I feel....

[hippiechick914]

I think we should have a thread where we tell each other how we feel and act as if we really care...like group therapy for free 'cause professionals suck at their jobs and don't know shit except money and textbook solutions where one size fits all and no size fits anybody.

[gnrhamm]

Do you really want people to know your problems?

[Dot]

Judging from the threads you've started lately it seems you are having quite a few personal demons to release. I've had demons for years now and they still don't give up completely.

[dashingshlump]

i reckon its probably a good idea
most of us in here are pretty messed up anyway, and this way if we say something we regret we can delete our profile and start again under the guise of a spanish pancake maker.
right i'll get started then
i can't be bothered with college anymore, and i know that if i stop i'll get chucked out and face some major resentment from my parents.
ergh

shlump

[Tj]

I think we should have a thread where we tell each other how we feel and act as if we really care

but we don't care!   just kidding. erm, i'm not sure if this thread will get off the ground but it might be a good idea. don't expect to hear many of my problems though.

[hippiechick914]

No, like people's feelings.  Like happy,sad, mad, glad, blah, blah blah.  Did you guys really expect me to give a fuck about you or your problems [rofl]?  I don't even give a fuck about mine, and that is probably why I have so many, but I digress 'cause I feel like it.  Just like vent dudes.  Get it all off your chest, pull it out of your ass, I don't really care [ok]

Okay I feel weird

[electra]

Okay then. Well, right now I feel ambivalent. Mostly because I'm cooking dinner at the moment and dinner's roast beef with yorkshire puds. Now I normally love roast beef with yorkshire puds  [drooling] (also scalloped potatoes and asparagus are on the menu tonight) but I feel a little ambivalent/slightly nervous/confused about it because they found a mad cow in the province next to mine and there's a couple of farms near my house that have been quarantined.  [nervous] I dunno what to think anymore.  [confused] I love meat,  [drooling] there's no way I could give it up, but all this mad cow business is making me nervous.

So that's what I'm feeling right now.  [peace]

[GypsySoul]

I don't like people.

I don't understand this "friendship" stuff.  I don't think I ever had a friend nor do I want any.  If someone is nice to me it seems it's always because I have something they want.  It's always about what I can do for them.

The people I work with all hate me because I've been doing this job a long time so I know alot more stuff than they do and so the higher-ups will always come to me first.  And because of my job I have alot of "connections" so I think they're jealous of that, too.  There's only a few of them that actually talk to me but it's only find out work stuff to make themselves look good or to try and find out my personal business.

But people always talk about me (in a good way) to other people like I have the most fascinating life in the world......and believe me, I don't.  Then they'll come up to me the next day and tell me how they were talking about me.   I never get invited anywhere but I'm the topic of their conversations.  What's up with that?

The only reason my married 'boyfriend' is with me is for the sex.....we have nothing else in common.  I know he would never be there for me if I needed anything.  And I can't call him up just to talk or anything because he has a wife and a whole life with her.  But I think the real reason I'm with him is because I don't want to be committed to anyone and since he's already committed to someone else - he's safe (if you know what I mean).

That's it.  That's how I feel.

[Tj]

Okay then. Well, right now I feel ambivalent.

ambivalent! that's my favourite word  [ok] i created a new AIM screen name, y'see. it's 'maybe ambivalent'. i was quite proud of myself for that. that's how i feel right now, errr proud.

[AdZ]

Okay then. Well, right now I feel ambivalent. Mostly because I'm cooking dinner at the moment and dinner's roast beef with yorkshire puds. Now I normally love roast beef with yorkshire puds  [drooling] (also scalloped potatoes and asparagus are on the menu tonight) but I feel a little ambivalent/slightly nervous/confused about it because they found a mad cow in the province next to mine and there's a couple of farms near my house that have been quarantined.  [nervous] I dunno what to think anymore.  [confused] I love meat,  [drooling] there's no way I could give it up, but all this mad cow business is making me nervous.

So that's what I'm feeling right now.  [peace]

what? no roast tatoes?

[WagMyDog]

I don't like people.

That's bad ... do you like something? Maybe dogs or cats?

I don't understand this "friendship" stuff.  I don't think I ever had a friend nor do I want any.  If someone is nice to me it seems it's always because I have something they want.  It's always about what I can do for them.

You don't want any friends? I'm sorry, but I can't understand that. I realise that it feels pretty bad to realise someone's just being nice to you to get something from you, believe me, I know how that feels. But, don't you wish you had someone to tell all this to? I mean, us posters know you but not as well as a good friend would ... You should consider online friends ... This doesn't mean you have to be online a lot ... just meet up, talk a bit and stuff. And online friends rarely 'want' anything from you. The only reason I'm telling you this is because I've been really lucky with online friends (all of whom are or were on this Board) MCT, DTH, AG, Skeba, Jarmo ... of course (I hope you don't feel bad guys) one of my BEST friends .. Michele (misCHieF)

(BTW, if you want ... I'm always there ... )

The people I work with all hate me because I've been doing this job a long time so I know alot more stuff than they do and so the higher-ups will always come to me first.  And because of my job I have alot of "connections" so I think they're jealous of that, too.  There's only a few of them that actually talk to me but it's only find out work stuff to make themselves look good or to try and find out my personal business.

You should treat your work 'friends' as merely acquaintances. Share a joke, lunch or something, but remember to keep them at arms length.. that way, they can never reach out to hug you, and end up stabbing you in the back.

But people always talk about me (in a good way) to other people like I have the most fascinating life in the world......and believe me, I don't.  Then they'll come up to me the next day and tell me how they were talking about me.   I never get invited anywhere but I'm the topic of their conversations.  What's up with that?

I've never been in this situation. People always talk crap about me when I'm not around. And they usually tell me about it when they meet me ... that's probably why I've never actually wanted to witness one of these conversations...

The only reason my married 'boyfriend' is with me is for the sex.....we have nothing else in common.  I know he would never be there for me if I needed anything.  And I can't call him up just to talk or anything because he has a wife and a whole life with her.  But I think the real reason I'm with him is because I don't want to be committed to anyone and since he's already committed to someone else - he's safe (if you know what I mean).

I think if it's just sex between you two ... you should try meeting other guys. If you're not ready for anything serious by the time they are, you can tell them the truth, either they'll wait patiently (which will tell you a lot), or they'll walk out (in which case, you'll be better off ..). Either way, you'll end up on the winning side.

This is hardly a completely thought out response to your problem, it's only as much as I can garner right now. Talk to your new online friend about it. I'm sure he/she will be willing to help you out.

[Danny Top Hat]

I feel...tired.

As well as this, I also don't like people.

I don't like the people I see when I turn on my TV.  Those detail-less, camera-friendly people, who care only about what sells, and change their acts accordingly to suit whatever's in.  Make up only reduces beauty, and covers up the things people should be most proud of.  Every day I see them, and it makes me sick.

I don't like the people I see when I go to school.  The little shits who wouldn't be such rude, homophobic wankers if they would just experiment with smiling once in a while.  The horrible people who can't accept the idea of being nice to others, for reasons that I will never understand.

I also don't like people who don't think for themselves.  We are told a lot of things, by the government and the media and our parents, and I do not like the people who take all of this at face value.  People should be smart enough to form their own views, opinions and values, instead of having someone else tell them what to think.

I don't like people who don't appreciate art, or don't care about it.  The type of people who say "oh I don't like Blur's new song, because it's mellow".  There is so much beauty in this world that people could just unlock if they could only be bothered to put a bit of thought into it.

Finally, I don't like...George Bush.

[WagMyDog]

Encore.

I don't like the people I see when I turn on my TV.  Those detail-less, camera-friendly people, who care only about what sells, and change their acts accordingly to suit whatever's in.  Make up only reduces beauty, and covers up the things people should be most proud of.  Every day I see them, and it makes me sick.

I don't like the people I see when I go to school.  The little shits who wouldn't be such rude, homophobic wankers if they would just experiment with smiling once in a while.  The horrible people who can't accept the idea of being nice to others, for reasons that I will never understand.

I also don't like people who don't think for themselves.  We are told a lot of things, by the government and the media and our parents, and I do not like the people who take all of this at face value.  People should be smart enough to form their own views, opinions and values, instead of having someone else tell them what to think.

I don't like people who don't appreciate art, or don't care about it.  The type of people who say "oh I don't like Blur's new song, because it's mellow".  There is so much beauty in this world that people could just unlock if they could only be bothered to put a bit of thought into it.

Finally, I don't like...George Bush.

[GypsySoul]

Thank you, WagMyDog, for taking the time to analyze my situation and especially for your offer to be my "online" friend.  
If you ever need a kidney, you can have one of mine!  [ok]

Danny Top Hat:  I agree with everything you said...except I like 'Dubya'  
I already promised WMD my kidney, but if you need a blood transfusion, I'm here for you.


I think the concept of "friends" is just a matter of individual perspective.  For example, WMD seems to feel that me not having or wanting friends is a "problem".......(okay, okay - WMD, my shrink, my family and the rest of the world thinks I have a problelm)....... But I don't think so.

Also, I couldn't care less about dogs&cats but I hate it when people treat them better than they treat other people.

The people I work with ARE to me only acquaintances.  When they take the credit for work that I did or don't include me in their 'fun time', instead of letting that eat me up inside like it used to, I now look at it as a compliment to all that I am able to accomplish in my worklife.  If people don't like me because I'm good at what I do or because I take pride in my work, well, that's their problem and not mine.

About people talking good about me when I'm not there.......I think it would be nice to actually hear it myself.  These same people have no problem talking crap about me to my face.

As for talking online.......I have had alot of fun here & at the Gilby Forum.  I enjoy discussing stuff & FIGHTING with people, too.  But to me, you are all like the voices in my head.......I can't see you, so are you really real???

And honestly (para-phrasing my favorite rock star):  If you got to know me, you'd probably hate my fuckin' guts!

[hippiechick914]

I feel...violated [crying]

Don't ever give out yourself if another person isn't willing to give back any of themselves in return

I want to play with boys...but you suck  [rant]

[Thumper]

As for talking online.......I have had alot of fun here & at the Gilby Forum.  I enjoy discussing stuff & FIGHTING with people, too.  But to me, you are all like the voices in my head.......I can't see you, so are you really real???

And honestly (para-phrasing my favorite rock star):  If you got to know me, you'd probably hate my fuckin' guts!

We're real.  And if you're A- blood type, I'd donate some for you.  I really, really doubt we'd hate you if we got to know you though.  Well, I wouldn't be too happy if you tried to throw me in a sack and into the river...  You're ok Gypsy!

[Sukie]

I feel tired.  I need to go to bed, but don't want to.  I also feel stupid, cause I know that tomorrow will be hell because I won't go to bed.   And it will be no one's fault but my own.

I think everyone needs someone to unload on.  Friends do have a tendency to come and go.  Lives change.  Someone gets married, has kids, moves...  At the moment, I have one good friend that I share "most" everything with.  It's good.  We both tell each other things that we would be embarassed telling anyone else.  We joke that we'll have to stay friends for life because we both know too much shit about the other one.  I know one thing, I'd hate to have her turn on me!   [nervous]

Gypsy-  are you close to your family?  In times where I haven't had a close friend to talk to, my mom was a lifesaver!  I don't think that not having a friend is a problem as long as you have someone to share the heavy stuff with.  You like quotes, what about "No man is an island?"  

[Danny Top Hat]

Heh.  WMD stands for 'WagMyDog' and 'Weapons of Mass Destruction'.

Coincidence?

[GypsySoul]

gypsysoul, how old are you?

I'm old.  Very, Very OLD!!!
And my life philosophy is:  People are scum.  Never count on anyone but yourself.
If someone else does something good to/for/with you - you're ahead of the game.
If they don't - you're not disappointed.

Gypsy- are you close to your family?

One of my older brothers taught me that philosophy.  It took me a long time - and alot of pain - but I finally learned that lesson.  

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We're real.

Oh yeah, right, your all really real.  And there's a Finnish farmer, living in Sweden, who can speak Dutch!  [hihi]

And if you're A- blood type, I'd donate some for you.

[no] B+

I really, really doubt we'd hate you if we got to know you though.

[yes] Yes, you would!!!  I'm real annoying!!!

Well, I wouldn't be too happy if you tried to throw me in a sack and into the river...

I would never ever do something like that to you!  
Well, not since you said you would make me a LimpBiskitSexSlave if I did.  [nervous]

[Tj]

hmm...on the whole friends issue. i have...3, maybe 4, friends (excluding those online) who i really cherish, and i just tolerate everybody else. i'm a really cynical, critical bastard. all the friends i cherish are males (which i'm sure won't come as any surprise to you, gypsy). shlump, john, james, and maybe steve. i'm not sure about steve.

edit: oh, and there was heidi, who i remember shlump and i both said we truly liked, one night when we were out walking with john. i used to love her, but i had to kill her.