Here Today... Gone To Hell!

My girlfriend just broke up with me...

I wish people were just assigned a mate.

Love sucks...

its better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all :yes:

That's such a tired, worn out cliche and I don't even know if it's true.

Sorry about that dude  :-\

Shit will work itself out  : ok:

gerald...
were you being a jackass or something??     :rofl:

there are plenty of fish in the sea my friend...
some of us wish the other would leave to make it easier on us and not have to do it ourselves...

I view a woman like a car... after the wear and tear, just trade em in for a newer model..

just hang your head high....   all will work itself out for the "better"

peace

something tells me you're single ;)

gerald, chin up dude.  unless you're in your 40s or something im' assuming you're a young guy - you'll meet someone else.

of course man : ok: haven't you seen that one episode of That 70s show where eric is met by this ghost that tells of what was to happen if him and donna never hooked up. If so that the point of that episode

if not then.....well...... yeah it is true heads high man just think good thoughts and that you were to good for her.


if i may ask, why did she dump you? you dont have to answer if you dont wanna.  :-[

She dumped me because she can't handle a b/f right now in her life.

thats kind of a bull shit answer if you ask me :-\

if i were you i'd try to dig deeper to see WTF really is wrong but dont seem needy in the process.

sorry man, :(

Thanks.

But I think it's best to just let it go...

Hey pal, think of it this way.

More ass for you.

dont worry.....her loss  : ok:

Mate, that's the worse excuse ever.

I never bought it for a second, the way I see it some people are just too self-centered. "I love you, but I can't handle a bf right now in my life." That's all about her.
Did she even try to talk to you?

Now if I'd be in a relationship and I'd dump the girl just telling her "sorry I can't handle a gf in my life right now" I'd be branned an asshole for sure.
"He just used me all along!"
But when it's women, it's just what they do, some women atleast.

Sure, sweetcakes you said you love me, I bet you ran right off to give head to someone else.

But it don't matter, sugar, he can have my left-overs. I know how to order.

Why should I, sweetie, care about the things you do? Fuck both of you.

haha.... nope.. married 6yrs going on 7 and together 10 yrs...    she is breaking down alot lately and she's about ready to be traded in... =)

My condolences, brother.  As much as it sucks, it will pass and you will end up with someone better for you.  Until then, drink as much and as often as possible.    :beer:

hehehe classic.  married for almost 7 years - you sould be the one getting the "sorry dude", not gerald ;) hehe just kidding.  all of my good friends are married, they look like broken down men, its really funny.

I agree, its a total cop out.  There is more to the story than that for sure.  but like sin cut says, who cares.  Fuck her for not being 100% honest with you. 

Not to be an asshole, but...

In "chick speak" that typically means "I've found another guy I wanna date but don't want to tell you about it because a) it will make me look like an asshole and b) it will cause a huge argument/confrontation that I don't want to face.".  Maybe, in this case, I'm wrong...but that's usually what it means.

 It's like when guys say "I think we should see other people".  Girls sometimes take that to mean "I don't want to commit to you, but we can still date, just not exclusively."  All guys know what it really means: "I've got someone I wanna fuck/date/get jiggy wit, I don't wanna see you ever again...unless I'm drunk and horny one night".

She's just, ooh, "emotionally unstable"

Again, allow me to translate from the typical chick speak dictionary (assuming those were her words).

"emotionally unstable" = in love/lust with someone else.

Girls love to turn the breakup reasoning, especially when it involves wanting to hook up with a new guy, back on themselves.  It's a time honored, classic "breakup" tactic....because it avoids a huge blowup, since they're beating you to the punch (FIGURATIVELY!!) and bagging on themselves before you get the chance to.

Let me reiterate...maybe the above is NOT true in your case.  There's always exceptions.  In any event, best to move on.  Really...just ignore her for the duration.  Clean breaks heal the easiest and will get you back in the saddle that much quicker.

Note:  I know this post is  full of bad breakup cliches.  It's intentional...not because I mean to make light of Gerald pain, but because behind every cliche is a grain of truth.

^thanks

Thank God for Nine Inch Nails.

We've all been there, dude.  Most guys over the age of 20 have, anyway.

Being blindsided like that just sucks donkey balls.

Just remember the stages of breakup grief:

Depression

Anger

Getting shit faced with the guys

Going to the titty bar(s) with the guys

Hooking up with multiple hot girls who are likewise shitfaced, depressed, or angry.

Realizing that lifestyle gets lonely and boring real fast

Depression

Anger

Finding another relationship.


Just don't get stuck in the infinite loop of steps 1 - 8.  :)

One word;

Hookers.


Problem solved. Sure, you're experiencing the sudden rupture of a gaping chasm of emotional distress but, while simple flesh can't solve that entirely, three or four blowjobs a day will certainly go a long way towards making the transition easier.

something i can never have by Nine Inch Nails

i still recall the taste of your tears
echoing your voice just like the ringing in my ears
my favorite dreams of you still wash ashore
scraping through my head 'till i don't want to sleep anymore

you make this all go away
you make this all go away
i'm down to just one thing
and i'm starting to scare myself
you make this all go away
you make this all go away
i just want something
i just want something i can never have

you always were the one to show me how
back then i couldn't do the things that i can do now
this thing is slowly taking me apart
grey would be the color if i had a heart
come on tell me

you make this all go away
you make this all go away
i'm down to just one thing
and i'm starting to scare myself
you make this all go away
you make this all go away
i just want something
i just want something i can never have

in this place it seems like such a shame
though it all looks different now,
i know it's still the same
everywhere i look you're all i see
just a fading fucking reminder of who i used to be
come on tell me

you make this all go away
you make this all go away
i'm down to just one thing
and i'm starting to scare myself
you make this all go away
you make it all go away
i just want something
i just want something i can never have
i just want something i can never have

Yeah. Reznor never was too interesting, lyrically.

HURT-NIN

i hurt myself today
to see if i still feel
i focus on the pain
the only thing that's real
the needle tears a hole
the old familiar sting
try to kill it all away
but i remember everything

what have i become?
my sweetest friend
everyone i know
goes away in the end
you could have it all
my empire of dirt
i will let you down
i will make you hurt

i wear this crown of shit
upon my liar's chair
full of broken thoughts
i cannot repair
beneath the stains of time
the feelings disappear
you are someone else
i am still right here

what have i become?
my sweetest friend
everyone i know
goes away in the end
and you could have it all
my empire of dirt
i will let you down
i will make you hurt

if i could start again
a million miles away
i would keep myself
i would find a way

Only-NIN

i'm becoming less defined as days go by
fading away
well you might say i'm losing focus
kind of drifting in the abstract
in terms of how i see myself
sometimes i think i can see right through myself
sometimes i think i can see right through myself
(sometimes I can see right through myself)

less concerned about fitting into the world
your world that is
cuz it doesn't really matter anymore (no it doesn't really matter anymore)
no it doesn't really matter anymore
none of this really matters anymore

yes i am alone
but then again i always was
as far back as i can tell i think maybe its because
because you were never really real to begin with
i just made you up to hurt myself
i just made you up to hurt myself
yeah, and i just made you up to hurt myself
i just made you up to hurt myself
yeah, and i just made you up to hurt myself
and it worked
yes it did
there is no you there is only me
there is no you there is only me
there is no fucking you there is only me
there is no fucking you there is only me
only
only
only
only

well the tiniest little dot caught my eye and it turned out to be a scab
and i had this funny feeling like i just knew it's something bad
i just couldn't leave it alone
picking at that scab
there is a doorway trying to seal itself shut
but i climbed through
now i am somewhere i am not supposed to be
and i can see things i know i really shouldn't see
and now i know why, now
now i know why things aren't as pretty on the inside

there is no you there is only me
there is no you there is only me
there is no fucking you there is only me
there is no fucking you there is only me
only
only
only
only
only
only
only
only

I like this part the best:

women suck. i'm over. i'm going to play wii all my life.

exactly, I know I have :D

 :rofl:

I would.

Good for you buddy.  : ok:

EDIT: I'm only pullin' your leg dude  :peace:

I just don't like the Wii  :hihi:

THE QUOTE ABOVE WAS NOT WRITTEN BY OR THOUGHT UP BY "WAT-EVER, i'm totally buggin"
IT WAS REPRODUCED AND REWRITTEN FOR COMEDIC PURPOSES ONLY

you want her dead dont you ?

well if you do i know someone who knows someone, just let me know  : ok:

you spent more time with htgth than with her didnt you? :hihi: j/k

seriously though, sorry to hear that....well there's lotsa fish in the Sea or some other lame saying.

like pilferk said try and get your mind off it by doing something else...things will get better :peace:

Weekend dad, my current goal.

Playing with your wii all the time can get boring, too (ask Billy Jo from Green day).  Not to mention the chaffing.....

 ;D

Damn. I thought this would be about the band " Hurt "


Anyway - sucks for you :o

Love hurts, love scars,
Love wounds, and marks,
Any heart, not tough,
Or strong, enough
To take a lot of pain,
Take a lot of pain
Love is like a cloud
Holds a lot of rain
Love hurts, ooh ooh love hurts

Im young, I know,
But even so
I know a thing, or two
I learned, from you
I really learned a lot,
Really learned a lot
Love is like a flame
It burns you when its hot
Love hurts, ooh ooh love hurts

Some fools think of happiness
Blissfulness, togetherness
Some fools fool themselves I guess
Theyre not foolin me

I know it isnt true,
I know it isnt true
Love is just a lie,
Made to make you blue
Love hurts, ooh,ooh love hurts
Ooh,ooh love hurts

[guitar solo]

I know it isnt true,
I know it isnt true
Love is just a lie,
Made to make you blue
Love hurts, ooh ooh love hurts
Ooh ooh love hurts
Ooh ooh...

Aww hun that sucks!

To me her excuse sounded pitiful. You can do so much better than her! You need someone who'll treat you better and actually consider your feelings.

Some chicks piss me off so much! They're so superficial and refuse to get off the "All Men Are Shit And Have No Feelings" bandwagon because it makes them feel "powerful"... pffffft! If they want to feel powerful, they should get into bondage!

Did you know Johnny Cash covered that song?  kinda cool considering he was like 60 or 70 or something and listening to NIN.  He was a real music connaisseur.

Anyway man, sorry about the hard times.  In my opinion, it seems like she's saying that b/c she likes it when your around, but you don't live up to her expectations of what she wants in a full time boyfriend.  So she's making it so the breakup won't seem too bad.

For you, It will take some time to recover, but you are best to just move on.  as time goes bye, the wound will scar up and eventually heal, leaving a little mark, but you'll be able to look past it.  Try to keep your head up, and you'll find someone else in time.

lmao ruin his life now :hihi:

I think it was Rick Rubin who asked him if he wanted to cover it.

Anyway, I thought this thread was going to be about that song  :hihi:

(I feel sorry for your loss...?)

Sorry to go off topic, Hurt was Cash's last music video actually, in the year of his death. He was 78 or so at the time, ore something like that.

To be on topic, sorry man, I hope everything works out for the best.

Is this "here today... gone to hell idols"?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DxiYt8stABU


This always cheers me up. Hope it helps you.

Damm! Seriously, why do you always have to make everything into "women are this, women are that"?? I was given that very same excuse out of the blue by a guy not long ago. And on top of everything I was dumped with a lousy email. Yeah, it sucks... But I guess I deserved it, right?


It sucks, big time, and I'm sorry for you, GeraldFord, the best thing to do is move on. Now I wish I could follow my own advice

What are some ways you guys get over someone?

It's so hard to really care about someone, and really love them, and then, just like that they cut you out of their life....

Humor.

You gotta do fun things.
And laugh.

And laugh about it.
And accept.
Than laugh some more.

and be patient...eventually you'll get over it

Calling her and then immediately hanging up always worked for me.  Not too often, maybe just 3-4 times a day.

Seriously, it seems to me that you're on the right track by not avoiding the pain and dealing with it directly.  Give yourself time to nurse your wounds and soon enough you'll be pardoning shamed ex-Presidents like never before.

Sorry for your pain my friend.....we've been there and done that at some time or another, for both us guys and the gals here! Music always has been the key for me. Booze helps too though  :beer:

Hey.. I know this wont work for all, but the night my ex-gf hooked up with someone else I was trashed.

The next night I scored a new and sure I think about her, hell she's coming today so I can score her, but it made me feel better.

The acception or that after a long time (7 months) I still know my game.

U k now it works, it's not a miracle cure but you'll feel a lot better when you've had a pretty girl ride you.

^

aka

"The best way to get over someone is to get under someone else!" :P

Pretty much.

Nah,

I would only want to sleep with someone that I was in love with.

And all that Could Have Been- Nine Inch Nails

breeze still carries the sound
maybe i'll disappear
tracks will fade in the snow
you won't find me here

ice is starting to form
ending what had begun
i am locked in my head
with what i've done
i know you tried to rescue me
didn't let anyone get in
left with a trace of all that was
and all that could have been

please
take this
and run far away
far away from me
i am
tainted
the two of us
were never meant to be
all these
pieces
and promises and left behinds
if only i could see
in my
nothing
you meant everything
everything to me

gone fading everything
and all that could have been
could have been

please
take this
and run far away
far as you can see
i am
tainted
and happiness and peace of mind
were never meant for me
all these
pieces
and promises and left behinds
if only i could see
in my
nothing
you meant everything

I just had a few shots of rum.

Damn, I hurt, so bad.

I loved her so much. I miss her so much.

Trust me

U are now one step closer to finding the ONE.


Dont dwell on the lost ones and dont let them prevent u from finding the right one.
how long were u all together?


Why give up so easy if u love her so much? call her up and try to win her back.

We were together for two months, and she has made it clear that we are done. I have to move on.

Two Months shouldnt take u too long to get over. At least ufound out now rather than a couple years down the road.


I always find it weird how someone can just decide they dont want to be with someone all of a sudden. Had u all been having problems or did she just pop up out of the blue with this?

She went from being very warm to kind of stand-off-ish, this will hurt for a long time.

dude thats just kinda happened to me, went out with her for exactly a month, starting on valentines day. We were really close but she she just spoke to me and said she didn't love me  anymore, and she had been drifting away for like two days.

It hurts like fuck sometimes, thoughts are all jumbled up and it doesn't help that there is now an awkward tension between us. It sucks so much coz theres no escape from the feeling, physical pain you can fight or take pills but emotional pain theres nothing. In the end its just about going through the pain and coming out the otherside wiser and having learnt from any mistakes you made, whatever doesn't kill you makes you stronger.

I may be getting a touch personal here, but this is a very important question relating to your past relationship.

Did she ever let you bury your face in her ass?

When my boyfriend left me a couple of years ago (he joined the military) I felt like I was going to die.  I could not believe how badly it hurt.  As trite as it is, time heals MOST wounds (not all of them).  Unfortunately I don't think most people get over an old love until they find a new love. 
Love does suck when it doesn't go how we'd like. 

How is  that helpful to the person who is feeling pain right  now?

Remembering the good times?

man 2 months aint shit.  you'll be over her in no time dude.  : ok:   good luck to you, you can do better for sure.  :smoking:

Maybe he did it too soon and creeped her out?  Maybe she wasn't comfortable with that?

Plus...if he never got around to do that, it can't be that big of a loss can it?

You are  obviously a major "catch" for some lucky lady.

Trying to bring some levity into the situation?  :-\

As usual.

NO offense Richard, but if u get this crushed after a 2 month relationship, then part of me hopes u never find a long term love.

If u lost someone u had dated for years u'd probably shoot yourself.

everytime i see the title of this thread i think about NIN

nope.

I once had a former g/f tell me (after 4 years) ..I love you but I am not in love with you... took me a few months to figure that one out (basically you don' want to have sex with me anymore)  but at the time she said it, it was like wtf does that mean.  But with time you will get over her and move on.  Time heals all wounds they say, and it does but takes time.

now that was gay.

Im sorry how is that Gay, if he said he wanted to sleep with a man then yes, but just because some people have morals and princables and wont sleep with the first fucking woman/man that looks at them does not make them gay.

Again just have just displayed the level of your intellect

it's funny how no one ever blamed me to be out of principles or morals after I've nailed some after I've been to some club.

Maybe you should try it sometime, it sound like you'd need it.

No thanks its not what i need, and besides i have more respect for myself and also for others especially women, which is something you display a complete lack of. 

Oh, so now one night stands show lack of respect to myself AND the women?

Are you for real with this?

The last time I checked it takes two, remember?

Sure I understand that some people don't give right away, but the one's I know are either girls, or guys who just can't manage to get any.

Some of them call it that they don't want one night stands.
The fact is they can't.

And then there are those who could, but won't.
I never understood those.

Are they kidding themselves that when they finally do it would be more special?

I don't care how *gay* it sounds, but I couldn't really enjoy sex without love. I mean, I'd sure enjoy it while in the act, but I'd feel bad afterwards. I only want to be with someone if I feel there is a real future for the two of us.

And if other people like one-night-stands, good for them. I try not to judge other people. But that's just not for me.

Mr. Nixon, you have my condolences.  No breakup is easy.  Just be glad this happened before you got married or even worse...had kids.  I'm with you on the sex without love thing.  It's not for me.  That doesn't mean I don't enjoy reading about Sin Cut's exploits!  It's just a completely foreign concept to me personally.

Be happy that you aren't with the wrong chick when the right one is somewhere out there.
 :beer:

I agree about the one night stands. I always felt very very dirty usually afterwards, like i needed to take the hottest shower I could.

Sex is great but sex without love u enjoy the physical nature of sex. Sex with Love your entire soul and every spectrum of your being is involved and one night stands cannot come close to comparing with that.



I do also love hearing Sin Cut's exploits, I have one night stands vicariously through him now. :hihi:

no it's better to nail someone new before you got the time to take a shower  : ok:

I dunno what's the deal with D, he always ask me to come camping with him.

And that he would would take his guitar with him and play bon jovi to me.  :nervous:

^ "On a steel horse I riiiiiide!"  ouch.   :hihi:

Sin Cut reprising the old Adam Sandler role of Canteen Boy to D's Boy Scout Leader.   :hihi:
funny stuff.  :D