Can A Man and Woman Be Just Friends?

[N.I.B]

YES. All throughout high school I only had male friends (and I am a girl). and I have been going out with the same guy for 4 years so that means that I was only with one guy all through high school. I had many close guy friends and I never was attracted to any of them. I would even spend the night at their houses and stuff.

I think girls can't be girls friends cause they hate each other I don't know any woman that trust another woman.

Lesbians

My mistake I forget about them?

No problem.

[Where is Hassan Nasrallah ?]

if you're not attracted to the girl i can you can easily be friend with her.

and then, my girlfriend is my best friend too. (i mean one of them)

and my best girlfriend is pretty much like a best buddy, my g/f wasnt pleased with that at first, she was like "she is too cute to be JUST your friend", but i wasnt attracted to her, never, so now it's accepted ....

but i guess, even with a real hot girl, you sometimes HAVE to be JUST friends because of numerous limitations (you have a g/f, she has a b/f, she is 5, you're 46 ....)

 

[Dave_Rose]

I think they can.

If they have no physical attraction to one another OR IF their moral standards are high enough.

I have to agree there

[Sakib]

yeh

[*Izzy*]

she is 5, you're 46 ....)

? This was a joke I hope

  Izzy?

[MadmanDan]

Of course they can.


They both have to be gay though.

Not both, just him 

[D]

its not because i dont trust my woman its more that i know how 90 percent of guys are and very few straight men want to be "just friends" with an attractive lady

Pffft, does anyone here actually believe that D's woman is an "attractive lady"??

Dude i really dont think your mom would like to hear that u find her unattractive

now go to your room, do your homework, clean up your room, keep that music down and stepdaddy D here will prepare u a nice hot bowl of dick for breakfast!

[noonespecial]

I think the answer is yes, especially if the dude is married with children...if the dude or dudette is either married with kids or living with someone, or they may be separated from the mother of the kid, either way there's is still baggage attached to him and\or her...there's no other choice but to be friends...why would one voluntarily want to get involved with a guy (or girl) if he or she already has baggage...especially if the guy has a kid...cause that always means there's a "baby's mom" on the scene...relationships are weird enough without baggage...just my two cents

[D]

if i were married, maybe

with my situation id find it impossible

where i live over 200 miles away, the thought of some guy "friend" seeing her more than i do wouldnt sit well with me and would ultimately drive me crazy leading to our demise. Now if we lived together and the dude knew me and knew the consequences of tryin to manipulate or go any further than friends, i could maybe deal with it. but in my current situation id have to say it would be a big hell no

not all guys are wolves in sheeps clothing but almost every guy ive ever known uses the buddy technique to get in a girl's good graces and a lot of guys are very very good at it.

id feel threatened if my woman felt the need to have a bunch of other guys around, it would make me feel inadequate

im sure its a case by case basis but for me the answer is definitely no.

of course if it were some next door neighbor they grew up with their whole life thats understandable but if they met someone at work or somewhere and started talkin, exchanged phone numbers, that isnt cool to me however if they have a friend at work and a bunch of them conversate at break but thats as far as it goes, i can deal with that.

yeah the girl may tell the guy she has a boyfriend but trust me, guys dont give a shit, there is no loyalty amongst guys, if they are attracted to a girl, they will do whatever it takes to get what they want.


you show me a guy who only wants to be friends with an attractive lady, and ill show u a guy who is full of shit or gay

[*Izzy*]

you show me a guy who only wants to be friends with an attractive lady, and ill show u a guy who is full of shit or gay

I must be full of shit then cos I definetley ain't the latter?

  Izzy?

[Drew]

No

one or the other will end up attracted to the other at some point

its not impossible but i think its very rare.


It doesnt have to develop into anything but either the girl will start likin the guy, or the guy will start likin the girl at some point.

I kind of agree with your point, D. But if a relationship does develop into more than friends, which isn't easy in stopping sometimes, it will most likely ruin a friendship. Is it worth it?.....Absolutely NOT. 

The friends involved have to have their hearts and minds in the right place.

[D]

i mean its not impossible but i know how most guys are, not all guys, but most guys and i wouldnt want one of them around my woman cause id have a hard time believin they wanted to be only friends.

like i said, if its one of my friends and they develop a friendship, thats totally cool, i dont mind my girlfriend talkin to my friends at all

but if its some stranger that i have never met or dont know id be very very suspicious and with good reason i believe.

plus guys are so manipulative and such dogs for the most part

they will be your friend, they will respect that u have a BF, but u let the first crack in that armor show and i guarantee they will pounce and steer the girls misery over problems in her relationship to their advantage.

a lot of girls dont wanna believe that shit and a lot of you guys wont disclose the dark secrets within but its true ladies

if a guy is just your friend 95 percent of the time he is thinking of ways to further that relationship

[a fan]

Well, think about two (heterosexual) men. ?A woman can come between those two men, obviously because of sex. ?Sex gets in the way of life and relationships one way or another, directly or indirectly. ?If you are attracted to someone, you can't be "just friends" with them no matter what your or their gender/sexual preference. ?But just because you are not attracted to someone, doesn't mean that you can be friends with them. ?Sometimes someone outside your friendship will come between your friendship. ?Women always do that, come between two men's friendship.

[Drew]

There's no way I could sit here and say I've never had "motives" for something more than friendship with a girl. Sometimes I lose my morals and ethics from time to time. I think both men and women are guilty of this. It doesn't make it right. And we learn from our transgressions. I think it's a part of life and growing up. And I've found out the hard ways, it's not woth ruining a friendship.

[Mattman]

Girls always tell me that they want to be "friends".? It sucks ass, primarily because it's always a candycoated way of saying "you're unattractive".

[a fan]

Girls always tell me that they want to be "friends".? It sucks ass, primarily because it's always a candycoated way of saying "you're unattractive".

It probably means they're not interested in your friendship either.  Maybe it's best to be a little attracted to all your friends, but never wanting to take it to a sexual level.  Then there will be no tension if you know that you think each other is hot.  Otherwise, it's one-sided or not at all (which can lead to things) and that can cause problems.  You don't want to have a "that's gay" attitude if one of your same-sex friends touches you (in a non-sexual way), 'cause that is sexual tension whether you're attracted to them or not.

[D]

i would love to write a book on this


id love to conduct experiments


let a guy and a girl of different backgrounds, looks etc hang out and review the results


for instance let two attractive people hang around one another for a month straight everday see what happens


let two unattractive people hang around

let one attractive female, one unattractive guy hang out

let one unattractive female and one attractive guy

i can tell u already what will happen


the two attractive people more than likely hook up at least sexually and maybe something more depending on their personalities and how they get along

the two unattractive people will also more than likely hook up depending on their personalities.

the unattractive male will grow feelings for the attractive female but she will only wanna be friends

the unattractive girl will more than likely grown a crush on the attractive male, he wont like her in a GF way but would still more than likely let her give him head


ive been around this stuff all my life and ive always been a very observant person, i am fascinated by people and their relationships and the above scenarios ive seen happen a million times.

sure there are exceptions but i think the majority of situations would transpire close to my model above.

[*Izzy*]

It would be hard to judge whether or not the people are attractive it's an opinion, someone you think is ugly another guy could find attractive.

  Izzy?

[D]

dude work with me here

[*Izzy*]

Sorry? ? ? Good look with the book?

  Izzy?