your relationship with ex's?

[Sin Cut]

Everyone knows ex-gf/bf can be a real bitch sometimes and sometimes it's easier to be friends when you're not dating anymore, so how do you have things?

Most of the girls I've dated I don't give a second thought, but there are some worth mentioning

When my relationships for over 2 and a half a years ended, and the girl joined the ex's-gategory was a real bitch back then since she was sure I left her because another woman. I guess that's what happens when they sit with some friends and wonder.
"Did he leave me because I was too fat?! I'm not too fat am I?"
"Did he leave me because I never did any housework? I did take out the trash just last month, didn't I?"
"Did he leave me because I didn't want to have sex anymore?"
"Can it be becauase we fight all the time?? .. "no it can't be that, it must be another woman, that bastard, I'll show him!"

I actually believe it went somewhat along those lines.

Her bitterness and overall-bitchyness brought me tons of trouble, since she did go accusing a girl from my work for stealing her man, even if we had never had anything going,. Let just say she was being a big-mouth to everyone who would listen and I still wear the scars, too bad the fucker ran after hitting me. Anyway now we're friends, prolly since I need sometimes someone to watch my dogs, even if she's not the first person I call.


Second girl, I didn't really date her, but it's an interesting story as well. I met her the night someone attacked me because of my ex and she did company me after the bar. Because of that I went to the hospital next morning to sew my lip up:) Well, there's the first proof you don't need to have a pretty face to get the girl. "D" is the second So I did see her for a couple of weeks, maybe a month and we never came to the point where we were dating, we just catched a movie or something at my place few nights a week.

I started thinking she getting too much attached to me and I was in love with this third girl I'd fallen to bed with and she was/is my friend for many years, and while this other girl was nice she didn't compare. And we broke up as friends. Or so I thought.

After that she lied to her friends a load of things and her friend came to shout at me and told what an asshole I was and I remember being so amused that she had hard letting go. Now I just feel sorry for her and she acts like she doesn't even know me. At least if she isn't a cigaret short.

What's your stories about ex's?

[Railantics]

ex?

[Sin Cut]

ex?

ex, the boyfriend or girlfriend you broke up with.

[Railantics]

y'i'know mate

[Sin Cut]

y'i'know mate

so what was your point then?

[noonespecial]

Just explain something to me...cause I haven't been on a date in years...for guys, if your seeing someone for a month, that's not dating? What is that? A fuck buddy? ?Were you up front about that....like if you were a hotel, would she have plainly seen a vacancy sign...I'm not being smart and\or trying to put you on the defensive...it's a real inquiring minds want to know thing...cause I think this is where guys and girls are wired differently and the sooner we realize that about each other, the less energy one will waste on the quote\unquote the wrong person...

as far as ex people go...I was actually married to the guy so he is an ex husband but it was an amicable divorce. ?We both knew we were growing apart and there was no reason to be together anymore...still talk to him, and he comes and visits the cats...not a big deal...

[Sin Cut]

Just explain something to me...cause I haven't been on a date in years...for guys, if your seeing someone for a month, that's not dating? What is that? A fuck buddy? ?Were you up front about that....like if you were a hotel, would she have plainly seen a vacancy sign...I'm not being smart and\or trying to put you on the defensive...it's a real inquiring minds want to know thing...cause I think this is where guys and girls are wired differently and the sooner we realize that about each other, the less energy one will waste on the quote\unquote the wrong person...

as far as ex people go...I was actually married to the guy so he is an ex husband but it was an amicable divorce. ?We both knew we were growing apart and there was no reason to be together anymore...still talk to him, and he comes and visits the cats...not a big deal...

I did tell her that, but I felt like she was just saying yes, it's okay, and really thinking "I'll make him fall in love with me". And after I put an end to it, since it would be harder later on, my friend wanted to know why. I told him that even if she was a nice girl I dind't feel anything for her.

And I couldn't think of dating someone who slept with me after just a few hours from first seeing me.

Yes. She was a fuck buddy.

And I didn't feel like we were dating ecause how it started and that I wasn't telling her what I would do or where I was, nor was I asking her. And I didn't tell her even once that I loved her. Because I didn't.

[Sterlingdog]

I have an ex that I didn't see or talk to for almost 10 years. ?It wasn't an ugly break up, but it was hard to be around him in a different kind of relationship. ?I wasn't prepared to see him with other women or anything. ?But we tracked each other down after 10 years and now we are best friends. ?We get along great as friends, but not as a couple. ?I can watch him do stupid things now and laugh, see it as part of his charm rather than a ?way he's going to screw up my life. ?He is the only ex I still speak to though. ?Probably because we broke up before we started to hate each other.

[Jessica]

Well, i won't tell you how many men i had, but i only have 2 serious exes and probably a 3rd one in the months to come.

The 1st one was a relationship i had when i was 18, i loved him immsensely. I don't think i loved that much since and i hope to love as much if not more in the future, but i am close to 30 and i can say up until now, it was THE big thing.
Everything was wonderful BUT a few : He had been to prison and in trying to protect him or me, he was forced to lie and the lies became too huge for him and i got too inquisitive, especially because the police would call me about him and i was so hurt i think i wouldn't take no for an answer.
As he couldn't give me an answer, he started hitting me and me being me, i'd hit back. But he was 6'4 and i am 5'4 so he quickly had the physical advantage and it got ugly and uglier. I then forgot my pill because of all that and i didn't really want to have sex anyway. But it happened, you know, one of these " i love you on the pillow but will hit you tomorow" sort of thing ?
Of course, i got pregnant. We were happy. That didn't stop us from being stupid. One day, i got a kick in thr stomach and i was 3 months pregnant when the baby died inside me. That's didn't stop me from loving him. Not that, not the bruises, not his visits to the courts, nothing. One day, about 8 months later, we had a huge row while waiting for a train. He deliberately sat by some girl and shouted at me " i don't even give a fuck about you, i don't love you".
I cried, didn't say a word, got on the train without him. Picked up the phone.
The following week, as he was gone for some " deeds" again, mum and dad were there, the yhad crossed the channel from france, dad had a lorry, mum her car, we put all we could inside, they almost threw me in the car and 4 hours later, i was back in france.
He had an interdiction to leave great britain but he got a false passport and came to try and get me back ?
But i didn"t go back. I would have loved to, but mum showed me THE proof he had continued to lie.
I saw him once 10 months later, i needed the money i had lent him for our deposit, so i went to london to pick it up, but he had bought me designer clothes with it ? That was the last i ever saw of him until last year. I went to london and saw him. we passed each other on oxford street. I have now healed, but it took 10 years.

The other ex has been my best friend for 15 years but i have told him i couldn't see him anymore because his wife was a loony and i told him i prefered to call it quits on our friendship.

[Railantics]

y'i'know mate

so what was your point then?

I havent had any ex's..(only 13) 

[Sin Cut]

y'i'know mate

so what was your point then?

I havent had any ex's..(only 13)?

Hurry up then, there's nothing like  breaking up with some the first time! 

[SLCPUNK]

Some I still masturbate to...

That's about it.

[Axls Locomotive]

my ex-wife was a bitch and a manipulator...never happy, always pissed or angry with something and blamed everyone but herself for her own problems...needless to say i dont talk to her anymore

[Gunner80]

Some I still masturbate to...

That's about it.

What man doesn't? 

[Eeebs]

An ex is an  ex for a reason.  Once it is over baby, it is over for good.  I cease all contact immediately. 

[Kujo]

Some I still masturbate to...

That's about it.

Here's the last photo before she left you for D

[Kujo]

An ex is an? ex for a reason.? Once it is over baby, it is over for good.? I cease all contact immediately.?

That would be the ideal situation but when there are young kids involved thats not always possible.

[noonespecial]

Thank you Blue Cut...that's what I wanted to know...that's definite "chick wiring" with the I'll make him love me, I'll make him change--that should be a red flag for you the next time...so in a way, it was good you learned something about the kind of chick to avoid...cool

[Jessica]

I think having an ex is good in the sense that all these exes prepare us for a much bigger better love, better quality, and probably much more suited to who we are deep down.

They help us in a way, to get to know us better. Even through suffering.

If i was " that" good, i'd thank them, but i am not.

[Sin Cut]

Thank you Blue Cut...that's what I wanted to know...that's definite "chick wiring" with the I'll make him love me, I'll make him change--that should be a red flag for you the next time...so in a way, it was good you learned something about the kind of chick to avoid...cool

Yeah, but with my current gf it was "love at first sight" and the waqy she smiled at me after our first kiss and said something among the lines "that kinda game.." I was sold. We're moving together on monday or tuesday