situation

[Sin Cut]

So I've been having my more than usual dose of cigarets with my.. problem.

And a few shots of jack daniels.

My gf ended up over to this guy called Artzi when we hadn't dated for long. He had told her that I had left with another girl. She told me they had some kisses and that was it. So the next day we had a long talk with my best friend and her, my friend was giving some advice in the situation. So I decided to look how things go. The resons behind that was that she was hot and I had a score to settle with that guy and I was curious what she'll do.

And he kept trying her for months.

Then the night came I knew would come and we were having a fight 'cos Artzi had come to my table to talk shit about everyone. He did leave tho when I grabbed his neck the first time and took him down and told him to get. After that I told my gf I don't want her to talk with that guy.

She needed to clear some things up first.

When she didn't answer her phone, I went to have a look and found em talking. He was sitting too close. So I sat with them and listened to all his accusations of how I have a fetish to sleep with every girl he's been with and I pointed out why every girl wants a better man after they've been with him. I must've hit a soft spot, he picked a fight, and I told Ansku that we should leave. She wanted to talk something still thru.

I don't remember what Artzi said, but the next moment he was in full momentum towards the wall, slammed in while I was squeezing his throat and he was going down. I remember asking him to tell me when I'll stop, which was impossible since I was near crushing his adams apple. His expression went from scared to funny and he went pale. I let go and he was shaking (I don't remember that my friend filled me in). The bouncers came and I somehow managed to stay, and somehow managed to talk myself from not being thrown out.

Now my gf is crying/whatever at the ladies room and then the bar is closing and I'm leaving for her place figuring she'll come there.

Well, you propably guess.

I called her a million times and was smoking in her appartment when a girl called me hearing what's happened and wanted to see if I'm all right. I slept with her three hours later, figuring I'm doing what she's doing anyway.

Now I'll have to correct that it's the first time I've done cheating her, and in my book I even wasn't, after all when she didn't reply the millionth time I sent her a message wishing she got a good time and that it's over.

So the next day she's asking for forgiveness and told me they didn't do anything and I'm asking if she's sure and she says yes; she woke all her clothes on and she's having her period, which I all ready knew. Anyway I've had it but give in few days later when she buys me a rose and gives a self made card where she says she's sorry and that she loves me.

Everything went fine after that until..
you knew there would be an until, right?

On my b-day she ends up with that guy, who was pretty pissed off that he didn't get any this time either (this I knew few days later when I called for confirmation of my friends who are in touch with him too)
So she let me understand they did some, 'cos I didn't seem to love her, her words not mine.

This wass friday and on saturday I go to a party and take the prettiest girl home and do my stuff more than a few times and the next day too. Since I can't stand the thought what she did and 'cos that's what I do every time I break up with someone, I go serial with one night stands.

So today my ex-gf wanted to see me and I wanted to see if she feels bad, she did.

She says she mistook my behaviour that I didn't love her, I've been heavily stressed from work and was actually offered a long vacation from the doc since I can't sleep anymore and some other things. So I say no to the sick leave and yes to the pills she thought could help and they've helped me before. So now she's telling me she loves me and can't bear being without me, crying for hours. And all I'm wanting is a blowjob.

No seriously, I told I need to think about this, since what she did was.. well sick in my book, hurting me as bad as she could instead of having a talk. What I believe normal people would do in these kind of situations.

So I told her I could try, that we'll see with no strings attached to look if I can forgive her.
Or I think my real reasons is that I need to see her colors, since I won't be on her string.

And I told her also that if she sleeps with anyone this little try is over and that I'm not commited, she's fine with that and only wants a chance to prove me she really loves me.

So should I try?

Or tell her no?

[Axl4Prez2004]

Sin Cut, oh man, you really do lead an interesting life.  I think you've got to start looking ahead before you do some of the things you are doing.  Set some rules up maybe. 

1:  No hitting other people under any circumstances other than self-defense.
   (one exception for ya, if someone insults your woman, you can smack 'em)

2:  Try to stick/stick to one woman at a time.  Monogamy's a wonderful thing.

3:  Try to limit the amount of cigs and Jack Daniels...that will give you many more years on this planet you can enjoy once you've outgrown this wild phase!    

Old man advice from Delaware, USA!   btw, I do enjoy your posts.     You'd be a blast to hang out with before/during/after a GNR show!   

[Sin Cut]

Sin Cut, oh man, you really do lead an interesting life.? I think you've got to start looking ahead before you do some of the things you are doing.? Set some rules up maybe.?

1:? No hitting other people under any circumstances other than self-defense.
? ?(one exception for ya, if someone insults your woman, you can smack 'em)

2:? Try to stick/stick to one woman at a time.? Monogamy's a wonderful thing.

3:? Try to limit the amount of cigs and Jack Daniels...that will give you many more years on this planet you can enjoy once you've outgrown this wild phase!? ??

Old man advice from Delaware, USA!? ?btw, I do enjoy your posts.? ?? You'd be a blast to hang out with before/during/after a GNR show!? ?

Hey thanks for the advice, tho I was kinda hoping something about to take her back or not.

1. You're right with the hitting people that's why I only strangled?

I was once with my friend outside on our way from a club and this foreigner is shouting to a girl, so we go to see that things don't get out of hands, so that guy starts to call us racist and sudenly there's ten of them, we start walking away and he shout's we're cowards and that he'll kill us, so I turn and tell him to bring it on and few of them attack my friend the bigmouth tho comes in with a big right straight, so I take small step right and stop his momentum with a right cross and he goes down for the count. Then I'm arrested two seconds later and he presses charges.

2. sound's good, I tried untill she screwed up... I just hate being alone, and now I got two girls wanting me, which makes things complicated. My ex called this morning begging me back. It's 8:23 am. here.

3. Don't worry, I've been cutting down cigs and I took the jack 'cos I was just feeling troubled.

Thanks again for the compliments, and let's hope there will be shows this year?

[D]

Im gonna be honest with u dude whether u truly want to hear this or not but:


Sometimes things happen that are unrepairable.




I think it would be extremely hard for u and her to get over what has happened.  U will get back together but things just wont ever be the same. Once someone cheats on u, it is damn near impossible to ever regain the trust and love u had for that person cause the whole time u are with them all u will think about is what they did to u.



I tried to get back with an Ex that cheated on me once and I kissed her and almost threw up afterwards. I ended things forever then and there cause sometimes there is just no going back.


U have to make a choice:

1. U want a girlfriend

2. U want to be single


U cant have it both ways

If u are with a girl ucant act  like uare single and u have to give your entire self to the girl u are with.


If u cheated on her then u really have no right to be mad or say anything about her cheating on u.


So think of what kind of life u want.

Do u want to be a hell raising party animal that fucks a different chick every weekend?

Or do u want to be happily monogamously in love with one person and live the committed lifestyle?


U can take her back, worse thing that can happen is u realize u dont want to be with her, I personally co uldnt do it. If a girl cheats on me that is it cause chances are if somebody does it once, they will do it again and u save yourself a shit load of misery and heartbreak in the end.

[Sin Cut]

Im gonna be honest with u dude whether u truly want to hear this or not but:


Sometimes things happen that are unrepairable.

U cant have it both ways

If u are with a girl ucant act  like uare single and u have to give your entire self to the girl u are with.

If u cheated on her then u really have no right to be mad or say anything about her cheating on u.

So think of what kind of life u want.

Do u want to be a hell raising party animal that fucks a different chick every weekend?

Or do u want to be happily monogamously in love with one person and live the committed lifestyle?

U can take her back, worse thing that can happen is u realize u dont want to be with her, I personally co uldnt do it. If a girl cheats on me that is it cause chances are if somebody does it once, they will do it again and u save yourself a shit load of misery and heartbreak in the end.

Thanks for the input D.

That's a big problem, the difficulty to repair this, I can't let her walk over my pride.

And in this case I do got an option to see her and still be single.

I don't feel like I need to make a choice between scoring girls and not, since if this can be repaired and when/if I feel like there something to work from the scoring others will just stop.

Last night I told her I needed some time alone. And I also told her I feel like we'll be in this situatuon soon enough. Now she did call me this morning wanting to meet, I told her if she's behind my door I let her in.

Here's a message she sent me last night
"I thought you didn't care and made wrong conclusions and actions. I regret it.If we just could start anew and would get to know each other again. I have a strong feeling and belief that if we tried everything would be different and a lot better. I'm waiting for you, if we just take small steps.. you will see that I'm a better person. I'm waiting for you."

So if I do take her back, or tell her no, I hope which way I do that it ain't something I'll come to regret.

[D]

Well a great thing out of all this is, If u do take her back the ball and control will definitely be in your court.

If she has a friend or two u dont like her hanging around, U now have the ability to tell her to stop.


This can definitely work out if u are able to forgive. So assess your ability to forgive.  If u dont think u can 100 percent, then I wouldnt get back with her, If u honestly feel u can work through it *i have tons of friends who have* then go for it.

U basically have nothing to lose, I mean if it doesnt work out u are just gonna be in the same boat u are in now.

So I say give it a shot since u have strong feelings for her and maybe she will make u happy u did.

[Sin Cut]

nothing to lose but my pride, moreso if she treats me like this again.

About my feelings, well hugging her did give me a sad feeling and having sex with this other girl didn't feel that much.