful and it hurts to know that i now have a boyfriend that i wont brake up with  because he has not givin me a reason to do so... AND i love him in a way.. he is prince charming, but nick ( the other guy) is romeo with style. And i am torn, i only kissed nick, a couple of times intimatly, we didnt have sex thank god!!!

the next time i saw my man i was edgy, and silent, he knew there was something on my mind. But no he has not found out and i hope to god he never does, cos i am not a cheat and never have been, i guess the feeling of sexual arrousel was to much for me to take, i got carried away in the momment and i loved every second of it. i know how horrible it sounds, but i would rather taste a little bit of him rather than taste nothing at all. Go on for the rest of my life without touching his soft lips, feeling his touch on my skin....

when i am kissing my man i am pictuing nick's face, when i feel my mans touch i am imagining it is nicks hands that are exploring me. i hate getting into this situation.... i have read about how bad these things can turn out, you cant have the best of both worlds i realise this... but i am just clueless
what to do... what to do...

gunna girl, out of curiousity, how old are you?

would you be happy with the second best thing? if he's in your head you gotta make peace with it to get peace.

That's the huge difference between men and women blue cut :

Women can give themselves reasons to forget and make peace, men need to fuck a woman to forget her.

I think gunna girl has real feelings for her boyfriend and a real crush for that guy she has noticed again.

Is a relationship worth screwing over for sex ?

NO

Only for love.

Gunna girl, get to know this guy ( romeo with style) and stay strong. Don't give in to sex so you can keep your head cool, think with your head and close your heart to anything silly that may want to come inside it for a few weeks.

The best thing you can do for you, your boyfriend and this romeo is to know exactly what you want before you do it.

And in my books, it's also called self respect.

It's what i didn't do and i now regret it.

17 on friday

i have never had sex out of a relationship... i like to know that the man i am sleeping with is worthy...
i would rather have sex with someone i love than some radom from a nightclub.... and i get guys trying to take me home all the time... and these guys are like fukin models.. but i allways say  " nah sorry hun i have a boyfriend"

but when nick leaned forward and kissed me, all my morals everything just left me, i was totally and conpletly under his spell..

ok. you're a moron. who the fuck thinks kissing random people is cool? :confused:
you're an idiot and the guy probably thinks so too. i loathe loose idiots like yourself.

EXCUSE ME ?? :rant:

he isnt fukin random i have known him for 6 years
NOBODY FUKIN SPEAKS TO ME LIKE THAT YOU LITTLE SHIT.
GROW UP and get some FUCKIN RESPECT.


everybody is allowed to have an opinion and i am able to listen but not when it is putting me down when i dont deserve it.

you need to get laid hunny , end of subject  :-*

what do you know about me getting laid? i suggest you shut the fuck up and grow up, this whole topic reeks of insecurity, slut.

Hey, cool down. It's just a kiss.

And who are you to throw the first stone?
How many chicks have come to you when they need to get laid?
If they are not ugly it's sometimes hard to say no, exspecially if you've had a bad day and could need a moments comfort.

She's only human.

i'm cooled down, the "slut" part was just in response to her calling me a "little shit" while in the same breath telling me to grow up. my past experience with lying girls who you think you can trust until they screw you over makes my respect for your "comfort" comment near nil.

ahahah.
come on she is only 17..... and you're being agressive.

these were you first words. how can you start an sentence with that? you're the dumb one here.
chill out.
she can kiss anybody she wants. and fuck anybody she wants.

I have cheated before... im not proud of it... NEVER AGAIN.

then why fucking do it?! GOD you people make me sick! talk about lack of self-control, not to mention dignity and integrity! "i'm not proud of it, it just happened"... is that supposed to make you look like you were fucking attractive at the time? do you want to prove something? that you're "out there" and "cool"? gimme a break. "it just happened, i'm not proud of it"... well you shouldn't be, not only because of the injustice done to the person who trusts and loves you, but because of the incredibly weak character you seem to have as a lack of self control and brain. cheating = ugly people trying to catch up to what other people were busy doing when they were younger.

You know august, i realised when it happened trhat my whole life was " under control" and that i'd just " lost control".

What this person taught me afterwards was so immense that i now know it wasn't " just" cheating, it was meant to happen to a person like me, who thought i was stronger than this, above a lot of people.

I wasn"t above anyone or above anything, and i lost the most important part of my life, CONTROL.

Right now, i may be less moral than i should have been ( and then, not, because a man not doing his duty for so long = annullment of marriage should we be married, so if the church annulls marriage for no sex, i can't be that bad of a person for seeking company after YEARS without), but i know i am something much more important :

Human

Wanna fuck someone else?  Ditch your current partner first.  It's THAT simple.  I'm sorry Jessica, I disagree... you can't say you should have something from your partner and because you don't get it, run off and fuck someone else... because at the end of the day, you should get your life in order first... if that means dumping/divorcing the husband/wife, then so be it.  But you'll feel better doing it that way.

Isn't sixteen a little young for casual sex?

 :smoking: Izzy ?:smoking:

Oh, arent you the hilarious one. Self-control, lol.

I'm sure you don't know shit what we're talking about, you're just bitter someone has cheated on you and that maybe you haven't even been tempted.

Just tell my have you ever had the persistence to try to work things out, or do you just point the door?

Okey, someone cheated, it's not like he/she kileld someone.

And there's a difference, screw up once by being caught in a moment when the relationship didn't matter, or just play the other one over and over by cheating him/her all the time.

sex is only a need. Love is something else, even withou sex you can love someone, think about you're gf going handi-capped, etc. and you couldn't have sex, would you just watch porn and play with your hand? Or would you dump her?

losing self control = lacking it at the time. the people who piss me off the most are the ones who talk about cheating like it was a cool thing to do. listen, cheating (breaking trust and generally proving you're an un-reliable moron) has been going on since the dawn of time, hell even your fucking grandmother could've cheated. the fact that we're in 2005 doesn't mean shit, it doens't mean it's cool or something you should even fucking talk about. it's an embarrasment. listen. the fact that certain people strive for kissing or having sex with as many people as possible in my eyes only proves one thing. that you're a bad person, lacking and insecure. any moron can go out and find another moron to kiss or fuck. fucking anyone can do it if they lower themselves low enough. the real cool people are the ones who manage to respect and stay true to a partner, to respect a relationship enough to stay loyal. it's something i expect from people, but sadly alot of people aren't capable of returning that respect. hell, i can say honest to god that i don't look bad at all, yet i choose to go for that one person who feels right, i choose to walk down the street feeling good about myself exchanging looks with a girl who walks by, i choose to make an example out of the fact that simply because you can have alot of partners, doesn't mean you have to do it. matter of fact it's not cool at all. what the hell are you trying to compensate for? you can show me the best-looking girl in the world and make her available to me, if she's known for cheating i'll reject her in a second, and that i can say with my hand on my heart. so blue cut, as for your "needing comfort" and "can't say no" comments, you're better off finding a prostitute, because no person of dignity is gonna respect that pathetic excuse for broken trust.

not if you're dumb and lacking standards.

You know, if my gf would be caught cheating it would really hurt me bad and I think I couldn't forgive her.

If I'd cheated her, it would hurt me worse, but I wouldn't say anything and would do everything in my power to prevent it from happening again and I would live with the guilt.

If my friend would've cheated and he would tell me, I wouldn't tell his/her partner anything and I would understand shit just happens. I would also tell him/her to think hard on their relationship and decide is it really worth trying.

And yes, there are different reasons for cheating, I can't say I blame Jessica for what happened, Gunna_Girl01 didn't really cheat in my terms, and she does feel bad for almost cheating. If someone cheats because he doesn't have the guts to break up, well that's just pathetic.

Try watching things from a different angle. And if you've been cheated, it doesn't really have to be your fault, but ever wondered why?

lol @ "screwing up". what are you a dog? fuck you if you think your own sexual needs compensates for fucking over the person who's devoted his/her trust to you. you're a moron. this conversation is over. now go find a member of the opposite sex and brag to your friends about the contact you make, like it was some sort of an accomplishment.

Listen you pathetic piece of shit.
You obviously have your own narrow-minded aproach to this and lack the ability to see the wider picture.

I have never cheated. I've been cheated with. One thing leading to another, obviously something you can't understand.

Here's a tip, these things happen when having fun, outside of home, and the computer and the precious MSN.

I can't blame the girl, woman, involved, and I understand her reasons for it, also good thing is, that they could work things out.

I made her feel better for a while, and way worse on the morning, but it also lead into priorizing thing, and into realizing, something must be done, or their relationship won't work out.

that's bullshit. trust is the basis of any relationship. but like i said, "you pathetic piece of shit", this conversation is over. having multiple girlfriends was fun in grade school. i just feel sorry for people trying to compensate for that as adults.

Well, you'll see everything ain't so black and white when you grow up, pup

People make mistakes. It's has nothing to do with compensation. I've never cheated, so I can only guess the reasons behind it, maybe they just needed some good 'ol love bone, maybe they needed to be noticed.

Re-read "Mademoiselle aka Jessica"'s post and tell me do you think she's too a bitch like your ex who cheated on you.

And why do you think she cheated on you? Lots of fights, no sex, what?

not that it is any of your business but she turned out to be a person i never would've thought she could be, so in your own words, things aren't as black as white as you might think. no sex, what the fuck? i'm a dude, dude. and you started these insults, i was trying to keep things mature in here.

what insults? the "no sex"-part wasn't an insult, do 12-16 hour days a few months and you'll know ;)

What, you were being mature here? Where? How? You could read what posted to gunna_girl01 and you did call me a dog first.

Too bad about your ex, it must? hurt the most if a friend "steals" the girl away. I'd love to hear her story, though-

You know, life isn't " that" simple, if it were, there wouldn't be problems in our world.

In order to ditch someone, you have to have no feelings remain for that person or it means more problems.

Then, i couldn't have ditched him.

Simple as that.

Sex and love are two separates. That's a huge problem, i actually feel sorry for men, who have to deal with that all their lifes.

You talk out of hurt, but i can't say i personally broke trust when he cheated on me so many times that he would be very stupid to cry about me faulting once in 6 years when he has a habit of doing so and not even because he needs something he could get few trimes a day at home.

You seem like a very idealistical person, and that has some good, but you also talk like someone who refuses to see humanity like it is.

Nah, there's plenty of me to go around ?:hihi:

Just kidding, but it's tough doing two jobs + overtime, having two dogs, hobbies, friends AND a gf wanting sex at least thrice of four-times a week. I need sleep, too, don't I?. Good thing I'm soon letting go of the second job.

I know...

It's hard for everyone.

my girlfriend is across the ocean :(

so Mademoiselle Jessica, you say you would rather stay with the guy and cheat on him than actually leave him ?

I bet I know what you do when you see her next time ;)

So do you have an open relationship? When are you going to see her again?

No, you're trying to put words into my mouth.

yes, open a little wider :)


Blue Cut> we'll go shopping together when i'll see her again :)
i'll see her hopefully in september (she's gone since may 25th) ... and then when Ubi Soft send me to san fransisco or what ever .... :)
and i never cheated on her.  cause catherine zeta jones is already married :)

you lost alote of people here, if only the internet was physical, youd be fucked up >:(

go n' get laid n' leave ya hand alone, stop attackin' people........

Yeah, I'll wager if this conversation would've been in person someone would have a nosebleed..

ok you both stops usinf the f word, it's lame, how old are you ? 17 ???!!! ..... oh wait :)

so gunna_girl and august18th are in love ?

Here is a true learning experience for internet-users...
(http://img.villagephotos.com/p/2005-7/1047099/misc0004.jpg)
and that goes for you August 18. ;)

My best friend was cheating her 4 years gf with someone he knew recently but was only atracted by sex, cause he told me that her lover was really great at bed, the bad thing is that her 4years gf wasn't that good at sex and he was "confused" because he thinks he loves the 2 of them I really don't think that you can love 2 persons, I mean in this precise situation I think he just love the way he is compatible with the other girl in bed. Well if anyone have a similar situation what are your opinions, I always told him you stink for doing that kinda crap I hate when people cheats but as Bluecut said, I think he was  :-\, I dont know nothing about cheating cause I haven't been in the situation so maybe Im also a crapy man when the time comes to cheat so... I can't say too much

i already said that PICTURES-REPLIES are LAAAMMME ! sooo like totally lame !

I liked it :)

that's because you're on the picture ................. ooooooooooooo oooo oo !!! ... not funny :(

but atleast I won!  :hihi:

don't remember reading that one ass-wipe

nice reply Blue Cut :hihi:

I think it is time for one of you to pack up your toys and go home...sandbox doesn't seem big enough for both of you :hihi:

i didnt start this thread so that people can argue and shit....

isnt it funny how everyone wants to go out with you when you have a boyfriend!!
i have had heaps of guys asking me out and stuff hey.. they always do it when i have a boyfriend... they must have a six scense... they must feel it and think " i think she has a boyfriend and that turns me on... i want this chick"


i had to change my user name and shit cos i forgot my password... and the answer i put in for my secret question was wrong!!!

I WAS A ROCKER AND NOW IM BAK AT THE BEGINNING  :crying:

Did you tried to put your password without bloqnum??

I have just had sex with a woman.  She's not my wife.  I AM Married.  However... I left my wife a few weeks ago.  I still love my wife.  But we don't work as a couple anymore, and it's destroyed us.  So, I do understand the marriage and splitting and feelings thing.

I posted that reply cuz August 18 went too far slamming you, suddenly all what I read from her was "Fuck you slut, blah , blah , blah" like she always does dissing people's comments. She posts comments nowhere but in topics she's not interested in. How pathetic...

I posted that reply cuz August 18 went too far slamming you, suddenly all what I read from her was "Fuck you slut, blah , blah , blah" like she always does dissing people's comments. She posts comments nowhere but in topics she's not interested in. How pathetic...

who is she?

haha Good one  :rofl: :rofl: :rofl: :rofl:

spewing about the arguments... this could have been a good thread  :'(

i look at posts that i made on here two years ago and just sit in awe about how much i have grown up.. then again i was only 16-17 then...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LsHunqdRVcE

 :o

that poor woman.. if i ever caught my partner cheating on me my god, i would give him another hole to breath out of...

got some freaky fetishes goin on there too  :nervous:

Nice  :rofl:

If you're gonna get caught, do it in style and get two girls.

I pity cheaters.

End the current relationship if you want to sexify others.