Here Today... Gone To Hell!

my mum has aboyfriend ok...i really like him, hes seems liek a really nicve guy, they've been together for about a year now, but in that space, due to things we coudltn do anythign about we;'ve l;ived at his for about 5 months, we've had oru own house for about 2-3 months now..i think.

he's helped her threw a pretty tough time, shes very dependant on him, and shes been through alot int he last 2 years and has been strong, but shes at ehr last really. but things are getting better.

but his dasughter, she doesnt normally lie, she exagerates, but doesnt usually lie.  she tld me that he used ot hit her mum, i didnt tell my mum about it because i knew that she woudlnt act on it. and it seemed like it would fuck thigns up alot at that time, i needed to assess the situation first.

he;s lovely 99% of the time, but he gets...mooods, and talks to her like shit and treats ehr like shit. and becuse shes very emotionally fragile atm she cant cope with it.

tongiht , she got drunk, they ended up argueign when they got back, he's determinded that they should break up, shouiting int he next room for me "dont touch em, you make me sick" etc.

inbetween, i've spoken to her, shes sobered slightly, but has said shes gonan top herself if he leaves.

syaing to me "whatever happens i love you".

alot of ups n downs tongiht, apparently he had aher by the throat....if i knew at the tiem it happened i woulda ogne mad, i've been lsitening out for him to hit her or somethign all night.

How old are you??  Call the fucking cops on his ass   >:(

I'd beat that guy till he starts smelling from his ears.

I hate men who are violent toward their women.

I'm sorry to hear this, but I fail to see the connection between the title and the text itself.

good point

I was in the same situation with my mom a few years ago, but fortunatly we've kicked the punk out. In the end, he was drunk all day long, and wasn't very "lovely". I don't know how old you are but I bet you will do something if it gets uglier. Don't do anything without thinking carefully, that's all I can tell you ... If it gets real ugly and you have no other solutions, don't hesitate to come between them (and eventually beat him a little).

Good luck man

I thought it was just me............

God that's awful your mum is obviously very emotionally insecure and really needs your support right now.  Try not to judge her she's having a tough enough time as it is.  I think you need to make her see that this emotional seesaw that he's got her on is doing more harm than good.  I don't know how old you are but my thoughts are with you and your mum.  LOL 'Big hug'

The click off a button, in conjunction with the move of your mouse (and maybe a scroll), would lead you fools to the revelation that the young lady is sixteen.

I have nothing to add that would be much help, those who tend to get hot headed tend rather to hinder, without full scope of the situation it is difficult and the venom in some responses to subjects such as this achieves only in increasing the intensity of the situation in your own mind. As I say, it isn't always much help to you. But I do feel for you. Pop culture language can be excused,

it's a pretty gay situation.

For your information you little shit, I checked her profile after I posted but didn't feel the need to go back and change the post.? Fuck off.

I don't think he really meant you to be honest, I think the ones suggesting she step in and beat his ass are the ones he was talking about, a 16 year old girl doesn't have much scope for success in such a situation does she.

It is, but I really expected to see some gayness when I opened this thread.

Can we spice it up with some gay themed pictures or rainbow flags?

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This is the gayest of gay threads I've seen all gay.





Edit  - *day.

I was playing...    :peace:

I wish I could take a gay off one of these gays.............

Ok my bad  :peace:

Well, you just earned yourself some negative karma.

...? *tears*? ?:'(

I thought you guys liked each other! Trouble in the relationship?

Jim came out of the closet I'm afraid...............

Okay getting back to the thread, I see you're only 16 (thanks Jim) and I agree that it is going to be very difficult for you to do anything about this if he gets physically violent.  I think all you can do is be supportive to your mum and let her know that you are there for her.  If he gets violent get the police.  I know that doesnt always help (I've been there!) but at least any assault is recorded and can be used later when applying for any restraining order.  There is never any excuse for a man hitting a woman as far as I am concerned despite male protests of 'she deserved it' (I got battered to shit and never once did I 'deserve it').  Be there for your mum and let her know she has your total support if she wants to get this guy out of her life. 

Why did your mom get drunk?

Was her boyfriend drunk, also? 

There's never any reason to hit someone (unless she was hitting him first, maybe?) but if your mom is the one who was drunk, then maybe her boyfriend's "moods" aren't really a result of him being an asshole.  You didn't give enough details.

Does your mom get drunk a lot?  Do they both drink?  Again, even if the source of all the arguing is your mom (and I know it might be hard to see that, from your point of view) there's still no reason to be violent with her, unless she starts it.  For example, if she is hitting him or throwing things at him, and he is trying to subdue her, then that's acceptable.  But if that's the case, then they just need to break up.

I'm just saying, is there something about this story you're not telling us?  Is your mom an alcoholic and needs help? 

The reason I'm asking all this is it seems like this is the case a lot of times.  Someone will complain "Oh, my boyfriend beats me" or whatever, when in reality, the woman is an alcoholic or drug addict and she's always trying to start shit with the man. 

what a fag

So you're saying that if she's been drinking and picks a fight, it's allright for him to get physical with her?   ???

Amish we await your reply with interest!  Careful wording may be advisable right now.

I said if she is trying to get physically violent with him, then it's okay to try and subdue her, which could very well involve some sort of choking method, however it should not involve multiple punches, bloody noses, black eyes, that sort of thing.  I'm in no way condoning physical abuse towards women, or men for that matter.

Of course, if they're both alcoholic junkie type people, they both need to beat each other up and drown in their own vomit.  : ok:

 I'm in no way condoning physical abuse towards women, or men for that matter.

Except choking............ ::)

... of course, "that sort of thing" wouldn't be needed after he'd choked her? ?::)

Well, my soon to be ex-husband did that choking method thing too, that's why I am divorcing his ass.  Oh yeah.... he did that choking thing BECAUSE I said I was divorcing his ass.  No dude, it is NEVER, EVER, EVER alright to hit a woman.  There are plenty of non violent ways for a man to stop a woman from hitting him (unless of course he's built like pee wee herman and she's like the female = of Arnie).

Master Classes on how to use the Quote Feature, Tuesdays at 7pm. Round mine.

Bring beer and drugs. And Women.

Be there! Address? Ha Ha.....

Anyone got a tic tac. Suddenly got an urge.

 ;D

EDIT - Emoticons are gay...

Somewhere. Around the corner. You know. Down the road, from that shop. By the station!


...................... You're not invited.

I should hope not... ;)

I'm still being misunderstood.

If you're husband choked you or hit you or physically harmed you in any way because you said you were going to divorce him, that's bad in my opinion.

However, if a girl is coming at me, kicking, punching, biting, and throwing things at me like a crazy person, then I would have to get physical with her, for my own protection.  If I wasn't able to hold her down until she calmed down, then I might have to resort to some sort of choke out tactic.  It depends on the situation.  You can't tell me that it's absolutely never right to physically subdue someone just because they are a woman. 

Please read my entire statements and understand what my words mean before you reply with an argument.  I don't care if you disagree with me, but please, disagree with what I said, not with what you think I said. 

Okay then... I disagree with what you said   : ok:

Don't make me choke you!   >:(

 :) ;) :D ;D

I'm glad your title isn't gay at all.

i thought this was a topic of being gay or not.not sure what this topic is.but can say im not gay.but find women fun right now.i do like men alot just haven't bothered in quite awhile finding one.but if the right guy came along your damm skippy id ablage.just haven some fun right now with women not anything serious though.i have a weakness for them.

no she isnt an alcoholic or drug addict. she rarely drinks in excess, she was at her friends house, and she hadnt been otu for a loong time, also she isnt a violent perosn at all, she wasnt getting agressive or violent.

and thanx for all your support =)
and lol @ the gay picture ^.^ i admit it isnt the most fitting of topic titles...