Oh. Fuck!!

[Elrothiel]

Aww thanks babe... I don't think I can cry anymore though... its just so weird, not having him around anymore, I can't hug up to him, I don't have him to snuggle up to on the sofa anymore, I can't go to the cinema with him anymore, I can't get woken up by him bringing me a cup of coffee and kissing my back... I can't do any of those things anymore... I have to sleep alone and rely on a pillow to hug... which isn't the same... *le sigh de grande*

I'm so glad I have you guys to give me advice and cyber-hugs... you're all really lovely people and I'm so grateful to know you all! I wish there was a cute li'l hugging emoticon so I could use it to hug each and every one of you seeing as I can't do it in person... (wish I could though)...

I think I'll be OK... I just gotta concentrate on other stuff...

[Drew]

Keep your head up. Things will get better for you in no time. And you'll forget about him. Great time to go out and meet new people. Don't keep yourself in feeling low.

[anythinggoes]

Nice try Pasnow, but you don't even know where I live...

he doesnt but remember who your stalker is

Seriously sorry to hear that hope you get over it soon your still young and yes weve all seen your pictures and you are attractive Mr Right is somewhere have fun finding him.

[sneeks]

Turns out you were right... I shoulda listened to you dude, he said that he didn't want that because he just didn't want the pressure... apparantly he just wants to cut it off instead of causing each other more pain... I guess I should wait for him to come up with the ideas...

Hey babe

I'm sorry to have to say it but I think he's trying to be as nice as possible about ending the relationship and will more than likely not suggest any ideas of his own I think it's also wrong of him to even suggest the idea that you and him may get back together in the future as all that is doing is promoting false hope for you. It's not easy but slowly move on with your life and find happiness again with someone else. Don't put your life on hold waiting for him as it may never happen.

Best of luck 

Sneeks

[Elrothiel]

Turns out you were right... I shoulda listened to you dude, he said that he didn't want that because he just didn't want the pressure... apparantly he just wants to cut it off instead of causing each other more pain... I guess I should wait for him to come up with the ideas...

Hey babe

I'm sorry to have to say it but I think he's trying to be as nice as possible about ending the relationship and will more than likely not suggest any ideas of his own I think it's also wrong of him to even suggest the idea that you and him may get back together in the future as all that is doing is promoting false hope for you. It's not easy but slowly move on with your life and find happiness again with someone else. Don't put your life on hold waiting for him as it may never happen.

Best of luck

Sneeks

Aww Sneeks thanks buddy! *hug* I know what you're sayin'... and I'm not gunna put my life on hold for him... that would just be stupid... I just gotta try and stay positive through this and concentrate on other stuff.

[sneeks]

Turns out you were right... I shoulda listened to you dude, he said that he didn't want that because he just didn't want the pressure... apparantly he just wants to cut it off instead of causing each other more pain... I guess I should wait for him to come up with the ideas...

Hey babe

I'm sorry to have to say it but I think he's trying to be as nice as possible about ending the relationship and will more than likely not suggest any ideas of his own I think it's also wrong of him to even suggest the idea that you and him may get back together in the future as all that is doing is promoting false hope for you. It's not easy but slowly move on with your life and find happiness again with someone else. Don't put your life on hold waiting for him as it may never happen.

Best of luck

Sneeks

Aww Sneeks thanks buddy! *hug* I know what you're sayin'... and I'm not gunna put my life on hold for him... that would just be stupid... I just gotta try and stay positive through this and concentrate on other stuff.

You are sounding very positive so that's a great thing. Keep a good network of friends around you and most importantly have plenty of laughs. Take some time away from relationships to sort your head out and then venture into the big bad world again The general opinion on reading this thread is that you are one hot gal so I'm sure you'll not struggle to find someone new when the time is right

 

Sneeks

[Elrothiel]

Turns out you were right... I shoulda listened to you dude, he said that he didn't want that because he just didn't want the pressure... apparantly he just wants to cut it off instead of causing each other more pain... I guess I should wait for him to come up with the ideas...

Hey babe

I'm sorry to have to say it but I think he's trying to be as nice as possible about ending the relationship and will more than likely not suggest any ideas of his own I think it's also wrong of him to even suggest the idea that you and him may get back together in the future as all that is doing is promoting false hope for you. It's not easy but slowly move on with your life and find happiness again with someone else. Don't put your life on hold waiting for him as it may never happen.

Best of luck

Sneeks

Aww Sneeks thanks buddy! *hug* I know what you're sayin'... and I'm not gunna put my life on hold for him... that would just be stupid... I just gotta try and stay positive through this and concentrate on other stuff.

You are sounding very positive so that's a great thing. Keep a good network of friends around you and most importantly have plenty of laughs. Take some time away from relationships to sort your head out and then venture into the big bad world again The general opinion on reading this thread is that you are one hot gal so I'm sure you'll not struggle to find someone new when the time is right

 

Sneeks

Yea I'm insanely positive... I actually feel a bit guilty about being so positive... I feel like I SHOULD be crying and screaming and throwing things and snapping at everyone and ripping things up and getting drunk off my ass, and all that... but I'm not... I've cried a lot, but its not constant... but I've not been doing any of that... I've actually just been very calm and trying to keep my head together.

Thanks loads and loads for your advice!! I really don't want to get into another relationship right now... I just want to be able to enjoy myself and not be upset and be able to be friends with him without getting all emotional...

[sneeks]

Continue how you are and you will be doing great. You'll have good and bad moments but I'm confident you'll be fine Have a collective hug from all of us that have shown support to you in this thread during the times you feel like crying.

There is no set way that you should behave and we all deal with things in our own way so don't feel guilty

 

Sneeks

[Elrothiel]

Aww thanks dude! You're right that I'll have good and bad moments... and that I'll be fine. I know I will. I think its times like these when I'm grateful I don't have any mental illnesses... when if I did, a thing like this would cast me into a deep chasm of depression and anguish, when because I don't, I'm just kinda holding onto a rope and pulling myself up, and the further I get up the rope it turns into a ladder and it gets easier...

Thanks though Sneeks, you're lovely!

[sneeks]

My pleasure honey. Now go enjoy yourself and lots.

 

Sneeks

[Elrothiel]

Update....

Well... in the past week me and him have been talking every day, and yesterday while I was at the cinema he sent me a text saying "Damn how can I live without my soulmate!? xxxxxxxxx" and we had a conversation when I got home and the whole thing was seeming as if he wanted to get back with me. He was saying how much he loved me, and said I was right about the reason we broke up (because we got complacent and spent too much time with each other) and that he would love to get back with me. BUT... then tonight it kinda all changed... we had a lovely conversation at first, but then it all went downhill... he was saying that "I don't think we're compatible because its not JUST that we got complacent" and then saying that I was too immature, and that instead of having Gn'R posters up in my room, I should have posters of Jenna Jameson and Jill Kelly to show that I have "female idols" and that I "look up to strong women". and that I'm a tomboy... which is fucked up because I'm so not like that! He said he wants someone more "girly". AND then he started slating Axl, saying that he's an asshole and that I'm stupid for being a fan...
All of his "demands" were fucking shallow and selfish as fuck. As much as it killed me to say it, I said that I couldn't be with someone who expected me to not be who I am, not like who I like, not wear what I wear, not have my room the way it is!
I'm not going to be a doormat and bow to his every whim. He said "Yea girls can be rock n' roll, but do it in a sexy way, like Pamela Anderson, not the way you do it, which is sad and pathetic". Fucker!! I don't mean to sound conceited here, but I must be mistaken if you guys think I'm sad and pathetic.

I really love him, but he can really be such an asshole sometimes! Its just the rest of the time when he's not being an asshole, he's really the sweetest and most loving man in the world... but even so... I don't think I can get back with him... its too hard and I can't cope with trying to keep up to his almost impossible standards!

[Elrothiel]

That's the thing, he DOES love me. He's just incredibly selfish, and he knows it. I said that I really hope he can learn to see past the shallow material things, and the fact that NO, I'm NOT perfect, and just love me for who I am.

He just gets in moods like this sometimes... I've heard it all before, but these moods occur about 5% of the time, and the other 95% is wonderful!

... I think I must be a love addict, because even after these mood swings, I still keep comin' on back for more... I'm not stupid, I realize that there's gotta be something weirdly and freakishly wrong with me because if there wasn't, I wouldn't stay! I wouldn't want to be with him, I wouldn't love him as much as I do!

[Elrothiel]

I said that already. He said he wants someone without any foibles... He's gunna be lookin' for a VEEEERY long time to find someone like that... and when he does he won't like her because she won't have a personality... or she'll be ugly as sin or a complete bitch... and then he'll come crying back to me saying "I'm so sorry, you were right, I love you so much you are the best and always will be and I'm sorry I was ever horrid to you!... etc" ... and I suppose I will be there for him because even if I'm not with him, I still love him and he'll always be my best friend.

[Elrothiel]

Yup Evo. That's what I think! He doesn't though... and it makes me feel bad for him cuz I know he won't be truly happy with anyone because they won't ever be perfect enough for him...

He's said to me that I'm his soulmate and that he really fuckin' loves me and that I'm the best girlfriend he's ever and will ever have, and I'm number one and all that... that's when he ain't in one of his moods... I think you can see how it'd be so easy to get sidetracked when you're getting thoughts like that being shoved in your mind... and then later hearing things like "we're not compatible, you're too young for me, I want someone who doesn't have posters on their wall, I want someone who doesn't dress the way you dress... yadda yadda yadda..." THEN you feel the way I feel... completely fucking ripped in half. One half of me wants to desperately get back with him, but the other half of me is saying not to because I'll just be being a doormat and not going for what *I* want... but at the same time I really really really feel for him and I want to look after him and make sure he's OK.

... arrrrgh break ups SUCK FUCKING ARSEHOLE!!!!

And yea I know Sterling...

[journey]

Update....

and then saying that I was too immature, and that instead of having Gn'R posters up in my room, I should have posters of Jenna Jameson and Jill Kelly to show that I have "female idols" and that I "look up to strong women".

Well at least he has his sense of humor. Seriously, that's kind of crazy. ha

There's absolutely nothing wrong with how you are. Don't change. You should be appreciated in your entirety in love and in friendships.

[Chelle]

I'm so sorry, Skelly.  And I'm shitty writing this by the wa.y.. but someone in a relaionshnip with  you has to accept your flaws or quirks or whatever the fuclk you wanna call them.  Don't change who you are.  You're adorable... who wants to be fucking Pam Anderson??   

[Shirell]

Be who you are, its the only path to true happiness

[Elrothiel]

Aww thanks guys... you rock! *hug*

You're all right, and I am not changing who I am for anyone. If they can't accept me as the person I am and can't see past the little annoying quirks... well, that's their loss isn't it, and they'll realize they have to quit being so shallow. No one is perfect, and someone's standards shouldn't be SO high that they find it almost impossible to accept anyone with imperfections.

[MCT]

Aww thanks guys... you rock! *hug*

You're all right, and I am not changing who I am for anyone. If they can't accept me as the person I am and can't see past the little annoying quirks... well, that's their loss isn't it, and they'll realize they have to quit being so shallow. No one is perfect, and someone's standards shouldn't be SO high that they find it almost impossible to accept anyone with imperfections.

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