Am I pathetic or what?

[misterID]

Dude, come on, either you're completely and utterly depressed, which you need to go back to your doctor and fix the meds or just talk, or you're just wanting attention. This thread is 4 pages long all ready....

It should just turn into the universal depression thread led by our leader Rocksteady?

There were a couple posts here that made want to jump out of a window... Not a window on a tall buidling, but more of a window of a car parked over soft sand... With scantly clad women all around... And a flowing fountain of tequila... 

[$$$$]

Basically from what I have read your only real problem is a giant lack of self confidence. Everytime someone suggests something, you bring something else up. It seems like you are just looking for reassurance on everything or someone to tell you that everything is going to be fine. Go talk to a counceler dude seriously. Before you can begin fixing things in your life you need to get some things sorted out mentally first.

[Chelle]

Honestly.? Your attitude sucks.?

You didn't come here looking for advice or to better yourself in any way.? You started this shitty little thread in the hopes of gaining more pity and attention from others.? People have taken the time to respond to you with positive advice and encouragement.? But you're not the least bit grateful for their concern, and you apparently have no desire to heed their advice or even try to be happy with yourself!?

 Feeling sorry for someone who feels so much self-pity is impossible...

[Rocksteady]

Yes I am depressed. And yes I whine alot. Here's anoter thing that I am gonna whine about....  Those bitch ass headaches (huge and last for hours) that I have  back when I was still in school I used to have them everyday now about two times a week.
But the most frustrting thing is that sometimes my left halfh goes almost completely senseless. My left arm and leg go numb, also the left half of my face and the left eye so I can't see for shit with it( all is fuzzy and really blurry). Plus the most horrible thing is that I can't speak well during this, I know what I am trying to say but I don't remember the words or I mess them up so I look and sound like a retard (I think it's cause my left half of the brain doesn't function properly during this). It usually goes away after drinking a lot of magnesium and taking some sedatives. Doctors have said that it has something to do with my nerves.

[Sin Cut]

Something to do with nerves, eh?

Well is it a panic attack or like something shortcircuiting in your brain?

That doesn't sound much fun tho.

Btw, I hate when people use the faults in them as an excuse.

All you do is come with reason why you can't do this or that, when you only need one reason why you can.

[Rocksteady]

I don't know what it exactly is but it doesn't feel good    What really gets me mad is when people say that I have made that up. Some fucked up doctor said "clearly the boy is faking it, he doesn't want to go to school"    How the hell do you fake this kinda thing anyway?

[Jessica]

I have migraines, and i used to have convulsions too.

Most linked to the nervous system. i do have panick attacks ( rarely now), suffer from claustrophobia, agoraphobia and some paranoia.

Best advise is GO AND SEE SOMEONE.

Can't you see your inertness is damaging your you and your future ?

You are going to devellop fears, they will be there, strongly rooted, before you even realise it.

It takes little time to fuck up and YEARS of therapy to feel a little better later on in life.

You're young, obviously strongly depressed ( not doing a thing, not being able to and complaining is asking for help because you don't know how to help yourself) but you have to give yourself little goals to achieve :

1) find something positive each morning, things as little or silly as to hear birds sing or a sunny day
2) every day, list 1 quality of yours on paper
3) dress a list of what you want to become and how you can do this in a pure logical ational manner ( if you want muscle, go to the gym, if you don't have money to go to the gym, find a little after svhool job that'll pay for it, if you don't find strengh to find a job, at least make sure you always buy the paper until you are ready to, etc etc)
4) try to hang around older people ADULTS, they will be interested in you as a person and it'll boost your self confidence. Young people are often idiots and intellectually, you probably have nothing to gain in becoming like them anyway.

[Where is Hassan Nasrallah ?]

i'm doing fine.
didnt get a big breakfast this morning tho, that sucks

but it's lunch time now i'm gonna eat like a pig.

[DeN]

I have migraines, and i used to have convulsions too.

you need a good massage. 

[Where is Hassan Nasrallah ?]

I have migraines, and i used to have convulsions too.

you need a good massage. 

you go DeN ! go get her !!!


ps: dont forget the camera.

[Jessica]

I have migraines, and i used to have convulsions too.

you need a good massage. 

oh bless, this i need...

[SuperMike]

Honestly.? Your attitude sucks.?

You didn't come here looking for advice or to better yourself in any way.? You started this shitty little thread in the hopes of gaining more pity and attention from others.? People have taken the time to respond to you with positive advice and encouragement.? But you're not the least bit grateful for their concern, and you apparently have no desire to heed their advice or even try to be happy with yourself!?

 Feeling sorry for someone who feels so much self-pity is impossible...

Oh my . . .?

[Elrothiel]

Honestly.  Your attitude sucks. 

You didn't come here looking for advice or to better yourself in any way.  You started this shitty little thread in the hopes of gaining more pity and attention from others.  People have taken the time to respond to you with positive advice and encouragement.  But you're not the least bit grateful for their concern, and you apparently have no desire to heed their advice or even try to be happy with yourself! 

 Feeling sorry for someone who feels so much self-pity is impossible...

Oh my . . . 

Chelle's right! Its true! This guy isn't taking ANY of our advice, he's not even TRYING to be happy, he's not even trying to look at the positive side of things, and he cares WAY too much about what other people think.

And the worst thing is that if he knew he wasn't going to take any of our advice, the only reason he put this thread up is so that people will give him cyber hugs and tell him that everything's gunna be just fine. Which it probably will, but his attitude DOES stink, and he needs a cyber slap rather than a cyber hug.

I wasted ten minutes of my time typing that advice out for him, and he didn't fucking take it, and just keeps coming up with... yes.. PATHETIC excuses, and I'm pissed off because I coulda been doing better things with my time than type out decent advice for some little emo kid who won't take that fucking advice because all he wants is attention.

No wonder I hate emos.

[Where is Hassan Nasrallah ?]

you guys are mean
i hate you !

[pasnow]

I wasted ten minutes of my time typing that advice out for him, and he didn't fucking take it, and just keeps coming up with... yes.. PATHETIC excuses, and I'm pissed off because I coulda been doing better things with my time than type out decent advice for some little emo kid who won't take that fucking advice because all he wants is attention.

Skynyrdgirl, you learned a very important lesson today, you tried and failed.? Lesson learned?? Never try.?


They are right though buddy, it would benefit you if you changed your perception on things. Learn to forgive people, and not allow it to bother you, because it sounds like YOU are the one with a problem, not anybody else. If people bully you, they don't MAKE you upset, you allow yourself to be upset. Try not to thing of things as such a catastrophy either. You're not pathetic because you never kissed a girl, heck you might be a decent guy. You tell the story like you're a victim to all these things, try retelling it as things that happened, but you able to accept all of it.



I am 18 and I have never even kissed a girl, infact they just laugh at me.? I get nervous around girls, but it's something I'm working on.

I have practically no friends. The ones that I have laugh at me behind my back.
My friends aren't the greatest, but all in all they are cool to hang around with. I imagine as I get older I may lose touch with some of them, but who knows, I may miss them aome day. ,


I have been bullied from like second grade and cause of that I started skipping school and my grades slipped , I don't even know how I managed to graduate from the ninth grade.... Some kids are dickheads, but I won't have to deal with them anymore.

I am addicted to the perscription pills and without them I am so insecure and edgy that I practically can't leave the house. Thats probably the result of me getting bullied alot. I take pills right now, but ultimately I'd like to get off them. I don't know that they do too much for me.

I am only 169cm/5,7 tall and wear glasses. This is not a joke I must be the most pathetic GN'R fan ever. Yeah, I'm short, and I like a band who hasn't come out with an album in 15 years, but it's not that bad. There are people with greater physical handicaps than me. After all, I'm in good health. Also, I could be a fan of a shitty band, like Godsmack or Creed.

[Rocksteady]

What is emo? Seriously I wanna know. And don't be a prick and answer "you are" or something similar. Plus how do you guys/girls think that I am not taking your advice? I appreciate all the positive feedback more than you might think. I am not coming up with pathetic excuses, I just wanted to tell all of this to someone..... ? I know it's pathetic to whine about your problems on the internet but I really don't have anybody else to tell. Besides most of the advice isn't ?exactly easy to take or atleast it takes time to put it all in good use. OK I try not to post in this thread anymore until my life gets better.

[avesia]

it won't get better tomorrow or the next week, you know...
as you said...it takes time. you goptta change your attitude first of all. this is the most important. and then everything else will come by itself. just be patient because it won't be easy. you will have bad days from now on and you'll feel even worse than before. it doesn't matter. just fight. you're doing it for yourself.
btw...we really wanna help ou and as long as we're reading your posts it means that we don't think you're "a pathetic looser"who's complaining about his personal problems on a message bord. you can post everything you want ( in the rigth section of course? ), we're friends?

[Elrothiel]

Alright, I'm gunna try ONE MORE TIME, and after that, if you don't buck up your attitude Mister... I'm done.

I can't explain emo... if I do, I'll end up ranting, so your best bet is to look on Wikipedia. (look, I'm so nice, here's Wikipedia's link: http://www.wikipedia.org/ )
Right, you're saying you do appreciate our advice. Well... if you TRULY appreciate it, prove it. Give us a positive post saying to us that you'll try and get off the pills and be happier... but only if you mean it, because if you don't mean it, there's no point.

Step By Step, here's what to do:

1. Get off the pills. It will take time, and it'll be hard and gruelling, but you CAN do it. Remember, there is no such thing as "I can't". Yes you CAN!

2. Stop caring so much what your friends think. You're 18, and lets face it, they are NOT going to be your friends for the rest of your life. Just hang out with them and go along with thinking that everything is cool. You'll be happier for it.

3. Don't stay up all night crying your eyes out. Yes, that IS pathetic. Do something CONSTRUCTIVE with your time. Read a good book, draw, paint, have a decent conversation, write a story, write a SONG, take up the guitar and learn, practise, have a wank, look at porn, whatever, just DON'T THINK NEGATIVE THOUGHTS!

4. Forget about doing anything with a woman until you sort yourself out. Women need love, and you can't love anyone if you don't love yourself.

5. The Golden Rule: DO NOT GIVE UP. DO NOT SAY "I can't be bothered". If at first you don't succeed, TRY TRY AGAIN!


There. No more advice from me until you prove to us all that you actually are gunna take it!

And there's no way I'm gunna be all "Awwww its okaaaaaay!" BULLSHIT because that is just wrong and it'll make you continue being the way you are now: Pathetic.

... and to everyone else: I don't give a shit if I'm being too harsh! The kid has gotta learn!!

[SuperMike]

No offense, but SkynyrdGirl is right.

There is that time in life where just got to leave your rough past behind, grow some balls and start making choices for yourself. No matter what, there is always going to be somebody you meet that doesn't like you. So get used to criticism and try looking at yourself in the mirror and say something like"No matter what, I am fucking cool and nothing bothers me." Liking yourself sometimes is something you have to force to make happen.

[Bill 213]

What is emo? Seriously I wanna know. And don't be a prick and answer "you are" or something similar. Plus how do you guys/girls think that I am not taking your advice? I appreciate all the positive feedback more than you might think. I am not coming up with pathetic excuses, I just wanted to tell all of this to someone..... ? I know it's pathetic to whine about your problems on the internet but I really don't have anybody else to tell. Besides most of the advice isn't ?exactly easy to take or atleast it takes time to put it all in good use. OK I try not to post in this thread anymore until my life gets better.

Dude........about the whole fearing women thing....it's nothing to fear man seriously.  Get that fear shit out of your head.  Women are nothing to be afraid of initiall (when you're married and she's bitching about you forgetting to pick up milk on the way home, then be afraid) but until then fuck it.  What you need to do is go to a strip club.......get comfortable around women (I know it sounds sleazy, but it'll curb your fear)....usually they'll make small talk with you to get a lap dance......just throw $20 out and get a lap dance, she'll talk to you, make you feel all warm etc.  Then go out and try to chat it up with some hoodrat on the street.  Seriously man, don't be afraid to talk to women....most won't just come up to you and start talking, you gotta initiate it.  If you find a taker, ask her out and do that whole bit.  If they see you as a whiney cry-baby, they're not gonna bite back, but you gotta have confidence.  So what if you wear glasses......get contacts.  Unless you're wearing some old school Louis Scholnik glasses from ROTN, it's probably not a big deal.  I wear glasses when my contacts bother me and I've actually gotten compliments on them.  I bought a cheap frame at Lenscrafter that was thin and sleek looking and I enjoy them.  Don't blame that stuff man, you gotta have confidence.