Here Today... Gone To Hell!

Sorr, need to vent..... I found a picture in my husbands luggage last night.  He works away most of the week and when he gets back he usually puts his washing downstairs and sorts his bag out etc.  Last night his mum phoned as soon as he got home and needed him to sort her computer out so he went straight down there.  While I was cooking his tea I thought I'd get his washing and put a load on.  Under the last of the washing I found a picture of this woman I'd never seen before.  Anway to cut a long story short when he got back I confronted him about it.  He tried to lie to me of course but eventually I got the truth, he's been staying with this woman through the week and he reckons at first they were 'just friends' but have been sleeping together for a couple of months.  I feel so hurt and so goddam angry!  How could he do that to me.  Oh he cried and said how sorry he was, was I feel as though I've got a knife stuck in my heart.  I've put up with some major shit from that man over the years and I've always stood by him.  How could he do this to me?  He says its me he loves and it's all a big mistake.  I wanna chop his f**kin dick off quite honestly.  I dont know if I can stay with him after this.  How can I ever trust him again?  I cant stop crying and I've gotta work today. I've had no sleep and I feel like shit.  Oh and on top of all this betrayal, he said I was being hysterical when I was screaming at him and he friggin' slapped me!  MORE sorry's.  I just feel like telling him to go F**K HIMSELF!

leave him for a bit and if after say 3-4 weeks he feel you were being hysterical then divorce.

god, that's why i would never cheat on my girlfriend

sorry to hear that PT, but now, you're better off without him. he sucks. come to france.

God I cant stop crying!!  I wanna kill him.  You should have seen the pic of this woman.  She's a fat, ugly sow!  I dont get it.  I just don't understand any of this at all.

The best thing you can do now is to get away from this mess.

1 you're too good for him
2 you're too hot for him
3 don't cry
4 how old are you ?
5 did u see this comin ?
6 watch a movie

Break something, that always helps.

hey ive been reading your other posts before and it sounds like he was having the affair and then thought because he was you was as well. You really are better off without him find someone that does want just you not a cheating scum.

best of luck

....Breaking something over his head helps better :yes:

yea he defintley doesnt deserve you. leave him for a while, and only if you want to, try to work things out. dont work things out only if hes the one that wants to. im sorry about all this it sucks. i hope things work out for you, good luck!

Fucking asshole.  Fucking leave him.  He's a worthless peice of shit.

Ok, so he cheated.... sooooome people can get over it and move on... but that's not all... he fucking hit you too?!

Take his ass to the fucking police and get him on assault charges.

He's a peice of shit.  Love is NOT enough.  Believe me ... I know.

PLEASE DON'T GO BACK TO HIM!

You MUPPET!  Don't tell her to try and work it out!  She should leave him full stop!

It doesn't leave you aslone, now does it?
Atleast I couldn't get the image outta my head and I was thinking that guys hands all over my ex and she sucking his you know what.

It still hurts, I still miss her, I still wish it wouldn't have happened. But it did. I could work things out but it wouldn't be the same.

What helped me over it was other girls. (and two btw went haywire last night when I came with a new girl to a party)

if you are going to try and work things out then how are you going to feel the next time he ain't home or don't answer the phone or something?

If someone cheats, it's likely he/she does it again.

do the same. find a guy, take some good time with him, and show it.

after the bastard had a lot of pain, divorce.

He cheated on u and then slapped u for being hysterical?
Leave the soggy piece of shit... You can do better.
Sorry. *Big Hug*

he used protection right?  I'm just asking from a health safety perspective for you...you don't know who the heck she was sleeping with and\or if he has pulled this kind of thing before, who the heck he was sleeping with... people who hop around sexually have a greater potential to  be a garbage can of disease even though they may look ivory snow clean...You definitely need a separation (at the very least)
If you don't have kids that's good--less complication...he and you definitely need to separate right now.

Thanks for all the support, it is really appreciated.  I've just finished work and shut the salon door after the day from hell. He came round to my salon at lunchtime and demanded that I speak to him.  Of course I had a salon full of clients so I took him out the back when he started shouting.  He said I'm being unreasonable!  Can you believe the cheek of it.  He said I'm being irrational and that he was going to tell her they were finished and had intended to do that anyway.  So the bastards had half the day but still hasnt made THAT call.  I told him I need some time and that I'm going to my mums (my son is already there) for a couple of days and that I think he ought to move out while I have the time I need.  The bastard lost it, grabbed me by the throat and banged my head of the wall.  I'm not very big you know I'm only a size 6/8 english size and he is 6 feet 3 and weighs 18 stone, like I can really defend myself against him.  While I was down on the floor he kicked me twice and now I'm covered in bruises.  The icing on this particular cake is that, this afternoon he sent me a dozen roses!  As if I want his fucking roses!!!!!!!!
Sorry about the swearing, I'm just really upset right now.  Once again, thanks for all the support, it means a lot.LOL

I really would like to see that bastard.

I don't believe what this is becoming... How do all the good women end up with such cunts?

I'm trying to avoid him myself. ?I've nearly finished cleaning up here and I've gotta go out the door in a minute. ?I'm dreading him being the other side of it. ?I phoned the police but they just said phone if he attacks you! ?Like right so I'm supposed to say can you stop kicking and punching me for a sec while I call the cops. ?Yeah that's gonna go well aint it! ?My mums offered to come and get me but I dont want to risk her getting hurt too.

you can still press harges.. it suprising how going to court calms someone.

I haven't had a fight since (ok 1)

And he deserves (unlike my case)

Leave the bitch.
He is appearently stupid as fuck.

There are others, he doesn't deserve you.

Don't waste your time healing bonds with him. He will eventually come out of the shell again and do this once more.
Though I (or none of us?) knows your situation too well, so you shouldn't take these "internet advices" too seriously.
Best of wishes for your future? : ok:

I'm very sorry to hear about this, Prettytiedup. I hope things work out in the future.

I see no reason to be laughing out loud. Maybe a healthy COL would hold more relevance about now.

Or, listening to IRS in slow motion might help. lol (I'm allowed to do it still), it's what I've been doing for about two hours now.


You MUPPET!  Don't dismiss it out of hand           !  She should consider leaving him, but think of the children. For god's sake, think of the.....

(why are you using thumb spaces?)  (as far as swearing goes, you'd give she of the skynyrd a run for her money)

.... That said, I would leave. At least for a while.


Please, this isn't the time to turn this thread into a vulgar discussion on the nature of female genetalia; have some decency, for all our sakes!

(...... I'll answer your question later)


Seriously though. I can take him out if you want.

... Like, to the country for the weekend. You know, get him away from you for a while.

Love grows (love through fate, as far as one person for another goes, surely can't exist...) and to fully comprehend it you must must have an intrinsic understanding of the relationship.

Either way, if these beatings are a new development then surely you have not had the relationship, as far as knowledge of each other goes, that you thought you had; if it is not a new thing, be glad that by sleeping with some grotty old whore the guy has given you a reason to finally get out of this relationship.

Once a cheater, always a cheater.
Once a beater, always a beater.
Stay away.  :yes:

Cheating could be forgivable sometimes, but beating you? He needs to have his dick cut off! And it's so upsetting that the police cannot really help you right now!
I would have my friends kick his ass big time, if I were you!  :rant:

I hope everything works out ok for you. 
No woman deserves this kind of behaviour.

I'm sorry that this happened to you.  :no: Between the whole having to "put up with shit" and the slapping (physical abuse) it sounds like this is a pattern of behavior and would more likely than not continue into the future. So I'd advise never taking him back, even if you may feel like doing so later. If a gal has the resources to get away and doesn't at some point it ceases to be "his" fault and becomes "her" fault for putting up with it.

You deserve much better.  : ok: *hugs*

Go to the police.  Seriously.  This is very disturbing.

Jim... I don't think bringing the children up in an abusive marriage is very good do you?

She SHOULD leave him ... no question.

My Mum and Dad split up and I had a perfectly fine upbringing... my Dad abused my mum and he's a cunt who deserves all he gets (in fact, he fell one day and is now in a wheelchair... do I feel sorry?  Not really).

Sorry man, but I'm able to relate quite well to her scenario and think she should get out and never look back.  He's an animal who deserves nothing.

Leave him, he doesn't deserve you

A 1 night stand is one thing but a proper affair is unforgiveable!

Most women that do that sort of thing are! Its a horrible thing for him and her to do! Homewreckers are mentally fucked,

This motherfucker had the nerve to get you roses??? ?Well, the only appropriate gift I could recommend in return is guns, and plenty of 'em!!!! ?Okay, so that's illegal, and just a fantasy, but I had to say it.

On a serious note...you MUST go to the police. ?Stay as calm and understanding on the outside as possible. ?This cunt gets off on the power he has over you...don't satisfy his needs. ?Make use of the authorities and get a good lawyer. ?Do not hesitate to press charges, and by all means don't attack him. ?Get pictures taken and find witnesses. ?Sue his ass off and divorce this piece of shit. ?To think of your posts from a little while back and all you were doing to make him feel better, and he was playing you for a fool. ?Get your finances arranged because this fucker's probably already ahead of you. ?;)

I wish you luck PrettyTiedUp. ?

He should have given you an icepack.

How truly awful :( I'm sorry you have to go through all this.

There is absolutely no excuse for what he has done, and you need to get out of this unhealthy relationship as soon as you possibly can. People like that need to be locked up, he clearly has issues that he needs to sort out, and you deserve better.

What a dick. He even brings it to your work place. I'd say a restraining order and a divorce attorney are in order here.

Not that this helps now, but not all of us are pricks, and I'm sure there is a good upstanding someone for you somewhere. Best of luck, stay strong, and don't let him bully you into what he wants.

I have to agree with Lara... move your life on... leave him and get over him soon

it's best u walk away from this, keep friends n family close, AND DON'T STOP CRYING! i know that sounds stupid but the tears will help u get out all the pain, sadness and hurt out of your system. once your all cried out u can move on with ur life!

wish u the best! :love:
And i'll use a line from def lepeard song, long long way to go:

"Even though I feel the pain, I know I will love again,
time will go and i'll move on"

What a lame ass motherfucker. Cheaters are bad people. Stay away from this stupid fuck. You deserve way better than this. I really feel for you and I hope you will grow stronger and better after this story. He sure doesn't deserve you anyway.

some girls deal with alot worse things. but its still all screwd up. break up with him he is a asshole.

Sorry to hear about your news Prettytiedup. Hope everything works out for you whatever you decide to do.

Aww hun! *big hug*

What a FUCKING CUNT he is! Jeez, the nerve of him! Fucking press all the charges on him that you possibly can, get him chucked in a jail cell with a bunch of randy butch gay men, and THROW AWAY THE KEY!

And wasn't it last month that he told you he wanted to have another baby with you... what a fucking hypocritical CUNT! Cheating on you and having the fucking gall to want to bring a child into that!! CUNT! FUCKING CUNT!

And then beating you? FOR WHAT!? You didn't do anything except perfectly reasonably get very upset! And giving you ROSES? WTF!!? Nah, if he really felt guilty he'd have given you a gun and told you to bust his head wide open!

He sounds like a real nasty piece of work and needs to be tortured Hostel style!

I'm real sorry to hear about this PTU, you're way too good for that motherfucking asshole!

Don't cry any more over that worthless piece of shit because he ain't worth it one fucking bit! You deserve so much better!

I know its hard, but pick yourself up, get out there and make the most of being single again! And sell your engagement and wedding rings for as much as you fuckin' can!

And hey, you won't ever have to do his dirty laundry again!

Cheating men deserve their comeuppance, and he'll get his, just you wait n' see!

Couldn't have said it better!

Seriously press charges on the nobhead and get him banged up

This guy sounds like a dirtbag no offense. i would leave him if its not the first time hes been a fuckup.

a french womanly say goes " men never cheat for better"  :hihi:

I have stayed through cheating. Eventually, i lost respect. To me, trust is not based on sex in a relationship, it's based on many many things you share with a partner, like :

you trust he'd stand by you if you lost your job, were sick,...
You trust in his ability to do his financial half
you trust in him being kind to you ( even if he cheats, some men stay kind and loving, mine never did)
you trust his judgment

bla bla bla..

see what i mean ?

If your husband is away, he probably ( like a lot of men) likes his food served, having someone caring for him as he is used to, free easily ready sex, someone to talk to, etc etc.

Do you feel threatened in your relationship ?

If you hadn't found the picture, would you have noticed an attitude change towards you or not ?

There is no easy answer. And it's very personal. But there are questions and only you can have both the questions and the answers.

But i'll just say two important things :

Have him STD and STI tested or use condoms for now ( just in case)

No man should slap you. EVER. Especially if his behaviour put you in such an emotional distress.  As Aniston says " he lacks the sensitivity chip".

Oops, hadn't read this bit

LEAVE

NOW

Pretty Tied Up,
I'm so sorry. ?His behavior is appauling and totally unacceptable. ?There is absolutely no excuse for his violence toward you. ?Get out now. ?I'm concerned for your safety. ?Fucking unforgivable. ?I hope you press charges and lock his fucking ass in jail. ?Let him see how it fucking feels to get the shit kicked out of you. ?Piece of shit... ?

I'm sorry you're sad baby. ?Hope everything works out for you. ?

i think u should go to the cops. report his abuse, get him arrested, get the best lawyer u can possibly get, get a divorce, remove his kid away from him, get all the money his has, and leave him left for dead, without money, family, anything. that will show him to get his priorities str8, and most of all, not to beat up innocent women.
hang in there.
and give him hell to pay!

it's not like you get to jail from that.. but sure he'll get to pay a decent amount of green.

Thanks for all the messages and support.  This weekend has been hell.  I got kept in hospital overnight Saturday night cause it just got so much worse.  I didnt get to close the door on my salon, he came from around the corner and shoved me back through the door.  He locked the door and it all got real nasty.  The cops arrested him and charged him with actual bodily harm, thats for breaking two of my fingers and cracking a couple of ribs.  Apparently though they are not going to charge him with rape because we are married.  He's been cautioned to stay away from me, its a condition of his bail.  I cant stop shaking.  I know this makes me sound like such a coward but I'm still in shock and I cant stop what happened running through my head.  I've got an appointment with a lawyer tommorrow, I'm definitely getting a divorce.  I cant live like this, I'm sick of being frightened of his moods and what he will do if I disagree with him or try and think for myself.  Even my stepson supports my leaving him.  He wants to come and live with me.

gutted for ya PT

hey got a spare VIP ticket then???

I totally agree, leave him and don't look back. As for the police saying they will not charge him with rape cause he is your husband then that is bullshit. Demand they press charges for that and if they refuse then file an official complaint. Domestic rape is a offence that can go to court.

he did what?

break two fingers?

I don't what to say, some dogs should be shot.

I hope he got the same cell with that big guy called "Sex machine"

Not to be callous or anything...but you own a salon and he broke your fingers.  Find a good lawyer and get every fucking dime this dirtbag has!   :rant:

Because you're married, it's not rape?  Do you live under the Taliban??  I thought you were in England.  I'm in the U.S. and I'm pretty damn sure a husband is not allowed to rape his wife.

This man needs to be in jail.

well now you can definitely get a restraining order...and I'd also start carrying some pepper spray or some kind self defense (that's legal) I wouldn't go the gun route because, that could always backfire (no pun intended)...I wouldn't worry so much about money at this point, I'm not even sure what that has to do with anything--You obviously are an intelligent woman capable of supporting herself and does not need the psychotic dollars of another person (although he should be accountable for the medical bills--they recorded pics of your injuries rights? Your lawyer made sure of that right?)...your husband is obviously very scared and in denial....it's great you have your mom to go to, a good support system is a must.
You need to worry about you and you need to make sure that any communication done between you and your husband has to occur in a public place and\or a lawyer or someone should be present, don't let him take you "in the back" anymore...get one of the ladies at the shop to cover your back...you don't have to let everybody who works there know your business (people love to flap their gums when it comes to other people's drama) just pick someone you trust.
This is going to be really hard for you because from the outside looking in, this doesn't sound like this is your husbands first demonstation of caveman mentality. It sounds like he is used to running the roost...and now that you are standing up for yourself, he is scared shitless...he doesn't have the control and he does not like it...You really need to push for some sort of court ordered support even after the divorce...don't let people play down the violence that he has done to you...you deserve your life back!!!! You don't want to be living in fear after you get your new flat and he's driving 'round your neighborhood, or coming onto your job...you deserve your life back!!!

You know I just read this whole thread that dude nees to be put to sleep. :rant:

 Sorry for your suffering.

All I can say is get a divorce quick and make him pay. Press all teh charges you can and stay away from him, he is dangerous you do not need to be hurt anymore.

I trully wish I had the money to fly over there and pay him a visit. I liked to beat the fucking snot out of him.

Sorry 

He actually fucking broke two of your fingers and cracked ribs?

I say you should DEMAND that he be charged with rape. Who gives a shit if you two are married, he fuckin' cheated on you and beat n' raped you, and what's to say he won't do it to some other chick!?

Prettytiedup I wish I could give you a hug girl .


You are doing the rith thing by getting rid of his ass . And he need his fucking ass beating to with an inch of his life for the shit he has done to you .

I've had a couple of hours kip and feeling a lot more human now. ?I gotta say though there isn't one spot on me that doesnt hurt or ache. ?Slashisvr, sorry bud, I'm keeping the tickets. ?I'm taking my son to the NEC. ?My sister who is a health visitor came and taped my ribs for me, it's really eased the pain and helped my breathing. ?The hospital gave me some painkillers but they are not helping much as they are quite mild. ?They did a pregnancy test on me on Saturday before they x-rayed me and it came back positive so, no strong pain killers for me. ?I didnt want another baby but I can't think about that now. ?I've given my London ticket to my stepsons mate. ?I dont think I can travel to London. ?I know it may sound crazy but I just want to forget about everything that has happened. ?I don't want to have to rake over the terrible things he did to me on Saturday. ?It was so humiliating at the hospital, having photos taken of me that were to say the least extremely personal. ?Shit, I model part time and am pretty used to nudity but not THAT close up if you know what I mean. ?My mums staying with me so I think I'll be okay for now. ?I've told my girls who work for me I'm taking a couple of weeks off and they will run things. ?I just want to get my divorce rolling and get him out of my fucking life. ?The police say it is my word against his that he raped me. ?He claims that we had consentual sex at the salon then we started arguing and it escallated into a fight. ?He knows that it's not true. ?He could have no doubt about that at all, I was screaming no and fighting him for all I was worth. ?That is not consent but I can't prove what happened. ?So I'll have to settle for the assault charge, it's better than nothing. ?

if it were my family ( although we do not always get on) and if that had happened to me, my mother would have made sure my " husband" encountered a heavy door and accidentally broke both his legs.


Have you got any brothers ?

Let me get that straight....

You are pregnant now?

does he have a computer? I could plant some kiddie porn on it.. jk.. get rid of the pig.. he gives good men a bad name..

Yes, I got told on Saturday night at the hospital. ?They don't x-ray until they know for sure you're not pregnant. ?I got asked if there was any chance I might be pregnant, and since I've missed quite a few of my pills this month (the bastard keeps hiding them) then I had to say that I could be. ?Turns out I am. ?I don't know what to do though. ?The last thing I wanted was another baby. ?I had a terrible time having my son. ?I really don't want to go through another pregnancy especially now.

You don't know if you want to give birth to the child of a fucking beast?  :confused:

You'll only be a miserable mother with a miserable child.

That's the last thing you need right now.  :-\

*That's just my advice,  I'm trying to put myself in your shoes and think of how I would handle it.

hey im so sorry to read what has happened but please be careful with whatyou post on here because if he finds out and this all goes to court im afraid that it could be used against you in a trail you know how slimy these lawyers are they will dig at anything so please for your sake i would speak to your close friends only for now about this or via pm through true friends here

best of luck i truely hope things work out for you

PTU, although some will reply to this with upsetting shit, abort darling.

Every time you'll look at the baby, you will see the person who raped you, and it will interfer with how you love the baby. if you have this baby, you will probably have a breakdown along with it.

I am so sorry hun, but don't forget, on this forum, you have a women's group that doesn't always get along, but in times of trouble, women stick together, and i am sure we are ALL here for you. Always.

Sure, abort darling... and afterwards we could have tea and biscuits to celebrate... U make it sound like a trip to the fucking salon..

You don't have any right to dispense such advice, so shut up.

you don't know what intonation i used and yes, she is a darling to me, a great person.

And us women know what it is like, it will never be anything but something awful to do.

So just shut up.

The reason why i said people would come in with upsetting shit is because usually, men are against the very idea of abortion.

Are you pro rape too ?

Sorry about your situation. The best thing to do is to weigh your options and decide what is best for you and your children. I personally think your husband is a danger to you, obviously from his actions. Maybe you could stay with your mother or someone for a little while until you get things figured out.

About abortion: she can do whatever she wants with her body, no one should judge her anyway about this.

I'm sorry you ended up with such a low life. Not only does he give good guys a bad name, but he also gives mankind a bad name. What a fucking creep. You will win the trial, no doubt. I'm so sorry it ended up like this, but in a way it's for the better. I will never understand how people can turn in such lame-ass pathetic bastards.

Stay strong and I wish you the best, really.

Anti-abortion = Pro rape. Just the kind of warped conclusion that i expected u to come up with. Piss off.

My advice to u PrettyTiedUp: Don't take advice from a message board. People couldn't care enough to think twice, coz it's easy to just post anything they feel. Do what ur heart tells u and get advice from the people u trust (family/ friends). All the best.

Very well said Genesis...

a super tough choice PTU.... :'( best wishes and please make sure you're sure before you do anything :-\

Actually i wanna say something else...no matter what you may think of the father...the child will be the thing you love most in this world and single parenting will be tough...i would never change my life right now...yeah it's tougher financially but having my daughter around...she's so beautiful and every time i look at her it makes me smile...please make sure you talk to your real life supporting cast before making this decision...it is a huge one t hat involves your life, your ex's life and your child's life...not to mention the grandparents, your other siblings if any...


please like i said before make very sure that it's what you want :-*

No I havent but I have got a couple of brother in laws who are offering to ensure he meets with an unfortunate accident, but I've told them not to do anything, he's not worth it. 

Thank you all for your advice about my ... god, my pregnancy.  I'm not going to make any rash decisions about it.  It is too important to make a rush decision, whatever I decide on will affect the rest of my life and I have a son and stepson to think about.  I havent told my mum I'm pregnant cause she's catholic and I know exactly what she is gonna say.  Please, I understand that it's an immotive subject but I've got enough hostility around me at the moment.  I really appreciate ALL your comments.  If everyone was saying abort or everyone said dont there would be no balanced view which would be the most unhelpful advice of all.  It's more helpful than you can possibly know to have such support especially when there are some things I can't tell my family.  I'm only at the beginning of this pregnancy so I have a little time.  All I know right now is that I don't want to be pregnant and I don't want another baby, but I don't know how I would feel about getting an abortion after all, no matter what, this baby didn't ask to be concieved, I can't and wont punish it because of it's father.  At the end of the day I'll decide on what I think is right for me and the children I have responsibility for now.

for sure...I was just giving you my 2 cents :D ultimately it is your decision like you said and i don't envy that choice :-\ best of luck to you on whatever path you choose take

I don't respect any man who hits women.

Watcha babe.  I cant remember how ya told me to send you a msge thru this site so I thought Id post here.  Youre not pickin up ya phone, understanding that.  That's one hell of a fuckin shina that bastard landed ya with.  Fucking cunt, I'd like to bust HIS fuckin face in.  Anyhow ya bitch ya still look prettyer than me.  Cow!  Huggin ya babe.  Pick up this msge and let me no how to send ya a msge back.  Ill see ya tmrow sweets.  Lovin ya babe.   :-*

How long have you been married to this dingo and was he violent with you from the beginning?

As for your pregnancy issue, I feel that a child should be the product of love, the love you share with one another. What would this child be a product of? Rape, anger.... not love.

I dont feel Im speekin out of turn here.  I no this girl for a long, long time and we are good mates.  She's a fuckin sweetheart.  Everyone who knowin her thinks so to.  Shes beutiful, inside n out, pretty as a picture (fuck I wish they had spell check on ere!), a real good person ya no what I mean.  He's a fucking cunt.  He treets her like shit.  Yeh all nicy, nicy one minuite but a real bastard the next.  It dont take a fuckin megabrain to work out that shes afrayd of him.  Shes a little dot hes built like a fuckin tank.  Im sick of seein bruses on this girl.  She deserves much better. 

You mean its not just This time he's hit her?

FUCKING HELL!!! :rant: How can someone be so fucking callous and disgusting to someone they're supposed to love!? Its not right!

PTU, I know how this is gunna sound, and I know you (and a lot of others) may not wanna hear this, but ending this pregnancy is a wiser choice than keeping it going. This is a very stressful time for you, and pregnancy is just gunna make it so much worse. Of course it is up to you, and that is just my opinion, but yea...

I know the baby didn't ask to be conceived, but the fact that you don't want to have another kid, and you don't want to be pregnant, and it is all part of that disgusting man's plan to be even more disgusting. Its not the baby's fault, but it would be fairer to it to not have it at all than for it to be spawned of such an angry and terrible time...

Aww hun I'm sorry you had to go through such a terrible experience!

*big hug*

Damn, The Dirt never fails to surprise me.  Great words, and I'm being serious.  : ok:
Just when ya think it's all for smiles and laughs, you come out with something really heart-felt, rock on!

PrettyTiedUp, does anyone in your life know about the pregnancy?  A message board is one thing, but loved ones are another.  I personally believe the majority of problems we experience in society are directly related to unwanted/unplanned children.  That is not to say that all unplanned children are unwanted, it's just based on percentages, more unplanned children are unwanted than planned children. 

Just be glad you have the choice.   :peace:  I wish you all the best, and just enjoy the show with your son!!!  I wish I had a mom that cool!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!   8) 

I have a serious side too man... somewhere.

Cheers.

 :beer:

Me neither.

Kill him.

Or get someone to do it for you.

hadn't read this bit either.

damn.

You don't need our advice, Prettytiedup. You have all the answers and you're more mature than half the posters in this thread. Just do what YOU feel is right. Things will get better.  :-*

Im sorry, but how this story began two days ago with the husband cheating, now we are at multiple beatings, rape, divorce and possible bastard pregnancy in two short days, im not sure i can believe this anymore.

Prettytiedup I?m very sorry that you are having to go through all this .


Guys like this make me sick . And are a real shit stain on the underwear of life..

hes such an asshole, just leave is an easy thing to say and sometimes very hard to do, but you have to be strong and do it, once they hit you they dont usually ever stop, it just gets worse. take care of yourself and put your feelings first and then kick his ass to the curb. : ok:

you should ask some of your friends do give him a decent beatdown.. what a dickweed. inhuman fuck

I went to the Lawyers yesterday, mostly filling in some paperwork just to get the ball rolling.  It feels right to finsh this marriage so I'm going ahead with that.  Other decisions will have to wait until I'm more clear headed.  On the positive side I had a great night and the show last night with my son.  He's the best concert buddy I've ever had!

Glad you had a great time!  Must have felt REAL good to get away from it all.  And I think you've made the right decision...stick to your guns adn everything will turn out OK!  : ok:

I know what you mean, im married but i didnt go to the nyc warmup with the shithead, i took my kids and my youngest is 9 and we absolutely loved it...