cheaters- secrets unvailed

[Gunna_girl01]

 Have YOU ever cheated or been cheated on??
 What is your story?


Personal Answer:

i have been cheated on once..

my boyfriend of 2 years had another relationship with a girl for at least 3 months... he would see me on the weekends and sometimes during the week, and then he would spend the rest of the time with her..
Now everyone was telling me that he was cheating on me, i confronted him and he said that he wasnt and that i was the only one he loved...
then one weekend when we were at his house i asked his brother

" is Cameron cheating on me with Jade?"

and his reply

" yeaaahhh" he said it in a voice like " everyone knows and i cant belive you didnt find out sooner"

that was the end of that and i left him...
then i packed up all his clothes and belongings from my house put them in a bag and dumped it at his doorstep.

Now I have ALSO cheated..
i was 14 and i ended up kissing my ex boyfriend one night.....
i know i didnt have sex or anything but i class being affectionate to someone else that is not your partner as cheating...
the next morning i woke up and went strait to my boyfriends house and told him what had happened....
he broke up with me, and it didnt faze me at all cos i had lost my actraction for him..

well thats it !!

[Sin Cut]

No.
But I think the whole deal with cheating is somewhat hypocrite.

What is cheating? For me it's not kissing, grils have kissed me often enough at the clubs. What's the deal, it's just a kiss? And I also have turned my head away when or if they use tongue too much.

Is it sex? There don't need to be any emotion in that, it can just be lust.
And having really cheated, or if she or he just *thinks* you've cheated, well, you get the same amount of shit anyway.

[Where is Hassan Nasrallah ?]

im too scared of my girlfried, she would rip my head apart ... and i love her.

[Jessica]

Yes i have cheated, and this because the father's baby hadn't touched me in over 2 years when he had, in the past, cheated on me. When you know you don't get any but someone probably does get it all and yet, your man begs you to not leave him, you feel completely stuck, emotionally and betrayed.

So yes, i saw someone for 9 months, my self esteem went up, i started to want things for me, to do things for me and i had great amazing daily sex. I would have liked to see him as a boyfriend, but then, he wasn't serious.

Which is a shame really. He had given me courage to physically leave the other. I had great difficulties cutting he ties with the other, but i was very slowly getting there. It would probably have been better if he had taken me to the other side of the world right there and then, but there was no way this could have happened 

And suddenly, my " was in his way to be confirmed ex" takes a treatment and transforms into a sweetie pie, his libido goes abck up with me, his moods seem settled and he is finally the man i wanted ?

So me being me ( this means stoopid) , i accepted to see him again on these bases and quickly, he was living under MY roof. When i discovered he had stopped his treatment and back to shitty him, our baby was on the way.

I told him i'd seen someone. He was mad at me. So mad i actually got bruised. But i told him he couldn't be mad because a man had given me what he obviously felt pissed off to give me and that he should thank this other man for so graciously doing what he felt was a shore.

I don't know if he has forgiven me, but i don't care in fact. i don't look for forgiveness.

I have stood by him through all his infidelities, through his madness ( wait until one of his employees finds out, it may take time, but when they do, they will be in for the shock of their lifes) , through his horrible nutty family's attack on me, through lack of money because he wanted to set up his business, through people thinking i'm a bitch for daring to criticize saint angel the hypocrit , i have stood by this when he didn't cuddle me, hold me, kiss me, when he didn't make love to me for over 2 YEARS, some of my personal money went in it to help him and all i was asking was for some company.

You know, something simple, easy going, no problems, just nice and sweet.

At least, it's made me realise the baby's dad will NEVER be the man of my life.

[Gunna_girl01]

life without sex... now THAT would be sad 

[August 18th]

cheating is for losers.

[Gunna_girl01]

i would never cheat again...
it is against my morals..

plus my boyfriend sprung a rather scary question at me the other day...

he wants to settle down and have a family and OTHER things 

there is a time when everyone must settle down, and to be honest i would rather have one partner that i can love than go through many different relationships.

but he wont even let me take a lil bit of go go juice!!!

[August 18th]

but he wont even let me take a lil bit of go go juice!!!

i'm not even gonna ask...

[Jessica]

i would never cheat again...
it is against my morals..

plus my boyfriend sprung a rather scary question at me the other day...

he wants to settle down and have a family and OTHER things 

there is a time when everyone must settle down, and to be honest i would rather have one partner that i can love than go through many different relationships.

but he wont even let me take a lil bit of go go juice!!!

See cheating was against my morals, but i was just too lonely and yet, completely lost as to what i should do about a relationship of a fewyears with someone;

And when i never looked at men, i couldn't have cared for any, i just saw that guy's eyes one day and it was instantaneous.

Oh well...

So gunna_girl01, don't you want to settle down ?

[Where is Hassan Nasrallah ?]

i would never cheat again...
it is against my morals..

plus my boyfriend sprung a rather scary question at me the other day...

he wants to settle down and have a family and OTHER things 

there is a time when everyone must settle down, and to be honest i would rather have one partner that i can love than go through many different relationships.

but he wont even let me take a lil bit of go go juice!!!

See cheating was against my morals, but i was just too lonely and yet, completely lost as to what i should do about a relationship of a fewyears with someone;

And when i never looked at men, i could have cared for any, i just saw that guy's eyes one day and it was instantaneous.

Oh well...

So gunna_girl01, don't you want to settle down ?

but why don't people just break up with the person instead of cheating.
the day i will think of cheating with my girlfriend, i'll call her and say " we're done, have a good life ..."

until then, i stay with her and dont cheat on her.

[Jessica]

thing is, i didn't know if we were done or not.

[SLCPUNK]

im too scared of my girlfried, she would rip my head apart ... and i love her.

Come back and post when she isn't in the room with you..........

[Axls Locomotive]

but he wont even let me take a lil bit of go go juice!!!

you need to rev it up a little bit more, im sure itll run like a charm lol

cheating is disrespectful and amoral...i am proud to say i have never cheated on anyone...

[Lisa]

I have never cheated for one simple reason...I have been cheated on repeatedly over the years because I am just too trusting and easy going....it hurts too much so I would just break up with the person before inflicting that kind of pain on another human being

[Gunna_girl01]

i would never cheat again...
it is against my morals..

plus my boyfriend sprung a rather scary question at me the other day...

he wants to settle down and have a family and OTHER things?

there is a time when everyone must settle down, and to be honest i would rather have one partner that i can love than go through many different relationships.

but he wont even let me take a lil bit of go go juice!!!

See cheating was against my morals, but i was just too lonely and yet, completely lost as to what i should do about a relationship of a fewyears with someone;

And when i never looked at men, i couldn't have cared for any, i just saw that guy's eyes one day and it was instantaneous.

Oh well...

So gunna_girl01, don't you want to settle down ?

yes definatly...
i cant wait to have a family...
i was an aunty when  i was 5 and now i have 4 nieces and one nephew... i love children.

i would rather stay with one partner and be happy, than have many different relationship.. one to another to another is just not me....
when i enter a relationship it is for the long term... i hate switching guys around.

what about you.. are you happy now?

[Gunna_girl01]

but he wont even let me take a lil bit of go go juice!!!

you need to rev it up a little bit more, im sure itll run like a charm lol

lol.. uhhmm but you do know what i mean when i say go go juice dont you ?

[Jessica]

i would never cheat again...
it is against my morals..

plus my boyfriend sprung a rather scary question at me the other day...

he wants to settle down and have a family and OTHER things 

there is a time when everyone must settle down, and to be honest i would rather have one partner that i can love than go through many different relationships.

but he wont even let me take a lil bit of go go juice!!!

See cheating was against my morals, but i was just too lonely and yet, completely lost as to what i should do about a relationship of a fewyears with someone;

And when i never looked at men, i couldn't have cared for any, i just saw that guy's eyes one day and it was instantaneous.

Oh well...

So gunna_girl01, don't you want to settle down ?

yes definatly...
i cant wait to have a family...
i was an aunty when  i was 5 and now i have 4 nieces and one nephew... i love children.

i would rather stay with one partner and be happy, than have many different relationship.. one to another to another is just not me....
when i enter a relationship it is for the long term... i hate switching guys around.

what about you.. are you happy now?

No, not at all, but i have been brought up to stay with a man even though i am not and that's what gets me into shit.

Ideally, i am with one man, we are happy, and since i am very physical,  unless i get sex and cuddles a few times a week, i tend to build frustration and it ends up angering me a lot.

So even if i get on marvellously with a man, i have to have something very physical going on too.

And with the baby's father, there are emotional issues, he sees my intellectual capacities as competition ( his mother tells him i outshine him, bitch) so it's always a case of telling me to shut up in front of people ( dunno how it makes him feel but it makes me feel humiliated) and he tends to use sex as a way to control me, so since it doesn't work anymore, he doesn't touch me or very little ( miracle that baby is on the way i tell you) ...

And although i have worked enormously on me since i was 20 years old in therapy, i can't seem to be able to let go of the very little material comfort i have, it's as if i was very affraid to go abck down if i did and i can't.

In fact, i just got terribly terribly fooled.

I thought this story of treatment was real, and it was, but just for 2 months, the time to get me back and that was it.

I've been stupid.

[Gunna_girl01]

i would never cheat again...
it is against my morals..

plus my boyfriend sprung a rather scary question at me the other day...

he wants to settle down and have a family and OTHER things?


there is a time when everyone must settle down, and to be honest i would rather have one partner that i can love than go through many different relationships.

but he wont even let me take a lil bit of go go juice!!!

See cheating was against my morals, but i was just too lonely and yet, completely lost as to what i should do about a relationship of a fewyears with someone;

And when i never looked at men, i couldn't have cared for any, i just saw that guy's eyes one day and it was instantaneous.

Oh well...

So gunna_girl01, don't you want to settle down ?

yes definatly...
i cant wait to have a family...
i was an aunty when? i was 5 and now i have 4 nieces and one nephew... i love children.

i would rather stay with one partner and be happy, than have many different relationship.. one to another to another is just not me....
when i enter a relationship it is for the long term... i hate switching guys around.

what about you.. are you happy now?

No, not at all, but i have been brought up to stay with a man even though i am not and that's what gets me into shit.

Ideally, i am with one man, we are happy, and since i am very physical,? unless i get sex and cuddles a few times a week, i tend to build frustration and it ends up angering me a lot.

So even if i get on marvellously with a man, i have to have something very physical going on too.

And with the baby's father, there are emotional issues, he sees my intellectual capacities as competition ( his mother tells him i outshine him, bitch) so it's always a case of telling me to shut up in front of people ( dunno how it makes him feel but it makes me feel humiliated) and he tends to use sex as a way to control me, so since it doesn't work anymore, he doesn't touch me or very little ( miracle that baby is on the way i tell you) ...

And although i have worked enormously on me since i was 20 years old in therapy, i can't seem to be able to let go of the very little material comfort i have, it's as if i was very affraid to go abck down if i did and i can't.

In fact, i just got terribly terribly fooled.

I thought this story of treatment was real, and it was, but just for 2 months, the time to get me back and that was it.

I've been stupid.

i think you deserve to be happy you sound like an awsome chik...

dont settle for second best.. i did that and i ended up getting itroduced to bad things and became addicted to speed.
he put me down that much, and he beat me up... emotional torture is so much worse than physical i think.. emotional abuse plays with your mind..

i am seeing a councellor at the momment, trying to get rid of my pain.. that has been bundled up for? 5 years !!!

here is a poem i wrote the day before i met my current boyfriend!! and that was 2 months ago

Swallowed in the depths of unmoving depression
My soul lies in a dark pit of aggression,
My spirit has passed and I don?t care if I die
For I wish not another day would go by,
I cannot overcome my feeling of sorrow
For I am in a deep dark hole where there is no tomorrow,
Happiness never comes and emotional torture never goes
Silence is my way, so not a single heart or soul knows,
My thoughts cannot be pushed aside
I know this for 5 years I have tried,
It haunts it tortures
My soul is in flames my body it scorches,
Words cannot describe the darkness I feel
For I died along time ago and happiness is not real,
My life is a dead end to which I can not turn around
Darkness made sure I kept falling to the ground,
I crave love I pray for happiness
But I have fallen to far? I have plunged into deapness,
I hope that one day I will live again
Darkness behind me and my new life will begin...

my words are copywritted no thiefing!!

i still have depression locked up inside of me and it is a very difficult to let it all out when i have told no one for 5 years..

[darkmonth]

No.
But I think the whole deal with cheating is somewhat hypocrite.

What is cheating? For me it's not kissing, grils have kissed me often enough at the clubs. What's the deal, it's just a kiss? And I also have turned my head away when or if they use tongue too much.

Is it sex? There don't need to be any emotion in that, it can just be lust.
And having really cheated, or if she or he just *thinks* you've cheated, well, you get the same amount of shit anyway.

Wow... you must have a friggin clear mind.  You're deluding yourself but if that's how you feel, I hope you're not in a relationship.  Because you'll hurt someone real bad with that attitude.

[Genesis]

Unfortunately, us loners have no one to cheat on...