My husband is a lying cheat

[Elrothiel]

Aww hun! *big hug*

What a FUCKING CUNT he is! Jeez, the nerve of him! Fucking press all the charges on him that you possibly can, get him chucked in a jail cell with a bunch of randy butch gay men, and THROW AWAY THE KEY!

And wasn't it last month that he told you he wanted to have another baby with you... what a fucking hypocritical CUNT! Cheating on you and having the fucking gall to want to bring a child into that!! CUNT! FUCKING CUNT!

And then beating you? FOR WHAT!? You didn't do anything except perfectly reasonably get very upset! And giving you ROSES? WTF!!? Nah, if he really felt guilty he'd have given you a gun and told you to bust his head wide open!

He sounds like a real nasty piece of work and needs to be tortured Hostel style!

I'm real sorry to hear about this PTU, you're way too good for that motherfucking asshole!

Don't cry any more over that worthless piece of shit because he ain't worth it one fucking bit! You deserve so much better!

I know its hard, but pick yourself up, get out there and make the most of being single again! And sell your engagement and wedding rings for as much as you fuckin' can!

And hey, you won't ever have to do his dirty laundry again!

Cheating men deserve their comeuppance, and he'll get his, just you wait n' see!

[axl_rose_700]

Aww hun! *big hug*

What a FUCKING CUNT he is! Jeez, the nerve of him! Fucking press all the charges on him that you possibly can, get him chucked in a jail cell with a bunch of randy butch gay men, and THROW AWAY THE KEY!

And wasn't it last month that he told you he wanted to have another baby with you... what a fucking hypocritical CUNT! Cheating on you and having the fucking gall to want to bring a child into that!! CUNT! FUCKING CUNT!

And then beating you? FOR WHAT!? You didn't do anything except perfectly reasonably get very upset! And giving you ROSES? WTF!!? Nah, if he really felt guilty he'd have given you a gun and told you to bust his head wide open!

He sounds like a real nasty piece of work and needs to be tortured Hostel style!

I'm real sorry to hear about this PTU, you're way too good for that motherfucking asshole!

Don't cry any more over that worthless piece of shit because he ain't worth it one fucking bit! You deserve so much better!

I know its hard, but pick yourself up, get out there and make the most of being single again! And sell your engagement and wedding rings for as much as you fuckin' can!

And hey, you won't ever have to do his dirty laundry again!

Cheating men deserve their comeuppance, and he'll get his, just you wait n' see!

Couldn't have said it better!

Seriously press charges on the nobhead and get him banged up

[jabba2]

This guy sounds like a dirtbag no offense. i would leave him if its not the first time hes been a fuckup.

[Jessica]

God I cant stop crying!!  I wanna kill him.  You should have seen the pic of this woman.  She's a fat, ugly sow!  I dont get it.  I just don't understand any of this at all.

a french womanly say goes " men never cheat for better" 

I have stayed through cheating. Eventually, i lost respect. To me, trust is not based on sex in a relationship, it's based on many many things you share with a partner, like :

you trust he'd stand by you if you lost your job, were sick,...
You trust in his ability to do his financial half
you trust in him being kind to you ( even if he cheats, some men stay kind and loving, mine never did)
you trust his judgment

bla bla bla..

see what i mean ?

If your husband is away, he probably ( like a lot of men) likes his food served, having someone caring for him as he is used to, free easily ready sex, someone to talk to, etc etc.

Do you feel threatened in your relationship ?

If you hadn't found the picture, would you have noticed an attitude change towards you or not ?

There is no easy answer. And it's very personal. But there are questions and only you can have both the questions and the answers.

But i'll just say two important things :

Have him STD and STI tested or use condoms for now ( just in case)

No man should slap you. EVER. Especially if his behaviour put you in such an emotional distress.  As Aniston says " he lacks the sensitivity chip".

[Jessica]

Thanks for all the support, it is really appreciated.  I've just finished work and shut the salon door after the day from hell. He came round to my salon at lunchtime and demanded that I speak to him.  Of course I had a salon full of clients so I took him out the back when he started shouting.  He said I'm being unreasonable!  Can you believe the cheek of it.  He said I'm being irrational and that he was going to tell her they were finished and had intended to do that anyway.  So the bastards had half the day but still hasnt made THAT call.  I told him I need some time and that I'm going to my mums (my son is already there) for a couple of days and that I think he ought to move out while I have the time I need.  The bastard lost it, grabbed me by the throat and banged my head of the wall.  I'm not very big you know I'm only a size 6/8 english size and he is 6 feet 3 and weighs 18 stone, like I can really defend myself against him.  While I was down on the floor he kicked me twice and now I'm covered in bruises.  The icing on this particular cake is that, this afternoon he sent me a dozen roses!  As if I want his fucking roses!!!!!!!!
Sorry about the swearing, I'm just really upset right now.  Once again, thanks for all the support, it means a lot.LOL

Oops, hadn't read this bit

LEAVE

NOW

[Chelle]

Pretty Tied Up,
I'm so sorry. ?His behavior is appauling and totally unacceptable. ?There is absolutely no excuse for his violence toward you. ?Get out now. ?I'm concerned for your safety. ?Fucking unforgivable. ?I hope you press charges and lock his fucking ass in jail. ?Let him see how it fucking feels to get the shit kicked out of you. ?Piece of shit... ?

I'm sorry you're sad baby. ?Hope everything works out for you. ?

[MeanBone]

i think u should go to the cops. report his abuse, get him arrested, get the best lawyer u can possibly get, get a divorce, remove his kid away from him, get all the money his has, and leave him left for dead, without money, family, anything. that will show him to get his priorities str8, and most of all, not to beat up innocent women.
hang in there.
and give him hell to pay!

[Sin Cut]

Pretty Tied Up,
I'm so sorry.  His behavior is appauling and totally unacceptable.  There is absolutely no excuse for his violence toward you.  Get out now.  I'm concerned for your safety.  Fucking unforgivable.  I hope you press charges and lock his fucking ass in jail.  Let him see how it fucking feels to get the shit kicked out of you.  Piece of shit... 

I'm sorry you're sad baby.  Hope everything works out for you. 

it's not like you get to jail from that.. but sure he'll get to pay a decent amount of green.

[Shirell]

Thanks for all the messages and support.  This weekend has been hell.  I got kept in hospital overnight Saturday night cause it just got so much worse.  I didnt get to close the door on my salon, he came from around the corner and shoved me back through the door.  He locked the door and it all got real nasty.  The cops arrested him and charged him with actual bodily harm, thats for breaking two of my fingers and cracking a couple of ribs.  Apparently though they are not going to charge him with rape because we are married.  He's been cautioned to stay away from me, its a condition of his bail.  I cant stop shaking.  I know this makes me sound like such a coward but I'm still in shock and I cant stop what happened running through my head.  I've got an appointment with a lawyer tommorrow, I'm definitely getting a divorce.  I cant live like this, I'm sick of being frightened of his moods and what he will do if I disagree with him or try and think for myself.  Even my stepson supports my leaving him.  He wants to come and live with me.

[slashisvr]

gutted for ya PT

hey got a spare VIP ticket then???

[sneeks]

yea he defintley doesnt deserve you. leave him for a while, and only if you want to, try to work things out. dont work things out only if hes the one that wants to. im sorry about all this it sucks. i hope things work out for you, good luck!

You MUPPET!  Don't tell her to try and work it out!  She should leave him full stop!

I totally agree, leave him and don't look back. As for the police saying they will not charge him with rape cause he is your husband then that is bullshit. Demand they press charges for that and if they refuse then file an official complaint. Domestic rape is a offence that can go to court.

[Sin Cut]

Thanks for all the messages and support.  This weekend has been hell.  I got kept in hospital overnight Saturday night cause it just got so much worse.  I didnt get to close the door on my salon, he came from around the corner and shoved me back through the door.  He locked the door and it all got real nasty.  The cops arrested him and charged him with actual bodily harm, thats for breaking two of my fingers and cracking a couple of ribs.  Apparently though they are not going to charge him with rape because we are married.  He's been cautioned to stay away from me, its a condition of his bail.  I cant stop shaking.  I know this makes me sound like such a coward but I'm still in shock and I cant stop what happened running through my head.  I've got an appointment with a lawyer tommorrow, I'm definitely getting a divorce.  I cant live like this, I'm sick of being frightened of his moods and what he will do if I disagree with him or try and think for myself.  Even my stepson supports my leaving him.  He wants to come and live with me.

he did what?

break two fingers?

I don't what to say, some dogs should be shot.

I hope he got the same cell with that big guy called "Sex machine"

[Axl4Prez2004]

Thanks for all the messages and support.? This weekend has been hell.? I got kept in hospital overnight Saturday night cause it just got so much worse.? I didnt get to close the door on my salon, he came from around the corner and shoved me back through the door.? He locked the door and it all got real nasty.? The cops arrested him and charged him with actual bodily harm, thats for breaking two of my fingers and cracking a couple of ribs.? Apparently though they are not going to charge him with rape because we are married.? He's been cautioned to stay away from me, its a condition of his bail.? I cant stop shaking.? I know this makes me sound like such a coward but I'm still in shock and I cant stop what happened running through my head.? I've got an appointment with a lawyer tommorrow, I'm definitely getting a divorce.? I cant live like this, I'm sick of being frightened of his moods and what he will do if I disagree with him or try and think for myself.? Even my stepson supports my leaving him.? He wants to come and live with me.

Not to be callous or anything...but you own a salon and he broke your fingers.  Find a good lawyer and get every fucking dime this dirtbag has!   

Because you're married, it's not rape?  Do you live under the Taliban??  I thought you were in England.  I'm in the U.S. and I'm pretty damn sure a husband is not allowed to rape his wife.

This man needs to be in jail.

[noonespecial]

well now you can definitely get a restraining order...and I'd also start carrying some pepper spray or some kind self defense (that's legal) I wouldn't go the gun route because, that could always backfire (no pun intended)...I wouldn't worry so much about money at this point, I'm not even sure what that has to do with anything--You obviously are an intelligent woman capable of supporting herself and does not need the psychotic dollars of another person (although he should be accountable for the medical bills--they recorded pics of your injuries rights? Your lawyer made sure of that right?)...your husband is obviously very scared and in denial....it's great you have your mom to go to, a good support system is a must.
You need to worry about you and you need to make sure that any communication done between you and your husband has to occur in a public place and\or a lawyer or someone should be present, don't let him take you "in the back" anymore...get one of the ladies at the shop to cover your back...you don't have to let everybody who works there know your business (people love to flap their gums when it comes to other people's drama) just pick someone you trust.
This is going to be really hard for you because from the outside looking in, this doesn't sound like this is your husbands first demonstation of caveman mentality. It sounds like he is used to running the roost...and now that you are standing up for yourself, he is scared shitless...he doesn't have the control and he does not like it...You really need to push for some sort of court ordered support even after the divorce...don't let people play down the violence that he has done to you...you deserve your life back!!!! You don't want to be living in fear after you get your new flat and he's driving 'round your neighborhood, or coming onto your job...you deserve your life back!!!

[sjgotnitro]

You know I just read this whole thread that dude nees to be put to sleep.

 Sorry for your suffering.

All I can say is get a divorce quick and make him pay. Press all teh charges you can and stay away from him, he is dangerous you do not need to be hurt anymore.

I trully wish I had the money to fly over there and pay him a visit. I liked to beat the fucking snot out of him.

Sorry 

[Elrothiel]

He actually fucking broke two of your fingers and cracked ribs?

I say you should DEMAND that he be charged with rape. Who gives a shit if you two are married, he fuckin' cheated on you and beat n' raped you, and what's to say he won't do it to some other chick!?

[mallrat]

Prettytiedup I wish I could give you a hug girl .


You are doing the rith thing by getting rid of his ass . And he need his fucking ass beating to with an inch of his life for the shit he has done to you .

[Shirell]

I've had a couple of hours kip and feeling a lot more human now. ?I gotta say though there isn't one spot on me that doesnt hurt or ache. ?Slashisvr, sorry bud, I'm keeping the tickets. ?I'm taking my son to the NEC. ?My sister who is a health visitor came and taped my ribs for me, it's really eased the pain and helped my breathing. ?The hospital gave me some painkillers but they are not helping much as they are quite mild. ?They did a pregnancy test on me on Saturday before they x-rayed me and it came back positive so, no strong pain killers for me. ?I didnt want another baby but I can't think about that now. ?I've given my London ticket to my stepsons mate. ?I dont think I can travel to London. ?I know it may sound crazy but I just want to forget about everything that has happened. ?I don't want to have to rake over the terrible things he did to me on Saturday. ?It was so humiliating at the hospital, having photos taken of me that were to say the least extremely personal. ?Shit, I model part time and am pretty used to nudity but not THAT close up if you know what I mean. ?My mums staying with me so I think I'll be okay for now. ?I've told my girls who work for me I'm taking a couple of weeks off and they will run things. ?I just want to get my divorce rolling and get him out of my fucking life. ?The police say it is my word against his that he raped me. ?He claims that we had consentual sex at the salon then we started arguing and it escallated into a fight. ?He knows that it's not true. ?He could have no doubt about that at all, I was screaming no and fighting him for all I was worth. ?That is not consent but I can't prove what happened. ?So I'll have to settle for the assault charge, it's better than nothing. ?

[Jessica]

if it were my family ( although we do not always get on) and if that had happened to me, my mother would have made sure my " husband" encountered a heavy door and accidentally broke both his legs.


Have you got any brothers ?

[Lara]

Let me get that straight....

You are pregnant now?