Relationship Question

[leatherebel]

All women lie!
But it's all good as long as you don't love them....

you're single aren't you?

No, I'm gay. 

[*Timothy*]

All women lie!
But it's all good as long as you don't love them....

you're single aren't you?

No, I'm gay. 

And that men you aren't single?

[Jessica]

All women lie!
But it's all good as long as you don't love them....

you're single aren't you?

No, I'm gay.?

And men don't lie ?

How many married men ( married to women) happen to be in backrooms after they just made a call home to say they have a late afternoon meeting at work ? hmmm ?

[Axl4Prez2004]

but Jessica, they are men.  Remember, boys will be boys!  We have needs, remember?   Just kidding.

[GunnerOne 84]

So update. The girl and her boyfriend split up today. I knew something was up, she's been miss flirtatious the last 3 days towards me.

She's a little upset, and wants to talk about it.

Question is, how do I play this so I don't end up in the dreaded friend zone.

Show her this thread 

LOL she would think i was mentally unstable I think if I showed her this. We'll see what happens. Not waiting around forever ya know?

[D]

The friend zone isnt always bad though cause sometimes that shit develops into true feelings.

SO don't feel too horrible if u get in the friend zone


The trick is to not stay in the friend zone.

If u ever hang out with her and she starts talkin bout how hot this guy or that guy is, U ARE FUCKED


so be there for her but try to get out of the friend zone as quick as possible once she spills to u what happened with her former douchebag.

[fuckin crazy]

LOL she would think i was mentally unstable I think if I showed her this. We'll see what happens. Not waiting around forever ya know?

Dude, whiskey is your answer. Try it, if it doesn't work ... oh well. move on to the next; she didn't deserve such good company anyway.

[Sin Cut]

Just go for it.

Shit, it's not like getting a girl is  rocket science.

Here's what I did last weekend;
I saw a girl at a club, talked to her and v?ila she and her friend followed me home. And yes I did.

Not only that, but I also asked the waitress there when getting a beer, if she'd come over on saturday.

I left her sleeping at my place when I left for work. It turns out she has had a crush on me for some time. 

[SamBob]

i'm not sure if you're like... "serious" about this girl, but if you are, then be friends with her for a while, and if she decides to move on to some other guy AGAIN, then obviously, she doesn't know what she wants or something...

if you're not so serious and just want some booty, then go for it...

[GunnerOne 84]

i'm not sure if you're like... "serious" about this girl, but if you are, then be friends with her for a while, and if she decides to move on to some other guy AGAIN, then obviously, she doesn't know what she wants or something...

if you're not so serious and just want some booty, then go for it...

I really wasn't wanting anything serious anytime soon, but if I were to start something with this girl, I feel like I would be pretty serious, which is why I'm trying to watch myself here.

I'm all for just playing around, but I would go elsewhere for that. I would prefer not to treat this girl that way.

[GeorgeSteele]

I'm all for just playing around, but I would go elsewhere for that. I would prefer not to treat this girl that way.

This reminds me of how when you ask how many guys a girl has slept with, it's about 4-5, all serious relationships of course.? When you ask any guy, they're all up to triple digits.? It's as though there's a small group of a few hundred sluts floating around the world for all us guys to fuck, and the rest of the women are to bring home to mom when we're ready to settle down.

Believe it or not, but that 's not quite the reality.? All women have both sexual and emotional needs.? One guy's serious love interest was at one time (or rather several times) another guy's one night stand.? Guys who think otherwise are only setting themselves up for disappointment when the girl they've built up into the Virgin Mary inevitably hooks up with some random dude while out on a bender.

Bottom line, don't avoid trying to have sex with a girl just because you like her.? As crazy as it sounds, you're supposed to like the people you have sex with.

[SamBob]

I just think it would be better to actually get to know a girl you're serious about before doing anything rash like that... but maybe im wrong O.o?

[GunnerOne 84]

I'm all for just playing around, but I would go elsewhere for that. I would prefer not to treat this girl that way.

This reminds me of how when you ask how many guys a girl has slept with, it's about 4-5, all serious relationships of course.  When you ask any guy, they're all up to triple digits.  It's as though there's a small group of a few hundred sluts floating around the world for all us guys to fuck, and the rest of the women are to bring home to mom when we're ready to settle down.

Believe it or not, but that 's not quite the reality.  All women have both sexual and emotional needs.  One guy's serious love interest was at one time (or rather several times) another guy's one night stand.  Guys who think otherwise are only setting themselves up for disappointment when the girl they've built up into the Virgin Mary inevitably hooks up with some random dude while out on a bender.

Bottom line, don't avoid trying to have sex with a girl just because you like her.  As crazy as it sounds, you're supposed to like the people you have sex with.

I agree with a lot of what you said. I am not trying to build her up into an angel, she probably isn't. Either way I don't really care. However, it's been my experience that you usually dont get a 2nd crack at your one night stands, because that's all either person was really looking for. I'd prefer to not fuck my chances up to just have sex with her, I can get that anywhere.

[Sin Cut]

I'm all for just playing around, but I would go elsewhere for that. I would prefer not to treat this girl that way.

This reminds me of how when you ask how many guys a girl has slept with, it's about 4-5, all serious relationships of course.? When you ask any guy, they're all up to triple digits.? It's as though there's a small group of a few hundred sluts floating around the world for all us guys to fuck, and the rest of the women are to bring home to mom when we're ready to settle down.

Believe it or not, but that 's not quite the reality.? All women have both sexual and emotional needs.? One guy's serious love interest was at one time (or rather several times) another guy's one night stand.? Guys who think otherwise are only setting themselves up for disappointment when the girl they've built up into the Virgin Mary inevitably hooks up with some random dude while out on a bender.

Bottom line, don't avoid trying to have sex with a girl just because you like her.? As crazy as it sounds, you're supposed to like the people you have sex with.

I agree with a lot of what you said. I am not trying to build her up into an angel, she probably isn't. Either way I don't really care. However, it's been my experience that you usually dont get a 2nd crack at your one night stands, because that's all either person was really looking for. I'd prefer to not fuck my chances up to just have sex with her, I can get that anywhere.

Then again.. if you stay in the friends and not best buddies, it's relatively easy to push the extra mile to get.. well.. laid.

[GunnerOne 84]

Yet another question:

I got asked out by a girl I met about a week ago. She's very attractive, and seems to really have her shit together from what I can tell when we talk, which has become quite often.

She invited me to go ice skating out on the mall in DC at the outdoor rink they have there, I said yes because I'm into her and it doesn't sound half bad to me for a first date. She grew up figure skating, so she knows what she is doing, and I skated quite a bit growing up so it isn't as if I will like like an idiot here.

Just wondered if anyone had any tips for me on how to play this and not blow it. She's a pretty interesting girl and I'd like to see this go further if I could.

PS, the girl mentioned throughout this thread and I have become very good friends, which is cool. Just though I'd give everyone who helped me out there the final word on it.

Thanks.

[Axl4Prez2004]

GunnerOne84, here's my advice on how to play this.

don't play this.

I never understood the whole "game playing" deal.  Be yourself.  Get to know her and see if you have some things in common.  If it sounds like she has her sh!t together and you have the hotness as a bonus, what more could you ask for?

Signed,
Old Fuddy Duddy   

[Bandita]

It sounds cliche but why not just be yourself?

The thing about "playing" something is that more times than not you are playing a role that you may not really be.  If the girl asked you to do something she already likes you so just go with the flow!

Signed,

Miss Old Fuddy Duddy

[GunnerOne 84]

It sounds cliche but why not just be yourself?

The thing about "playing" something is that more times than not you are playing a role that you may not really be.  If the girl asked you to do something she already likes you so just go with the flow!

Signed,

Miss Old Fuddy Duddy

I don't plan on not being myself, I'm really not that good at acting differently than I am anyways. I'm just pretty nervous about going out with her, which is an uncommon thing for me to be with someone.

And we talk quite a bit now, we actually have a shitload of things in common, such as musical tastes, guitar playing, potential law students one day, she's really into history, which is my undergraduate major. So those things are nice.

Like I said, I'm a little out of my element here, and that can b a good thing. Just a tad shaky.

Thanks.

[Bandita]

I don't think you sound like you are out of your element at all, you sound like you have lots of common ground and things to talk about with each other.  Even if you appear nervous in some way, women kind of like that.  Too confident and we think you are some kind of player.  I always am nervous as hell when I start to date someone new (no, this doesn't go away with age!) and then over time as you get to know each other that totally goes away.

[GunnerOne 84]

Yeah we seem to have hit it off pretty well so far. I just didn't want to do anything stupid to mess it up. It's pretty rare that i meet anyone that matches so many interests of mine, let alone it being a girl i am attracted to. So it kind of jumped up the nervousness a little. I guess we'll see how it goes thursday.