Here Today... Gone To Hell!

So I just got a new job as a waiter, and this girl started about the same time as me. I'm interested and want to ask her out, preferably when we see each other tonight. I know she's single and looking.

If she says no, I won't be too bent out of shape over it, but I would like to avoid being "that guy" at work. The place is low key and I know I wouldn't get in trouble, I just don't want to be the subject of gossip.

Thoughts?

Are you hot? Dating coworkers is risky, but people will take risks if the person is good looking enough. Shallow but true, since you really haven't had time to get to know each other yet.

I would say I'm a decent looking guy, but you can judge for yourself on my facebook page:

http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?success=1&id=5735913#/profile.php?id=5735913&ref=profile

Come on now, we know everything isn't based on looks.  :P

I can't access facebook from my current computer. I am sure that you are cute. When new people start at a job, people do check out how hot they are if they are interested in dating a coworker. More meaningful relationships take time. If she is interested she will drop subtle hints. I am sure that you are attracted soley to her sparkling personality. When new doctors start where I work, people immediateley scope. A big lunchtime conversation will evolve on the hot new doctor (if any) with the single people.

You will be subject of gossip wether you date her or not.

Just face it

Dating a co-worker is never a good idea if it is a job you actually give a hoot about.  If it's some part time gig and you can get another easily, then just ask.

It's a part time job for both of us, while we're in college.

Right, but if things don't work out can you get another one in this economy?

I have dated various coworkers throughout my life and I can tell you it never worked out well in the end.

BTW, you're a cute kid---I can't see you having any issues with the ladies. ;)

Well thank you.

I may just pass this up. I don't want to risk offending her and losing my job, or having something go sour and having to dee each other at work.

Thanks for the advice.

say it to her basically like you said it to us:  Would you like to go out for drinks(/dinner/whatever) later?  If you're not interested, I'll understand.  I certainly don't want to make our working together uncomfortable for either one of us.

serial threads: the co workers no 3?? :hihi:

Good luck GunnerOne 84 : ok:

i say go for it.. its a part time job so it's not a huge deal!  who knows what could happen!

It's nice you stopped with the whole touching thing.
Please stop saying " hi" to her though, she really doesn't appreciate it.

Dude, Id say 75 percent of people meet at work

go for it

all she can say is no and if she does, don't be a dick about it. Be friendly, take it well and maybe you will gain a friend out of it.

Oh no!  GunnerOne84, you're not Annie's boss are you?  She's just not that into you.  :hihi:

seriously, just go for it.  what the heck, ya only live once. 

You are very cute. If the girl is flirting with you, then go for it! I am sure that people are saying that you are hot!

This is part of what started my other thread. I had this school girl crush on this heart surgeon who was much older than me who was very arrogant, hot and married. I told him that he was a total babe and that i wanted to marry someone like him.He once told me that I was pretty and I was happy for a year. He was always very nice to me, and he made me feel special. My one feminist friend hated him and she said he was only nice to me because of my hero worship of him. I said that really arrogant men like him would not be nice if they found me repulsive, like I find the creep repulsive. She had to agree with that one. If this surgeon had been available, I totally would have dated him. We were talking about a GNR concert once, and I said " I love Axl even more than you!'. He laughed because he had no idea who Axl was.

When I was younger, and I asked co-workers out, I got rejected but that's cause I did not know how to ask them out properly.

Like I would write them a poem, or letter, but woulden't go to them directly.

Go up to them and say ." I like you. Lets do this!"

Based on what I've learned in other threads, you should either completely avoid saying horrible things like "hello" to her, and it would help if you gave up masturbation.

Or you could just man up and ask.

The best advice, really, is to avoid any advice from SinCut or Norway.  :hihi:  They'll have you insulting her in no time.

The most important question has not been asked yet.

Is she hot?

Very

on a side note, judging by your facebook link are u in johns hopkins?

on topic, it depends on where you work and how serious is your work imo. For example i would never ask anyone out in my current position.

if its only a part time job and you got nothing to lose go on and ask her out  : ok:

Only if she's a whale :)

Seriously the only problem I've had with having a relationship with a co-worker was when it just didn't work out. Good thing she was an adult about it and didn't go for some vendetta.

So just go for it.

It would help if you only got one arm tho.

No I go to the University of Maryland.

And we're only servers part time, so it wouldn't be the end of the world, but it's not something I'm willing to risk my job for at all.

 :rofl:

You forgot to say that if she says no and becomes a rival it would be a-ok to use a battle axe after torching her home.


Seriously. taking advice from us is just well.....sometimes not smart!

also, beware of norway if she's fair haired and eyed.  :hihi:

How would u lose your job? I worked at a place once where they discouraged co worker dating but fuck that. She could be someone really special or a really great Friend with benefits.


If it doesn't work out, be nice about it and like I said, worse comes to worse, maybe you make a friend out of her and maybe she will have some girlfriends etc.

the situation is full of win with little risk of failure.

if she says no, suck it up and keep working. no reason to be embarrassed or let it ruin your job.

Fuck it, do the toe in the water routine at first. Just hint to her and ask stuff like what she is doing after work and all that cliched kind of shit.

she may decide to hang out with u after work and then take it from there.

you don't shit where you eat.

just sayin :)

I like D's idea...very similar to that Seinfeld where the guy asks Elaine out, but never really asks her out.  Just do stuff and don't call it a date.  Classic stuff.

Easy for me to say now as an old married guy...at your age I would have been sweatin' my balls off nervous as hell!
 :hihi:

haha that's my Dad's fav saying.

I don't think asking out a  co worker is shitting where u eat. especially if its a part time something that isn't a career or what have you.

If u ask her out and she says no, as long as u don't bug or harrass her, things should go back to normal. I don't think a girl is gonna shrivel up and die just because a guy asks her out. if she says no, just be cool about it and hope she doesn't freak out like Annie *Sorry Annie :hihi:* everytime u say hi or pass her by.


my personality is different maybe though, I have always been able to pull shit off and not be embarrassed by it. If u think u would feel awkward, then don't. if u are like me though and can put it aside and still be yourself and friendly, go for it.


think about this:

what is the difference in asking out a girl from work as opposed to a girl u have class with?

completely agree here.. I wouldn't take it so seriously and just see what happens...

This guy is cute and not a creep, so I say go for it! :hihi: One of the reasons we get part time jobs in college is to meet people!

Buttttttttttttttttt, you have to be sure it's going to be OK if she says no.  Does she have other girlfriends or friends that work there that will cackle at you if she doesn't like your advance? 

Maybe you boys would not be embarrassed at that but some would. 

Young girls/women/whatever can be evil. 

I had this part time job when I was a teen in a video store and a customer took a liking to me.  I think I was 19 at the time and he was in his 20's.  He started having roses sent to the store for me every week and all I found it was creepy. 

You have to be careful about how you come off, especially in the workplace-PT job or not.

All I am saying is try to be fairly certain before you make any beyond friendship moves that she is interested.  It's not like you can just walk away and not see her again if she turns you down--you will be working in a constant reminder of that.

That is excellent advice. When I was younger I dated a few  medical students. They were mostly positive experiences that had no negative effect at my job.

The good thing is that you bounce back so much easier when you are younger----sigh! How I miss those days! ;)

So true. What I really miss about high school and college was that I had enough natural intelligence to get by without working that hard. I REALLY miss that.

I think you should use the angler fish approach.

(http://animals.nationalgeographic.com/staticfiles/NGS/Shared/StaticFiles/animals/images/primary/anglerfish.jpg)

What you choose to "dangle" as a lure...well, that's up to you.  ;D

Don't dip the pen in company ink.

What Mal said.

Did you ask her out?

Did my suggestion of showing up at work without pants and calmly asking her, "What, this isn't pantless Thursdays?" work?

Just wondering.
 :peace:

Don't do it.

If I can quote my fav show GOSSIP GIRL, "You're nobody unless you're talked about" XOXO Annie.

Please reference your other post in the "creepy coworkers" thread! :hihi: :hihi: :hihi:

^Bandita, no problems here.  Remember, the key word is "unwanted."   8)

This whole "asking out a co-worker" thing got me thinking.  I think I missed out on the opportunity to even try that.  All the jobs I had before I met my wife had no females.  No regrets though...when you find the right one, the rest don't matter! 

Ok Gunner what's the 411. Did you ask her out?

Gunner crashed and burned. No go.

You asked her or you chickened out?

Details, boy, details!

There's always drunken stalking.

"ever breath you take, every move you make - I'll be watching you"

I'm sorry. It's her loss.

I do a lot of things, but chicken out is not one of them

She said no.

oh, she's playing hard to get, now is the time to get some private time with her in the breakroom and put your butt in her face and wiggle it. in fact, do this to her twice

At least you asked.  You get 5,000 message board "props."

I heard she was a slut anyway.

nope a slut would say yes to any cute guys.

cheer up gunnerOne. there're plenty of other fish in the ocean.
People tend to regret what they didn't do rather than what they did in life.

Hold your head high Gunner.  Guaranteed there are other chicks who, when they hear about that, will be like, "Damn, I would have said yes!"  (unfortunately, they'll probably look like Chris Farley in drag.)  Just kidding, keep your head up kid.  The right chick is out there.   :peace:

First things first, stay out of the relationship advice thread....

Instead of starting a new thread, I'll just ask here.

My main mindset lately has been simply to date some people, get to meet new people, etc. Not really looking to commit at the moment.

That being said, I met this girl the other night, and we have plans to go out tomorrow night drinks. She's a singer and is very attractive, and I'd like some tips on how to impress her.

Be yourself bro.

Oh yea, less talk and more listening.

If that doesn't work, maybe show her how many push ups you can do.

 :rofl:

Depends...is your goal to make a friend, get laid, or make a real relationship out of it.   

If it's #1 or #3, you have to be yourself.  No use having a friend you have to pretend for, and a real relationship won't work out for long if you're putting on a show.

Then again, if it's about gettin' sum...well, PUSH-UPS!

My preferred result would be 3, but we'll see how things progress.

No rushing.

Well, then, be yourself...but don't let out all your "crazy" all at once.

For example..."I spend too much time on a GNR forum" might be kept inside till a few months in.  : ok:

I know but she likes GNR....SCOM is in her setlist!

Yea gawd, please. Whatever you do don't let her know you are registered here or any other interwebtube forum, she'll know for sure you never get laid.

If you have to tell her something, tell her you're a Trekkie or something like that.

that's definetly good advice.

Another advice; buy her rounds until she's interested.

Just go with the flow. She wouldn't have said Yes if she didn't like you. Women love compliments. Call her back if you say that you are going to do so. Go see one of her shows.

It's a trap!  Everyone likes that song.

Somehow I suspect that this poor guy striking out might have something to do with the advice he gets here! :hihi:

I'm surprised he hasn't been arrested or run out of town if he's following the advice here.

Another first date option would be to take her to the gym where she can watch you work out.

I disagree, Post count will get you laid!

Reach arounds with Polluxm don't count dude, sorry.

wow you're quick.

If I met a girl, and am interested, I ask her out/for her number. Always.

No point in letting her get away.

that's the spirit!

you're unstoppable. : ok:

If u get off, it counts :yes:

Good for you! You are most definitely NOT a creep!

Thanks!  :rofl:

Off for drinks and karaoke :nervous:

I'll post the details when I come home.

On my first date with my gf I sang a ballad, she was sold.

Met for a bite to eat and some drinks. Went very well. Then we went down to this place she usually goes for karaoke. Jesus Christ can this girl sing. She did Joss Stone and Mariah Carey. Then she convinced me to sing so I did Walk This Way and actually impressed her. We had already decided to see each other again soon. I had already committed to her next show but we are going to try to see each other again first.

We get to her car, she thanks me for coming, kisses me good bye twice and tells me to call her today.

So I'm hooked, and can only hope I don't blow it from here. Can't wait to see her again. For anyone interested, her music page is http://www.myspace.com/daniellerenee1 (http://www.myspace.com/daniellerenee1)

None of her pictures come close to doing her justice by the way. She looked absolutely stunning last night.

I'm rambling like an idiot so I'll stop now. Thanks for the help!

Sounds like you had a fabulous time : ok:. She is a pretty girl GunnerOne. :)

Sounds like someone's fallen :D

Good luck man, she's a pretty one  : ok:

Beautiful girl, best of luck!

Good news. : ok:

just, like others said, don't tell her you post here. well actually maybe too late. you've posted those links..

She knows gnr is my favorite band, but not that I post on a message board. I'm not telling her that!

a gnr fan may check a GNR fan forum to find a popular thread at the moment in the jungle....and the face book and myspcae links :smoking:

Woman are flakes.

In other late-breaking news, the Earth is round.

 ???

Things go south already?

Dayum that was fast.

Yep. Dropped me like a bad habit.

No idea what happened.

Eh, don't date musicians.....take it from me. 

I'm about to become a single Mom thanks to one.

She found this thread?

Or dude got caught Chocking the chaplain.

Maybe he shouldn't have done that Mayhem song at karaoke - especially with the pig's head.

A surefire way to never get women is to listen to and/or sing that crap.

Just gotta know the right women.  ;)

Tap knows the right women:

http://www.heretodaygonetohell.com/board/index.php?topic=56251.msg1170333#msg1170333

It would certainly be nice if I could get to a second date with someone once! Shit gets old!

I certainly haven't read this from the beginning, my advice though, stay away from dating within the work establishment, it is very unprofessional, and will only cause alot of drama in the end.  Just my opinion of course. ;)

I probably wouldn't ask a co-worker out, again. Not that I ever actually did. I just ended up dating a co-worker. We started hanging out with another couple, by hanging out I mean the couple and I drank while she watched. Eventually, the co-worker and I spent sometime alone together....eventually she wound up with me. This all despite hr living with her boyfriend at the time. So, she moved back into her parents place, something she swore she'd never do. She rearranged her whole life for me. Probably not a good idea on her part. She really, really, really wanted kids and I didn't. I was thinking, "Whoa....between us we make like $16 an hour, let's cut down on the family talk" Not that she ever talked about US being a family, she just made it very, very clear she wanted one.

Eventually, she got her wish. She has her family, even if her husband seems to be a giant douche and definately hates me. Mostly because her and I had the nerve to speak to one another on very, very rare occasions.

This ramble and what it means is, after we broke up, she broke up with me, because she apparently still loved her "ex" and then a day later decided we should still be together, which I shot down, not because I didn't care for her, but because she loved someone else and told me as much, she could barely act civil to me. Not a good combo in a "team" environment. She wouldn't listen to what I had to say, which sometimes at work was important, so things got fucked up a lot because of it.

Just a bad scene, fortunately, despite her claims I changed, everyone knew she was the problem, not me, since I acted like I always did...which is like a smartass.

I don't see the problem being she was a co worker tho, Mama Kin.

unless you know you can quit the job and get another one just as good or better....you don't.

Actually now that I think about it I did marry my old co-worker, haha. I forgot we had met at work.

You must be one of the lucky ones, do you still currently work together?

No, it's been a long time now.

don't most people meet their spouses/partners at work or in college/school?

Depends.  Does it count if she says something like "I'm only doing this to pay for school"?

Ouch...I really was!

Best.

Night.

Ever.   


 :smoking:

Watched Jay Leno, did you?

You sly dog.  8)

Well played.

I'm 25. The best night of my young life just occurred.  : ok:

I am so happy for you!

So is that a Freudian slip telling him not to ask out his coworker? :hihi:

no id go for the boss lol.

It wasn't until after we broke up. Everything before and during was fine.

If one person won't listen/speak etc etc etc to the other, it makes for a bad work scene.

what about dating multiple co-workers at the same time?

That's good.  It demonstrates the ability to multi-task and to organize a conference meeting. 

Or after a while it can demonstrate the inability to handle them

and isn't that what we're looking for in an employee?

That... or big tits.

I'm into BBW's myself.

large of super size?

(http://i199.photobucket.com/albums/aa233/shredtastical/I-see-what-you-did-there.jpg)

na you didn't see what i did there. there's a question mark at the end.