Important question

[MCT]

Sounds to me like JF is doin' ole Freddie...

ADVICE:

Leave your man (and incidentally, your country) and come live with me. I'll even make a promise to leave Freddie's little dickie bird alone...

Deal?

[Genesis]

What is this Dear Abby?

 

@jessica - Creep up behind frederic and fist him in the nuts. Guaranteed he'll see it ur way...

[Jessica]

Sounds to me like JF is doin' ole Freddie...

ADVICE:

Leave your man (and incidentally, your country) and come live with me. I'll even make a promise to leave Freddie's little dickie bird alone...

Deal?

me also means me+baby+my cat   

You know, i have never been affraid of leaving my country, i lived abroad before and would again..

What's Freddie " little dickie bird"  ?  His penis ? 

[MCT]

me also means me+baby+my cat? ?

You know, i have never been affraid of leaving my country, i lived abroad before and would again..

So it's official? We're gonna be a family?

What's Freddie " little dickie bird"? ?? His penis ??

His penis, yes.

[McGann]

Jessica, this situation is unacceptable, and your boyfriend is being a jellyfish about it.  I don't want to slag him without knowing him, especially since you seem to be a person of real character and I don't think you'd choose to be with someone of low caliber, but he's not facing the issue.  I'm not a believer in the dangers of secondhand smoke, but Frederic's behavior toward you is utterly disrespectful, and it tells me that he is threatened by you for some reason.  The reason doesn't matter, though, at all.   Frederic's behavior is the problem, and your boyfriend's seeming unwillingness to face the issue aggravates the situation.
It seems that you've tried to address the problem with your boyfriend, but that he has been unreceptive to dealing with it.  Maybe you need to be more emphatic?  You seem like a very nice person, and maybe (because I do this) you are being too nice when you talk to him and he doesn't truly understand how serious this is.  I am personally very nonconfrontational (especially considering what a brutal evoloutionist I am) but if anyone shows my wife that type of disrespect, I take charge of it and solve the problem.
I guess I'm rambling now...sorry.  This type of thing really gets under my skin.
Your boyfriend needs to step up, and he needs to do it now.  He's got it in him, or he you wouldn't be wasting your time with him.

By the way, I have a cat and a dog...I'd take you in, pending spousal approval...
She is sometimes the jealous type, tho...

/Mike

[MCT]

I'm not a believer in the dangers of secondhand smoke

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No by...

[Jessica]

me also means me+baby+my cat   

You know, i have never been affraid of leaving my country, i lived abroad before and would again..

So it's official? We're gonna be a family?

What's Freddie " little dickie bird"  ?  His penis ? 

His penis, yes.

lol, you're teasing me...

There is nothing that would make me happier than having a proper happy family, with or without kids firsthand, etc etc...

About the penis, you can kick his in, i couldn't care less, i'd probably be quite satisfied actually, but what would satiffy me even more would be to give my boyfriend a good punch in the face, but i do reserve that one for me, when i'll leave, god knows when.

[noonespecial]

so this "office" is in your home? I guess my question is, why are you trying to talk to your boyfriend about personal stuff during work hours...isn't that for after work (or at least on a lunch break when you can walk out of the building and\or house)?  Do you actually work for your boyfriend? Are you on the payroll like Frederic?  Obviously, whatever Frederic does, your boyfriend needs his assistance. That's not personal that's business. We are talking about a business that he is trying to get off the ground or whatever, right?
I don't know the entire situation,  I don't mean to be saying, you should do this or that, or whatever...I know if I was working for your boyfriend, me, personally, I wouldn't be butting into conversations that are happening behind a closed door, that's just bad form, but on the other hand, I wouldn't want to sit there and have to listen to the personal life of my boss and his girlfriend either...you know what I mean...one thing I would do is definitely handle this yourself, don't try and get your boyfriend to take sides, as I think his main concern (at least when he's at work) should be his job, not whether his co-worker gets along with his girlfriend....and I know you can handle yourself.
I hope I'm being too blunt, 'cause my intention isn't to judge one way or the other...starting a business is tough and it just seems (from the extreme outside) that personal stuff...needs to stay out of the work mix. No harm.

[Jessica]

so this "office" is in your home?
It was, until it got mad for me and i rented a place of my own, see convo above
 I guess my question is, why are you trying to talk to your boyfriend about personal stuff during work hours...
Usually, not, but i had learnt i was pregnant and me and boyfriend were coming back from doctors and for once, closed the door, at lunch break
isn't that for after work (or at least on a lunch break when you can walk out of the building and\or house)?
Usually, but work starts at 6.30 when we wake up and finishes between 8.pm and 0.30 am sometimes, so things do need to be discussed and when we don"t have weekends because they are rare, there needs to be spaces to discuss privates matters.

 Do you actually work for your boyfriend?
Yes

Are you on the payroll like Frederic?
I am supposed to but he hasn't paid me like he was supposed to, even though i have a proper contract, but he is also my boyfriend ? 

Obviously, whatever Frederic does, your boyfriend needs his assistance. That's not personal that's business. We are talking about a business that he is trying to get off the ground or whatever, right?
No, the business has existed 3 years before Frederic, Frederic is only a computer engineer, a develloper, that's all.
 
I don't know the entire situation,  I don't mean to be saying, you should do this or that, or whatever...
I know

I know if I was working for your boyfriend, me, personally, I wouldn't be butting into conversations that are happening behind a closed door, that's just bad form, but on the other hand, I wouldn't want to sit there and have to listen to the personal life of my boss and his girlfriend either
Nobody forces him to listen or butt in, the work space is vast, he doesn't hear a thing from where he is, if he intrudes, it's because he wants to, not because he was forced to hear, plus, as i mentionned above, if boyfriend and i didn't sometimes take day time to talk private, we'd never talk at all. Frederic is supposed to take his lunch break, in OR out, but what his bosses do at lunch is none of his business, right ? I mean, if his boss wanted to close the door to watch porn, it would be the same, whay gives him the right to come in and act as if the place was his ?

...you know what I mean...one thing I would do is definitely handle this yourself, don't try and get your boyfriend to take sides, as I think his main concern (at least when he's at work) should be his job, not whether his co-worker gets along with his girlfriend....and I know you can handle yourself.
I have tried and was yelled at by boyfriend for even daring to say a thing to his little Fred darling.
I get on with everyone but this Fred, but i am comforted in the sense that all coworkers past and present find him either weird or insufferable and our clients said that if they had to speak to fred ever again, they would drop us. i do not know what the deal is with this guy, but it's very strange

I hope I'm being too blunt, 'cause my intention isn't to judge one way or the other
I know, i know...

starting a business is tough and it just seems (from the extreme outside) that personal stuff...needs to stay out of the work mix. No harm.
This i know too and the business has been okay for 3 years now, i would never have gone to work for my boyfriend every day unless he had begged me which he did and i don't mix personal with work but it seems this fred person and my boyfriend don't hear it that way ? I was educated by people who said pleasure and business or friendshio and business don't mix, my dad always said i'd never find real friends on work plants because i would think them being real; but the minute i would argue a bout work, i'd lose their friendship ? Therefore, i never mixed. As for my boyfriend, i rarely see him in the day because i stay a lot in my own office ( some of you know that, i have way too much time to surf lol ) but when i do come out with something to say about work or when i come out
at 8 pm, when i have been on the spot, preggers and sat ( not comfy when preggers) for 12 long hours to ask when a good time to head home would be, i expect this fred to keep out of the conversation and not come in the room to give me a " when we've finished !!!"..He is extremely rude !!!

Soo, before i lost my temper, i posted on forums asking people about their opinions because i had started to wonder about how justified was my pain and it seems to be plain justified.

[Eazy E]

It seems to me like your boyfriend doesn't know the first thing about having employees.  I would suggest finding a new job.  There's no reason to feel like shit every single day, and if you find yourself in that position, you have to change something.

Moving to Canada was a good suggestion as long as you don't actually come within 100 miles of MCT (although he tends to stalk some people, but they are mostly males).  It would be a very good place to raise a child, and since you also speak french (right?), finding work becomes that much easier.

[MCT]

Moving to Canada was a good suggestion as long as you don't actually come within 100 miles of MCT

In other words, "move to Mississauga."

And use KM, for fuck's sake...

(although he tends to stalk some people, but they are mostly males).

As if you don't like it...

[Jessica]

I had my mother on the phone tonight.

Although i was trying not to, i broke down in tears.

She told me to sell all i have, and to come to england as soon i can.

I think i am going back to my mother's..it pisses me off, but i have no other choice really.
She said that my baby was family and that it would keep my grandad alive for another 5 years..She has some sayings of her own, truly unique.
Anyway...

I'll keep you updated..

My life is better than any sitcom...

[Lisa]

you and baby will be fine Jess..you are a very strong woman, and like many strong women, it IS hard to be strong...we do what we have to do to survive and ensure the ones we love (baby to be) survive and flourish...don't be pissed about going back to 'Moms'..it is not a step back, just a different step...you  have to stay positive and healthy for yourself and babykins. Not sure how it will may you feel but think of the joy you will be bring back to your family..as you said your Grandad as one. I have to admit it angered me to read about how your bf and Fred the fuckhead treat you....GodSpeed Jess...my warmest wishes for you

[Jessica]

you and baby will be fine Jess..you are a very strong woman, and like many strong women, it IS hard to be strong...we do what we have to do to survive and ensure the ones we love (baby to be) survive and flourish...don't be pissed about going back to 'Moms'..it is not a step back, just a different step...you  have to stay positive and healthy for yourself and babykins. Not sure how it will may you feel but think of the joy you will be bring back to your family..as you said your Grandad as one. I have to admit it angered me to read about how your bf and Fred the fuckhead treat you....GodSpeed Jess...my warmest wishes for you

Thanks Lis..

You know, being a strong woman also means i tend to meet men who want to, consciouly or not, crush me.
I have never been happy in love because i have always met men who stood in my " sun" as my father used to say.
Like you bring sun to people who have none ? And who suck you until there is no more left ?

I am terrified of moving back to england, to my mothers. I have issues with mum. Big ones. I know she tries to do her role, but i am scared of what SHE is capable of. I have to be very fast in her house, just a " thank you thank you and i am out with a house and a job" sort of thing or i'll end up just as bad as now.

Fuxk, when you think all i wanted was a calm life, a real love and a family of my own with a job i could enjoy, i just have this very bitter feeling that i fucked it all up.

[*Izzy*]

I had my mother on the phone tonight.

Although i was trying not to, i broke down in tears.

She told me to sell all i have, and to come to england as soon i can.

I think i am going back to my mother's..it pisses me off, but i have no other choice really.
She said that my baby was family and that it would keep my grandad alive for another 5 years..She has some sayings of her own, truly unique.
Anyway...

I'll keep you updated..

My life is better than any sitcom...

Good luck

  Izzy?

[Jessica]

I had my mother on the phone tonight.

Although i was trying not to, i broke down in tears.

She told me to sell all i have, and to come to england as soon i can.

I think i am going back to my mother's..it pisses me off, but i have no other choice really.
She said that my baby was family and that it would keep my grandad alive for another 5 years..She has some sayings of her own, truly unique.
Anyway...

I'll keep you updated..

My life is better than any sitcom...

Good luck

  Izzy 

I don't need luck babe, i need prozac 

[*Izzy*]

I don't need luck babe, i need prozac

You need happiness not anti-depressents
Either way I'm sure England won't be too bad

  Izzy?

[Jessica]

I don't need luck babe, i need prozac

You need happiness not anti-depressents
Either way I'm sure England won't be too bad

  Izzy 

Hapiness ? forgot what it means..

[Sin Cut]

I don't need luck babe, i need prozac

You need happiness not anti-depressents
Either way I'm sure England won't be too bad

  Izzy?

To england where it rains, move somewhere sunny.

Really, it makes me mad to read all this and not finding any easy way out. It seems you'de be better without him anyway. And would things be any better when the baby is born? Somehow I doubt it, he seems somewhat like my old man.

Just try to hang on

[Jessica]

I don't need luck babe, i need prozac

You need happiness not anti-depressents
Either way I'm sure England won't be too bad

  Izzy 

To england where it rains, move somewhere sunny.

Really, it makes me mad to read all this and not finding any easy way out. It seems you'de be better without him anyway. And would things be any better when the baby is born? Somehow I doubt it, he seems somewhat like my old man.

Just try to hang on

If your old man is like this, then, i feel very sorry for you.