Have you ever been in Love?

[Mr. Dick Purple]

I have been in love and i guess it was hard for all men who followed later on, because i was only 18 when i met real love. And just 20 when i lost it.

We had this thing, it's weird, a mix of everything .

We met through a girl who lived with me and who knew him, he was involved with a model for 5 years and i thought he was very very VOYANT. Wearing flashy paul smith suits in lime green, beattles like haircut and he was very proud of himself, very funny and disarming.

And a few months later, he was leaving his model, i was admitting to be in love too and that very day, we fell into each other's arms and had sex

 

That was the beginning...

aw, life...although i do have extremely bad memories with him, i have also the best ones of my life ( well, life will be long? i will make others, plenty and hope to be helped loving again )

I gotta say that sometimes you are not in love you just love sex with that guy, in this case of course.
Cause sometimes even if Sex is great with you GF/BF doesn't mean she/he is the one for you but anyway If you really think your're in love I hope everythings goes for the best 

[Jessica]

dick purple, what i loved before sex with him was his self assurance, was how he talked, how he knew everyone was less intelligent than he was ( he was VERY clever) and how he took things with a sense of humor, how he loved his mates and how silly he'd get when he'd miss a football match, how he'd defend me against my own family, how i was his little princess, how feminine he made me feel for the first time in my life, etc etc....

Plus, he was 6'3 and skinny and prone to allergies and rashes and i loved that too, he was a TYPICAL aquarian and i loved him to bits.

THEN, he was amazing in bed, but that added to the charm, that wasn't what created it.

I must have loved him immensely, because i never managed to be pissed off at him when i'd come home and find the latest huge tv screen or the first playstation back then, or when he had bought a new suit for 600 pounds or some horrid D&G tie for 100 quid...

I loved him. HIM. ALL of him.

[Dust N Rose]

I am a big believer that things happen for a reason, and that we create our own destiny.? (One might think that these two beliefs are contradictory, but I don't believe so).
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If she is truly the one, then you should be making the relationship a reality.? You should make it happen for yourself.? You'll never truly know if you're right or not about her if you don't do something and take a chance.? ?The best things in life come at a price, a risk, a gamble.
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If this relationship were meant to be, if she was truly the "one" for you, then it would happen.? ?The fact that you've been holding on to something that isn't a reality for 10? years might suggest that maybe she isn't the one, but that you've created in your mind this idea that she is the one.? Why would you do that?? Because you are afraid of actually trying to make a relationship work, you fear love.? Love is a scary thing, it can break your heart and has driven people to extreme measures.

So, instead, you've built this ideal image of what love is, of who you love, and in all honesty, this girl that you've placed upon a pedistal is probably not all that you've made her out to be, but you've turned her in to your own icon, the ideal that can never be attained.? This protects you from actually risking your heart, falling in love and making a commitment. ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ?

Well, then every love we experience is good when we have a response and not good when we don't? Then every love is a psychosis and if the other has the same psychosis with you then you're the lucky one. That's very tough though. Love and hapiness is mathematics if that's true (or love is so blind). I wonder, what's the exit to this dead end. One thing I've learned is that when you avoid the person you like, it's easier to forget her. I remember that after two months she complained me why I wasn't making a call? Oh, Ain't life grand? ?
What should I say? ? It's worse when I see you?
She's a good person, she will never say something to hurt you (whoever you are). We know one each other from kids, we were on the same school. I told her that I like her 6 years before. She told me she prefers us to remain friends. I'm presentable and confident enough, so nothing wrong. If she first met me now, she might liked me, although I would say, "ok it's just another beautiful girl".
I remember she once told she has never been really in love and later also replied the same thing Phebe said about the occasional desires (some posts above).

[Sin Cut]

Plus, he was 6'3 and skinny and prone to allergies and rashes and i loved that too, he was a TYPICAL aquarian and i loved him to bits.

THEN, he was amazing in bed, but that added to the charm, that wasn't what created it.

I don't agree with the skinny rash thing, but the bed part must be true!

[Jessica]

Plus, he was 6'3 and skinny and prone to allergies and rashes and i loved that too, he was a TYPICAL aquarian and i loved him to bits.

THEN, he was amazing in bed, but that added to the charm, that wasn't what created it.

I don't agree with the skinny rash thing, but the bed part must be true!

Who cares anyway you know ? that was 12 years ago now but i loved him with all my heart because he had SO many intellectual qualities and to this day, my family, who knew he had to sort himself out, still talk about him and my grandfather misses him ( well, he would, my ex was a footie fan, like my grandad and had the same sense of humor lol)...

As for the bed part... no comments 

[Tied-Up]

I am a big believer that things happen for a reason, and that we create our own destiny.? (One might think that these two beliefs are contradictory, but I don't believe so).
? ? ?
If she is truly the one, then you should be making the relationship a reality.? You should make it happen for yourself.? You'll never truly know if you're right or not about her if you don't do something and take a chance.? ?The best things in life come at a price, a risk, a gamble.
? ? ? ?
If this relationship were meant to be, if she was truly the "one" for you, then it would happen.? ?The fact that you've been holding on to something that isn't a reality for 10? years might suggest that maybe she isn't the one, but that you've created in your mind this idea that she is the one.? Why would you do that?? Because you are afraid of actually trying to make a relationship work, you fear love.? Love is a scary thing, it can break your heart and has driven people to extreme measures.

So, instead, you've built this ideal image of what love is, of who you love, and in all honesty, this girl that you've placed upon a pedistal is probably not all that you've made her out to be, but you've turned her in to your own icon, the ideal that can never be attained.? This protects you from actually risking your heart, falling in love and making a commitment. ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ?

Well, then every love we experience is good when we have a response and not good when we don't? Then every love is a psychosis and if the other has the same psychosis with you then you're the lucky one. That's very tough though. Love and hapiness is mathematics if that's true (or love is so blind). I wonder, what's the exit to this dead end. One thing I've learned is that when you avoid the person you like, it's easier to forget her. I remember that after two months she complained me why I wasn't making a call? Oh, Ain't life grand? ?
What should I say? ? It's worse when I see you?
She's a good person, she will never say something to hurt you (whoever you are). We know one each other from kids, we were on the same school. I told her that I like her 6 years before. She told me she prefers us to remain friends. I'm presentable and confident enough, so nothing wrong. If she first met me now, she might liked me, although I would say, "ok it's just another beautiful girl".
I remember she once told she has never been really in love and later also replied the same thing Phebe said about the occasional desires (some posts above).

Love is real, regardless of whether or not you act upon it.? And it's not so "black and white" as to say it's good only when acted upon, and bad when it's not... there are far too many 'grey areas' in love to be so cut and dry (it's certainly not mathematical, that would say it's a calculated thing... but it IS a psychosis -- and it CAN make you crazy)

More accurately -- Love is a risk.? ? ?

You stated that she is the "one" for you... and I responded to that, by saying if she is truly the one for you, that you need to take the risk and make the relationship a reality.? That is the only way you will truly know if it's meant to be or not.? Until you are together, you'll never really know for sure, you will just have this idealized image in your mind that the relationship that didn't happen was the? relationship that was meant to be.?

THAT is a truly lonely existence, wishing your life away on something that you weren't willing to risk it all for.

Love is perhaps the most complicated emotion that we experience, because we can sometimes hate the people we love, and everything in between those two dichotomies.? But, that doesn't mean that it's not worth the risk.

Love unrequited and/or not acted upon isn't a bad thing, but it is a SAD thing, because you'll never really have the truth, only speculation, and you are also passing up other possibilities because other people will never measure up to what you've created in your mind.

[Xx Estranged xX]

I have been in love before, but the only good thing that came out of that relationship was my daughter, Bianca.  Unfortunately the relationship was a long and abusive one, but when I found out I was pregnant I had to leave for the safety of my child and I haven't seen him since. 

[psycotron]

I have decided to accept the fact that I will end up alone, becoming the crazy old woman down the road who has lots of cats.? In a crappy, loveless mood.

its all inebriated_weirdo's fault this turned into an animal topic.
FUCK U inebriated_weirdo!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  Hey!!! Unfair much? i didn't say I liked/disliked animals or anything, I was just presenting a stereotypical image of a mad old woman...with lots of cats. So just lay off.

i was joking. i know that its my fault this turned into an animal lovers topic. just thinking about u and youre cats has made my hand moist

[Dust N Rose]

You stated that she is the "one" for you... and I responded to that, by saying if she is truly the one for you, that you need to take the risk and make the relationship a reality.

And do what? tell her I'm bored us to be only friends??
Well maybe that could be away to get over it.

[Tied-Up]

You stated that she is the "one" for you... and I responded to that, by saying if she is truly the one for you, that you need to take the risk and make the relationship a reality.

And do what? tell her I'm bored us to be only friends??
Well maybe that could be away to get over it.

The fact is, you aren't just "only friends" ... at least, not in your heart and mind.  You've already established that you feel she's the right one for you, and so in your heart and soul, you aren't just friends with this girl, you're something more.

It may very well be that way for her, but you'll never know unless you take a chance. 

As long as the two of you remain "just friends"  you'll never have the opportunity to build something more meaningful with her ... or with anyone else... so you have to decide if this friendship is worth being lonely for the rest of your life.

[inebriated_weirdo]

I have decided to accept the fact that I will end up alone, becoming the crazy old woman down the road who has lots of cats.  In a crappy, loveless mood.

its all inebriated_weirdo's fault this turned into an animal topic.
FUCK U inebriated_weirdo!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  Hey!!! Unfair much? i didn't say I liked/disliked animals or anything, I was just presenting a stereotypical image of a mad old woman...with lots of cats. So just lay off.

i was joking. i know that its my fault this turned into an animal lovers topic. just thinking about u and youre cats has made my hand moist

 
ah, ok, sorry I was so quick to get defensive...I thought you couldn't be that evil 

[Carlos_f_Rose]

Im in love guys... but nothing really lasts forever...

[*Izzy*]

Im in love guys... but nothing really lasts forever...

That's a very defeatist attitude

  Izzy?

[Carlos_f_Rose]

Im in love guys... but nothing really lasts forever...

That's a very defeatist attitude

  Izzy?

I just want some honesty in my life... 

[kiss-from-a-rose]

You stated that she is the "one" for you... and I responded to that, by saying if she is truly the one for you, that you need to take the risk and make the relationship a reality.

And do what? tell her I'm bored us to be only friends? 
Well maybe that could be away to get over it.

The fact is, you aren't just "only friends" ... at least, not in your heart and mind.  You've already established that you feel she's the right one for you, and so in your heart and soul, you aren't just friends with this girl, you're something more.

It may very well be that way for her, but you'll never know unless you take a chance. 

As long as the two of you remain "just friends"  you'll never have the opportunity to build something more meaningful with her ... or with anyone else... so you have to decide if this friendship is worth being lonely for the rest of your life.

Take a chance, man! 

[Dust N Rose]

You stated that she is the "one" for you... and I responded to that, by saying if she is truly the one for you, that you need to take the risk and make the relationship a reality.

And do what? tell her I'm bored us to be only friends??
Well maybe that could be away to get over it.

The fact is, you aren't just "only friends" ... at least, not in your heart and mind.? You've already established that you feel she's the right one for you, and so in your heart and soul, you aren't just friends with this girl, you're something more.

It may very well be that way for her, but you'll never know unless you take a chance.?

As long as the two of you remain "just friends"? you'll never have the opportunity to build something more meaningful with her ... or with anyone else... so you have to decide if this friendship is worth being lonely for the rest of your life.

Take a chance, man!?

Thank you guys. 

[Chris Misfit]

Chris, What are you still looking and touching? a cat?? a hand?

You?

[N.I.B]

i've been in love. turned down by all of em. i still have my hopes 

[Queen of Everything]

I've been in Louth is it anywhere near there?

On a serious note, no I hate everyone

  Izzy?

I love this guy... lol

[Prometheus]

yes and she was a control freak... but i loved her and was blind to it