Getting married

[Jessica]

I think marriage is okay...I know a lot of folks live together now, without the "piece of paper" and to me, you're still married--it's just emotional marriage not legal marriage...I think if you're going to bring kids into this world it's a good idea to have some sort of legal foundation around that...after all, having kids is a choice, whether that choice is "on purpose" or "a real lack of common sense\impulse control"--ie. you didn't protect yourself...
I think if you're realistic about it..don't believe the ole Cinderella, living happily ever after thing it's a good thing as long as both your eyes are open...it's not going to be easy and requires a real committment...and you have to realize that in the "big picture" view, all human relationships are transient...you know, you can't escape death...but all in all, I think it's an okay thing.

but what about the fuckin HUGE classy ceremony with expensive chanel dresses and playmates everywhere ?

What do you do if she wants a tiny ceremony ( that can be as or even more expensive as any btw) ?

What do you do if she wants to wear a leather bikini and chains instead of a couture white ?

[Where is Hassan Nasrallah ?]

I think marriage is okay...I know a lot of folks live together now, without the "piece of paper" and to me, you're still married--it's just emotional marriage not legal marriage...I think if you're going to bring kids into this world it's a good idea to have some sort of legal foundation around that...after all, having kids is a choice, whether that choice is "on purpose" or "a real lack of common sense\impulse control"--ie. you didn't protect yourself...
I think if you're realistic about it..don't believe the ole Cinderella, living happily ever after thing it's a good thing as long as both your eyes are open...it's not going to be easy and requires a real committment...and you have to realize that in the "big picture" view, all human relationships are transient...you know, you can't escape death...but all in all, I think it's an okay thing.

but what about the fuckin HUGE classy ceremony with expensive chanel dresses and playmates everywhere ?

What do you do if she wants a tiny ceremony ( that can be as or even more expensive as any btw) ?

What do you do if she wants to wear a leather bikini and chains instead of a couture white ?

it's not possible !!
which girl dont want a huge ceremony and expensive clothes ?

[Sterlingdog]

As a general rule, I say don't get married before you are 25.  I think people do too much growing and changing prior to 25, so that if you get married earlier you run the risk of outgrowing your partner (or them outgrowing you). And as adults you find out you don't really like each other all that much.

I think marriage works for some people, but not for others.  It is more than just a piece of paper.  Its a legal commitment.  It offers protection for children.  If you aren't married, its too easy to leave.  So when things get difficult, people bail out.  Marriage forces them to stay and work on it (sometimes).  It also protects the people involved financially, ensuring that you have a legal right to the property that you have acquired together.  I realize that it isn't romantic, but its realistic.

[Jessica]

I think marriage is okay...I know a lot of folks live together now, without the "piece of paper" and to me, you're still married--it's just emotional marriage not legal marriage...I think if you're going to bring kids into this world it's a good idea to have some sort of legal foundation around that...after all, having kids is a choice, whether that choice is "on purpose" or "a real lack of common sense\impulse control"--ie. you didn't protect yourself...
I think if you're realistic about it..don't believe the ole Cinderella, living happily ever after thing it's a good thing as long as both your eyes are open...it's not going to be easy and requires a real committment...and you have to realize that in the "big picture" view, all human relationships are transient...you know, you can't escape death...but all in all, I think it's an okay thing.

but what about the fuckin HUGE classy ceremony with expensive chanel dresses and playmates everywhere ?

What do you do if she wants a tiny ceremony ( that can be as or even more expensive as any btw) ?

What do you do if she wants to wear a leather bikini and chains instead of a couture white ?

it's not possible !!
which girl dont want a huge ceremony and expensive clothes ?

Me as a first

[Jessica]

As a general rule, I say don't get married before you are 25.  I think people do too much growing and changing prior to 25, so that if you get married earlier you run the risk of outgrowing your partner (or them outgrowing you). And as adults you find out you don't really like each other all that much.

I think marriage works for some people, but not for others.  It is more than just a piece of paper.  Its a legal commitment.  It offers protection for children.  If you aren't married, its too easy to leave.  So when things get difficult, people bail out.  Marriage forces them to stay and work on it (sometimes).  It also protects the people involved financially, ensuring that you have a legal right to the property that you have acquired together.  I realize that it isn't romantic, but its realistic.

Yes, very realistic

[Tied-Up]

 I was just about to say what Sterling said ^^^ ?I wouldn't have agreed with this before I turned 25, of course, because I was young and right about everything ? and I got married WAYYYY too young. ?We become different people in our mid 20s, after we shed much of that which had caged us in our youth. ? ?

Something that I learned from my first (failed) marriage, is that marriage really is just a piece of paper. ?I'm married now, but that was at his insistance after I became pregnant, not mine. ?I would have been content to spend the rest of my life with him without the marriage thing. ?The people that generally claim marriage to be something more than a piece of paper (or a legal arrangement) are generally religious nut jobs that believe that whole 'joined before god' garbage. ?Hopefully that comment will not effectively turn this in to a religious argument. ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ?

I've also learned that YES you can fall in love with someone you've not met. ? ?You don't love something (or somebody) with the eyes, you may enjoy the sight of someone, but that isn't love. ? In many ways, I would say that meeting on the internet is an ideal way ?to meet someone, because you're dealing with pure communication, and not the other aspects of a relationship, and communication is a very good base upon which to start a relationship.

And... not all women want the huge ceremony. ? Skip the huge ceremony and just give me the huge diamond, please. ?

[Jessica]

Can i have a saphire instead ?

I don't like diamonds...

[Where is Hassan Nasrallah ?]

well you guys won't be invited to my super-expensive wedding on Notre Dame that's for sure   grrrr !

- i've never been to a wedding my entire life ....first will be mine. never been to a funeral either. first will be mine ... maybe not -

[noonespecial]

LOL
You're funny...
I'll second the don't need a big wedding thing\or a big ring for that matter...but I hope you're wedding is as big and lavish as you wish...just think,  if the marriage falls apart you'll have some kick-ass pictures...LOL...

[SLCPUNK]

As a general rule, I say don't get married before you are 25.  I think people do too much growing and changing prior to 25, so that if you get married earlier you run the risk of outgrowing your partner (or them outgrowing you). And as adults you find out you don't really like each other all that much.

I think marriage works for some people, but not for others.  It is more than just a piece of paper.  Its a legal commitment.  It offers protection for children.  If you aren't married, its too easy to leave.  So when things get difficult, people bail out.  Marriage forces them to stay and work on it (sometimes).  It also protects the people involved financially, ensuring that you have a legal right to the property that you have acquired together.  I realize that it isn't romantic, but its realistic.

Marriage is hard. And is a lot of work.

There are many things more to marriage then what people are talking about here.

Finances are a biggie. I believe it is the number one reason for divorce, ie money issues.

I waited until I was 30 to get married.

[noonespecial]

Good point...that why when I was married, we didn't pool our money...they only money that we pooled was for house bills, cable, electric, stuff like that...never fought about money once...he had his Visa and I had mine...I don't know why people feel the need to pool their money (joint accounts) when they get married...you're still an individual

[Miss-Aussie]

they call you up when your out with friends, want to know where you are or where you are going..

and its like FUCK N HELL.... let me be..

So basically you want someone who doesn't care about you

  I recon me and Clintron will get married when i fly over to brisbane with him

not that i am planning ahead or anything but i feel he is the kind of guy i could spend everyday with..

But then again....

i havnt lived with him yet? ? i hope he doesnt heat up his socks in the oven or microwave?

 

You're sixteen he's 22

Don't trust Clintron he changes his name all the time
 
Izzy?

im 17..... and i really dont care what anyone thinks 

i like him

[Miss-Aussie]

Personally, it doesn?t seem right to me. I don?t expect that to phase you or anything though. Also, I do see a bit of a difference between a 16/17 year old with 22 year old and a 17/18 year old with 23 year old, especially when the first couple?s discussing marriage. It becomes a little more disturbing the farther away from 18 that the girl gets.

well.... i am rather mature for my age...

i no it wont sound good but here i go.....

my ex boyfriend of 9 months is 29!!!!

im not like the average 17 year old chick....

oh yeah and i was going out wit a 23yr old when i was 15.....

age doesnt mean anything as long as you love the person that you are wit, and they love you in return

[Miss-Aussie]

I recon me and Clintron will get married when i fly over to brisbane with him.

Aren't u a little young to think of marriage??

Hell yes !!!!

i aint getting married for another couple of years, around the age of 24- 27

im allowed to dream aint i ? 

[Sterlingdog]

Personally, it doesn?t seem right to me. I don?t expect that to phase you or anything though. Also, I do see a bit of a difference between a 16/17 year old with 22 year old and a 17/18 year old with 23 year old, especially when the first couple?s discussing marriage. It becomes a little more disturbing the farther away from 18 that the girl gets.

well.... i am rather mature for my age...

i no it wont sound good but here i go.....

my ex boyfriend of 9 months is 29!!!!

im not like the average 17 year old chick....

oh yeah and i was going out wit a 23yr old when i was 15.....

age doesnt mean anything as long as you love the person that you are wit, and they love you in return

Every teenager says that they are mature for their age.  They aren't, they are just acting their age.

And if I were your mother, I would have had those men thrown in jail.  I have a former friend who is no longer allowed in my home because I found out that when he was 25 he screwed a 15 year old.  And he would never admit it was wrong, because they were "in love."  So I don't allow him near my little girl, because I consider him a pedophile. 

I think you have issues with men and I bet a good counselor could figure out why and get you back on track.  I know you won't agree with me, but a 29 year old dating a 16/17 year old?  There is something wrong with a man that would do that.  He was taking advantage of you, and that's not your fault, but I promise you he was a bad person.  Mature, healthy, well adjusted men just don't do that. 

[Miss-Aussie]

well i8 dont really care hey.... you dont know me , you dont know what i am like.

anyways... maybe this thread should go on topic aye !!!

i was living out of home, so dont act as if i have a bad mother allrite buddy !!

[freysiamagic2005]

Marriage is quite a scary thought.  The concept is becoming more and more attractive to me as i get older though.  As long as you don't lose yourself in the process you should be alright.  And make sure the person you are marrying isn't a straight donkey.

[Miss-Aussie]

Marriage is quite a scary thought.? The concept is becoming more and more attractive to me as i get older though.? As long as you don't lose yourself in the process you should be alright.? And make sure the person you are marrying isn't a straight donkey.

need a good sex life too...

[SLCPUNK]

Every teenager says that they are mature for their age. 

LOL, they sure do.....

[Miss-Aussie]

yeah very true, but i have also been through allot in my life so far more than what an average teen would... you can ask mike or clint, and some others that i chat to, and they will tell you the same.

after a conversation , people ask me how old i am (17) and they are shocked as i tend to think differently from allot of young people.

but for sure mate your allowed your opinion, and you dont no me, or what kind of person i am. so therefore i understand your comment.

have a nice day