Here Today... Gone To Hell!

Soo,

I'm starting my own relationship thread, this is from me straight to you. If you wan't advice, just ask, but keep in mind, my way isn't the pussies way (or actually wait..  :hihi: you get the point anyway).

Todays topic, what is the freakiest shit when seeing someone that is a total turn off and makes you lose all hope about anything with that person? Sure a corpse in the freezer is bad but get real people.

I go first,

....it starts like any other of my stories; there was this girl I got intimate with, but there werern't strings attached, we hung out of, maybe, three weeks.

She hits me with a message when I'm at a band rehearsel, if I'd like to hang out, but since my bandmates gf isn't with him tonight night either, we decide we have a guys night instead.

I hit her back, she calls me right after that but I don't have anything to say so I don't reply and I know the call was an attempt to push her into my company for tonight (which bar etc.)

Later she finds me (which wasnt that hard really, I got a fave nightclub I visit). And she actually expecting that my way is a sure thing.

I feel harrased, I won't crash a girls night if a girl I'm not dating want's to go out with the girls, that's just not cool! Seriously she's keeping a watch over me.

It feels like she got some serious issues, if this happens now, just wait when we're really dating. No way.

So I tell her she got it wrong, I don't need her company tonight and leave (escape really, I actually *felt* being pressed to something I didn't want to).



So for me when a girl isn't even a challenge, or when one gets too possesive, that's my signal for GO.



Other thing just to think about, why do some women expecting something after they give it? (See chart at the bottom)

You can quote me on this;
"funny  thing about women
They always set their pussy on a pedestal
I mean, don't they get it? Every girl has one" - Sin Cut

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Shouldn't this thread be called "Getting laid advice"?

Not really since usually my attempts to get a friend laid fail (you can guess who she's into)

i mean I got tips but you can't teach selfesteem or to do what works for me, or it works first then he gets exgited "wow she's still here and BLAM blows it

Hai, not all women have those opportunities and not all men are easy to get in bed.

Kthx... :P



Yeah, some do. How annoying. I think they dream of someone to love and adore them.

And your attempts at relationships?  ;D

But maybe you're just a bad teacher, cause what you do can definitely be taught. Either way I think most people are in too much denial to accept advice from a free spirit such as you. (but we both know this is just you boasting anyway, so who cares right?  ;))

Oh, and of course; In before predictable indignated replies from weak men.

I gotta say that the graphic is hilarious!!!

i think it's all about selfesteem, if you don't have, then to get it you have to see yourself differently, and that's no small thing to do.

And yes I boast, but I don't exaggerate.

That's for those who ain't getting for real. :)

worst thing a girl can do is talk about another guy or mention something another guy did that u did etc.

total turn off.

Relationship advice from YOU?
Really, Sin Cut, no offence, but I don't think your opinion of women is healthy to start with and then there's the fact that there are a lot of impressionable young teens on this forum.
Maybe no advice is the best advice.

I agree with Genesis. Your posts on here show that you are an attention seeking individual with very little respect for the female of the species.

Please do not take this as a criticism though; you are a young man who is enjoying life, and there is nothing wrong with that.

However, please do not attempt to offer advice to people with more life experience than you. If you are still posting here in 20 years time, you would appreciate what I was saying.

How about me? :hihi:

The pagan (and no, for the 100th time, it's not racism/nazism/sexism, just openess about body and naturalistic) philosophy allows for polygami-
-which is kinda...advanced sometimes.

But, what is your advice(s) tho DR.Lovegun...you just complained about how some girl did you wrong :P




Is the word female anything else than a term for the reproductive system tho?

The graphic was funny. You could change the male and female cartoons to MEL and Oksana. Not all women are golddiggers though.

The biggest turn off for me happened when this medical student wanted to date/marry me. He had never been out of the state of Wisconsin, and I was only talking to him because he was a friend of a friend. Anyway i was talking about this neurosurgeon I liked. Later that evening we see the neurosurgeon at the Wisconsin Union on UW. Randy, the medical student starts givng me a back rub in front of the neurosurgeon. It's like he was claiming me as his. I was so annoyed because he had 0% chance with me, and I had a crush on the neurosurgeon. I made the mistake of going on a couple dates witht his guy, and he starts talking marriage and wanting 5 kids. I said i would never have 5 kids, being thin is way too important to me, and he said YOU DON't Mean that. I'm like dude, YES I DO! (And I wouldn't want any kids with him!) The 2 times he kissed me,I wanted to throw up. But I couldn't be that mean and tell him that.  He stopped calling me when I told him that he came on too strong, and I kept going on about the neurosurgeon.

So Sincut, what is the best way to turn down a guy you have no attraction to without being mean or a total bitch?

Do you have seven evil exes?  :hihi:

No evil exes. Just haven't found my  true love yet. :hihi:

And my attempts at relationships are in quantity :D but right now I'm enjoying being single, a relationship comes when the time is right. And you're right, it can be taught, and I guess everyone have had this "oh no, he didn't just say/do that?!"-moment when a friend is trying his luck? :D


Yeah, from me, I've started and ended quite a lot of them so that makes me perfectly qualified for Dr. Loveguns doctors degree.


Norway, just ask away and thou shall receive.


Well, you've made a mistake of kissing and going on a date with him, which propably got his hopes up. Secondly, who talks about wanting five kids on a second date?! Talk about going forward too much.

And about those five kids, I must wonder if this is a short or longterm plan. Did he give you any timeframe in this? Are you sure it was with one partner or many?  :hihi:

Seriously, I expect a simple not returning phone call won't do the trick so I guess you can do two things. Either enter a relationship with a friend over facebook or tell him "Listen, Randy, I'm sorry this isn't going to work" and leave it at that. Usually too much explaining just makes it worse.

For an example "Hey, this isn't about you, it's all about me, it's me who don't do fat girls, I mean I can do chubby, but you've left chubbyville ages ago. I'm sure you'll find someone else, propably someone blind. He'll realize his mistake as soon as he touches you, but you can propably squeeze in a couple of dates before that happens.." Yeah, better leave unsaid.

So yes, the best way is just to say to his face that it won't work, because sometimes when someone wants to believe in something a simple hint wont work.

If it's a stalker even a "no, never and over my dead body" wont work.

be the exception to the rule right sin.

Thanks Sin Cut. You actually are quite wise.

What advice would you give Mel Gibson about Oksana?

You can't. Life is tough, no way around it. Tell him he's too aggressive, insecure, needy, weak or whatever. Bottom line is he makes you uncomfortable and you don't need any reason beyond that. You might even end up doing the guy a favor, and perhaps most importantly you will increase your chances with the doctor because he, being a dominant man, will percieve you as a strong willed woman who meets his higher standards. Going on several dates with a guy you don't like from the get go is just weak and is the main reason a lot of people will percieve you as being a mean spirited bitch. A man like the doctor might even think "who the fuck is this child?".

Btw, aren't you the testament that your own cartoon is false SC?

Don't listen to Pollux!

Mkay?

And Emo-Annie, if you represent yourself and define personal limits it's gets easier. You attract more suitable peeps then.-
-if not you can talk.


Kthx...

 ;D

wow you know i was going to call an ex but thought first.
i was going to hit for that very thing,no strings.and when he got all serious i got freaked out.after being with a man 16 yrs and burried his ass.not to be mean really but i love freedom now really.scary coz first i didn't know what alone was like.head not all fixed on this guy an who knows i just want sex ?
now when it turned on him hhmm never thought i wasn't the serious type.nnaahh not anymore for quite a bit.now a no-string-thing ,yes all about it.coz when they start saying shit about habbits and trying to control me.im  good ,no thanks '

Mad Mel The Road Warrior really palyed his cards wrong n this. Since Mel's ex-wife is teaming with Mel saying he never hurt the kids, I gotta believe it. Mosta hollywood ex's seem bitter to the bone and my call is that Oksana is too. But Mel should've kept his threats to himself since in this chain reaction there's gonna a shit storm from the media. I mean the guy produced the film Paparazzi?! Oh, the irony.  :hihi:

The medical student thing happened a long time ago. This is more recent, aka last week. What do you do if you are a guest at someone's house, and one of their friends tries to hit on you. You find this person totally repulsive, but you don't want to be rude? You try and be polite, but they won't take a hint.

Honesty without compromise little emo, is my advice : ok:

Way I see it, the host is responsible of his guest, if this would happen when I would have friends over, I'd hope that I would know about first.

So have a one-on-one talk with the host, it's his or her responsibilty to do something about it.

There was a situation once, a guy was behaving badly, he was just a bit off, it wasn't just one thing and I guest of mine complained about it to me (one on one) so I decided it was his time to leave, he didn't take it good tho, so I ended up throwing him out by force.

But thinks could've escalate to something worse later if I didn't, someone was bound to lose her temper if I'd let him continue and things could've been worse.

Secondly the host probably knows the person and talk if the guy is anything normal simply having to talk about him hitting on you with the host, who's requesting him to stop usually does the trick.

Ps. you have tendency of having undesirable hitting on you, are you just that hot or picky? :)

Great advice. My hosts were supportive. As to you question of me, probably a little bit of both, but mostly picky. I am looking for a really deep spiritual connection with someone that I find attractive.

hey sin cut
 : ok:
if i take adivice do i fix my love life [problems ?
but finding the right someone for me ,can it be so easy ?other that looking maybe it's been there all along but didn't see it the first time around ?
yeah love looka lot different these days then years before.meaning im looking first before taken that marital bliss.

Horsey, what kind of advice are you asking?

I don't believe in finding the right one. What really matters is that there's enough attraction, the rest is up for the two people to work out the flaws and make it work. Some relationship may seem perfect to others, but beneath the surface there's compromises and hard work.

For me finding the "right one" is about being with someone who I'd make an effort for.

If I don't I'm just in an open relationship, but it seems that these girls see open relationship as "He will date me after we slept with eachother for a while" and usually it ends when she starts to want me for all for herself.

Unless I don't mind that.

But I know I do.

well this guy im talking about is fun,though prolly not the one.i started to talk to him again but only business.but joken about sex along the way.
now ive called him and now he answers and said,he also stoppped over a few times.and that no one told me he did and had no clue.
but it comes to this though.now he answers my calls but before didn't.i figure he must care though.because he did say he stopped over.
but now to play the game right im forceing myself not to call him regularly.that i think was a bad move by doing it everyday.
so coming to conclusion that he has his own life sober and i have mine still doing my thing.
that is why i see this not working but just friends.

Men who play games; avoid.

true i play for keeps '
im getting to old not too.

So, I've been spending the last few weekends with one of my exes from highschool, and while doing so somewhat brought all those old feelings back, spending the night together on more than one occasion kinda' sealed the deal. Thing is, she just got out of a 2+ year relationship and I know she has pretty much O interest in jumping into another one, so I'm sorta' in the position of wondering if this is just a friends with benefits arrangement, or if there's any concievable chance this will go further. Should I just suck it up and let whatever happens happen, taking confidence in the fact that last Friday instead of going home with some guy at a party who spent the whole night trying to pick her up, she ultimately went home with me; also knowing that if I confront her as to where this is going I'll probably push her away?

AxlsMainMan, don't complicate it at the moment bro, just spend time with her regulary, and it'll work out fine.

What's been going on with Sin Cut here;
First I hang out with a woman in her thirties, until she started claming that I'm her man. I was working at a bar and she were at my regular place and had made a scene. Well at least they're fighting over me when I'm not there.

So, needless to say I called it quits and I just might have taken home a 19 year old girl, she was aunt to, with me home.

She called her a little whore who's stealing her man and I'm thinkin "I really need to do a sitcom out of this!"

Anyway we decided on an open relationship, but after a while she started putting some rules like how I couldn't sleep with others, now I didn't but just because I just didn't feel like going through the effort and since I had locked on my target already (more of that if there's some progress). So I told her I'm not really going to have any rules in an open relationship (and I didn't have any rules for her).

Anyway she got pissed last time, propably 'cos I was with a girl I fancy. Although we were just out as friends, she had been asking from one of my friends if I got something going on with her and lied to me that my friend had told her that I did, which I didn't buy.

Later at my place she got mad since I didn't have any feelings for her, or 'cos I didn't feel like going and beating her ex-bf who had smacked her around (not that she had any marks on her) when he heard that she'd been spending the nights.

So I don't miss her, things WERE getting weird, but I'm curious if she calls again.

Oh, and I had her wash my car  :hihi:

sin cut can i ask you something about self respect ?
if you change for a love intreset and it's for the better.but still think maybe the relastionship may work out being fake for love.
i mean i stopped drinking and still have this problem getten through to this man.that i do care enough to stop drinking.
but had remembered why this didn't work the first time.
i called him and last time he said he was involved and not to call him.so i didn't and was very hurt by this,tottally unexpected call reaction.
i went on with my life till now.starting this back up was a mistake.i got in touch for business only.and he played me all along once again.
how much hurt can one person put themselves through ?
there was a reason this wasn't going to work out,i shoulda known.
im not going to drink over it so he can say that's why it doesn't work.and feel better not drinking for myself and that works.but to the story at hand.he said he was coming over sunday,i called and cancelled.cause i know im not upsetten myself when he doesn't show up.
well sin cut what's your thoughts ?

yeah well today i think is the end of us that was nothing to him but a job he got fixen my house.
i called him last night he wants no relastionship at all.and also think he is allready involved.i called on thanksgiving and he called me sweetie wich he never does,so im asumming there is a sweetie in his life.and i am going to let him know about it when we have our talk.

well you know that the heart doesnt work by logic, but i think you know the answer, if he doesnt want anything then just try to let him go.

if i understand correctly you are going to confront him because he has another girl in his life? why? if you dont have a relationship with him.

My advice is postponed due that I might have a difficulty of correctly understanding.

But I must add, he probably meant nothing romantic by the sweetie.

If he's not involved there's nothing wrong about being friends with benefits and who knows, stranger things have happened (no pun intended).

Sometimes it's okay to get involved with someone involved if them man is a wifebeater. Way I see it, I'm a good guy, get laid and have a good chance of roughing the lowlife up.

Finally, newsflash. Men don't like to talk about feelings, especially if there isn't a relationship going on.

Seriously, if a girl comes to me to nailgun me with feelings talk, it means that this whole benefits-thing is over.

it's all good ,thank you.we are just going to be friends with no strings.
but my sister wants to fuck his estimate price he gave.i am true and will pay him for his work.but im going to stop pushing him,he just had his heart broken over his past relationship.

thanks guys.

im just going to believe him,he is getten over another person.

Now that sounds sissy.  :hihi:

When I get over a relationship I'm usually "over" (sometimes under, or on the side or something) of some girl.

Or is just what I do on the weekends, every weekend...?

it's over an im not going to drink over it.i found out yet again he has a woman.but the real point is he spoke to my family like shit about the rest of the job,thats were i draw the line,cya '

I'm on fire.

After being dumped via text message on tuesday I hit the bar a day later, being on a vacation and all.

It was a fun night with drinking games and I even manage to play it cool when this fucker is trying to hit on a girl on my table who's interest is, well, me. Needless to say she wakes up at my place.

I hang with her a few days and decide to go and have a few with my friends on friday. And there's that guy again, constantly picking a fight with me. I do my best to ignore him and tell fim to fuck off since I'm not interested fighting him.

So after the bar is closed I'm talking to this chick, I end up banging, this same guy comes to pick a fight. I tell him to get lost and he grabs my phone and throws it in a puddle. Next thing he knows is my fist connecting to his face and then the bouncer tackles and handcuffs him. The girl I was talking with saves my phone and I notice I can't use it to call a taxi, so I end up at her place.

The next day we're celebrating my b-day and we go to this pub and this absolutely stunning blond girl walks to me and kisses me and tells me I might just be the love of her life.

I think I had a pretty good week, how was yours?

Living the dream  :)
I dont give a fuck if no chicks are interested I am just gonna chill from now on.
Let them come to me for once.

not as good as your's

what about highschool sweetheart's ?
how many of you have stayed with your first loves ?

Class act.
I quite frankly don't give a fuck anymore lol they will come if they are intersted  :hihi:


Joe

i believe in romance '

I use to but that stuff let me down to much. Just gotta let things roll and they will end up coming to you.

i also believe in dangerous romance,that scares me.

Only time u should wait a month to sleep with a chick is if she is 17years and 11 months old :hihi:

Not in Europe.

Right then Dr Lovegun, I have a question

Having been out the game for about 3 and a bit years, I've just started seeing a girl I met online. Its been a month now and we've been out on quite a few dates, we've slept together and things generally couldn't be better.

Monday is Valentines day and well, I wanna impress her a little. Its the week before my pay comes in but I have a little stashed away.

I'm thinking flowers, card & home cooked meal (before some sweet lovin)

What advice would you give to someone in my situation?

Well, being a romantic isn't my strong side. Even if I'm known to dangle in that field if a girl is worth the effort.

You said you've been seeing her for a month so your plan with flowers, card and home cooked meal sounds nice and I'm sure you won't fail with it. But it isn't anything different, exiting or you. In other words it seems the easiest way to go.

(But then it's better than nothing, so I dare the ungrateful bitch to complain.)

Now if you want to impress her don't go with what you think is a nice thing to do before getting laid, but and instead try to do what she would want. For an example ask her friends for some ideas.

And be careful; doubling the bets and going over the top with something truly special in this early stage might just be a bit wrong. And you'd have hard time coming up with something better next year :D



I'd keep the flowers and the card and ditch the home cooked meal and go with some picnic or restaurant and later at home light a few candles and open a bottle of wine. Or let's go with the orginal plan, but take her to a spa to relax or something.


I'll give you kudos for not with the heart shaped choclate box, that's so lame, unless she a fat chocolate guzzler.

Women seem to love this http://www.firebox.com/product/332/Secret-Message-Arrow (http://www.firebox.com/product/332/Secret-Message-Arrow) just read the comments.


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What kind of boyfriend "absolutely loves" this shit?!

Thanks Dr Lovegun,

I'll ditch the meal and make her cook

I see what you did there, and you should maybe have put it in a bit more plain english for our simpler readers (i.e. Don't be a pussy)

will give firebox a look, but my wallet will be stretched with those gas station flowers I pick up on the way home from work, ;D

keep up the good work and I'll report back next week!

Dear disciples, Andy1981 here is my brightest, smartest and most promising pupil. Be in awe.

Here's some words of wisdom from yours truly.

"The real reason a man hits on a girl - is to fight masturbation."

how bout if you like mastrubation lol.and don't hit women lol.
just stoppin in ta be lonely on valentines day.

if a secret admirer wanted to send flowers ,should a girl be surprized ?

Holy shit.

Yes shocking

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how bout i''ll take the money instead of love shit.

reason for saying that is simple.if a man loves a woman for her personality more then looks.it would seem like more of a getten to know someone before judgen them.how would one know love was for this woman and not betrayel just for money sake.how woul;d a person know real love from something to gain love ?

Happy Valentine's Day Sincut. Thanks for all you great advice. You are hot enough to get away without being a romantic. :beer:
Try and not break too many hearts today.

Thanks Annie  :love:

Still got feelings for that girl but its clear she is with that swimmer kid fuck it all gonna smoke those ghosts away  :smoking:

Swimmer kid? 0_o

I think you meet one of them in the Pokemon games if I remember....


Anyway, happy Valentine's Day, motherfuckers.

yeah what's love got ta do with raw dirty sex huh.
another reason to make a woman give head for something she knows not why lol.
and thus the return men hmmm ,now ur talkin lol.

^ prolly to make her shut up.

Next question, class.

 :crying:

omg you know how to be a badboy don't you sin cut.
whhooppee he wins '
 :peace:

Hahaha my point is he looks like me but I can tell he acts like a fag. Whatever if she dont want a rocker its her lose even though its been me falling apart the last few months. Sin Cut any advice to share?

im sorry but rock me like a hurricaine just came in my head.
ooppss
lisen one could think the rocker type was kool but if that rocker type was what it was worth maybe the biker part would still be in his heart.
only saying what's on my mind bout ur sich.

O trust me I got the biker in my heart. And been looking at a lot of other girls haha but she still has something over me but at this point it doesn't matter hope she is happy with the swimmer kid.

hhmm ok then...

ok sin cut
just joined one of them daten sites online.waca think of that,me im not sure.im just browsen the market lol.

Wait, you look like a swimmer-fag?!

First; change you style from the pink and caramel flavored colors.

More importantly the second thing you must to do is this; get out of your comfort zone. You strike to me as a shy sensitive guy and there's nothing wrong with that, but c'mon that doesn't help you with the ladies.

So, start talking to girls and go out with them, this may be hard at first, but it'll get easier, the more you do it, the more it is your thing. Unless you're a hideous obese fucker, but really it ain't all about looks. It's about how you carry yourself, about you self-esteem.

By doing this you ain't desperate or a sure thing. Often girls take who know who I am take a chance with me, since their window of opportunity is right there and closing.

Also when you get laid be sure to take care of her needs. The girls talk, you know.

It's as easy as it gets when a chick comes to you an says "The talk is that you're good, I'd like to try." Trust me, it happens.


There's nothing wrong with that, just don't go for the profiles without a pic and ask for some recent pics before meeting. I'd imagine it'd be real awkward meeting someone who has posted a pic dated few years ago which, now, could very well be another person.

ok i know about people passen them slves off as something they are not.it's the net right,what people do.
ive allways been kinna leary of people and trusten them,im not sure still but lookin.
found out of coarse a fee is involved,feel like im buying love .strange even for that cheep lol.
may take sometime to think if it's really what id like.a total stranger hhmm scary shit.
i allways am leary cause of freaks and stalkers if im involved.

had a friend of my sister's who was murdered by a b/f.
still scares me to this day.that would be the leary part.
you never know about someones past.or how they really may turn out,maybe im just parinoid still.i sorta mess with people im familier with.

Well dude, I took your advice and all went well.

I even got a special treat afterwords  ;D

the gas station were out of flowers so I had to go to the local mall.

s'all good in the hood this end  :beer:

Haha, great job. See, dear pupils, it pays to study hard. And it pays to listen to your teacher.

But remember; I didn't study; I live(d) it.

Hahaha I mean our physical features he has no style. Thanks for the advice and yeah I been working on it hopefully I will get lucky prom coming up and shit. Started talking to this one girl I took out she said she was thinking about me so who knows what will happen  :)

Oh how I love being married ;D

:hihi: Happy for ya  :)

yeah that sounds like something i should have done years ago.
liven with a man 16 yrs and dies from cancer,not fun.but thought single life could be fun but nope.
miss being with a partner really.flyin solo is boring really.
hhmm maybe someday '

hadda laugh ,so true.

Great job jdog, I hope everything goes well!  : ok:

Yep if not it's no big deal still a few other girls that I know have feelings for me at school if not whatever plan on getting the fuck out in a few years so feeling good!

aahh to be back in school,hhmm old school maybe lol.

Well I am not gonna lie I still have feelings for that girl I have had then since the first time I saw her I thought that's what angles look like. But if I am not good enough for her that's fine I just hope she is happy. Still gonna miss the hell out of her but got to keep moving or everything will fall apart again.

if it's ment to be,give it some time.who knows in the future what's too happen.maybe if she seem's interested once she realizes that you are a nice guy.
maybe in time she can respect that you want her.don't give up things change and women do change there minds when,other's seem not right for her.
id not be given up just yet,maybe some flowers sent her way.ever think of that yet,romance works.girls dig a sensative man,really we do.from a woman's point,that's all.

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I know what your saying and yeah lately all I been thinking about is her but I'm not gonna kill myself over someone when clearly she is happy with the way things are. I miss her alot but I'm not just gonna let myself get hurt again like that.

you know when you aren't looking for love,then someone finds you.
so you never know what's around the corner.have a good time enjoying being you first.