Here Today... Gone To Hell!

I've wondered why is it that girls seldom want to get laid as often as men?

For an example my gf just want to kiss and cuddle while I want the real thing and preferably the long formula of it. And that is everynight. And I'm not kidding either.

At first I did get every single day but now it's maybe twice a week and it's killing me.

Yeah, we've moved together? : ok: That's when the "how often" started to drop.

So guys, anyone with the same problem? Is there a way to solve it? For an example something to slip in her morning coffee?? ;D

Or maybe I should do some index "Borrow my car 1 hour and you're obliged to..."
Another idea; "The sport car's out of order, now when you borrow my limo for 1 hour you're obliged to bring a female friend to join you satisfying my..."

I've always found this to be completely false...........

It's sometimes false, yes.

Sure there's been girls who really juice one out, but generally if you take 20 girls a lot of them is working on a slower sexdrive, or thats just what I've experienced.

No offence but you're either not very good or your girl isn't really into you ...

ALL my girlfriends, including my current, have been horny as fuck and want sex many times a day every day ... who am I to not oblige?   I work from home so I can fuck her any time of the day which is cool :D

my sexual activity = 0

And my experience is that most men i dated for long periods of time ( from 9 months to 10 years) have all had a sex drive that dropped after a few months.

Seems like lots of sex made them sexless.

And i generally had to rely on machines more than men.

lol

yeah, this must be it, I'm just not good enough? :hihi:

Funny thing is that I've been good enough before and also I don't think the girls who I've had an only sex relationship with would've seen me as often as the did if I was bad.

There's one funny story when a buddy of mine stormed out of the room when the girl started commenting which one is better? 8)

I don't think it's about her not being into me since other than me not getting sex as often I want our relationship is good. Which however is a huge factor for me.

Jessica, even if lot of sex never got my engine stop there was a short period of time about a years back when I had to do two or three jobs and then I just didn't have the time or energy to have sex as often as I'd like to now. But other than that I never had to turn a gf down.

Maybe you can ask her instead of us  : ok: You know, it may not have anything to do with you, maybe work is overwhelming, or her schedule is too busy and she's tired. Try doing some housework, nothing like a man in an apron to turn us on  :hihi: No, I'm just kidding, but helping her out might relieve some stress. Less stress for her = more sex for you.  : ok:

I just want to go to sleep after a long day. I'm more of a morning sex person anyway. After a slow day it's a lot easier getting me in the right mood, so maybe it works the same for her. Hope it helps. Cheers!

*nods*   D.O.A

actually that's what I thought and said to everyone at work that I'll go negotiate a deal, after doing that I went home and had some sex, worked fine  : ok:

I can't do that too often tho or someone might get suspicious  8)

if your doing the business in the bedroom, she will normally come back for more! ;D
anyway i find it a turn on when the girl comes on to you instead of the other way round! if she's gagging for it, all you have to do is preform! : ok:

I have to admit I used to have a low sex drive I could have it once and then never again and i wouldn't have been bothered But when I meet my Fiancee he knew exactly what buttons to press and I discovered mu love of it once again : ok: :hihi: :hihi: :rofl: :love: I think I depends a lot on the person you are with and if they turn you on or not ,If  not most women end up going through the motions can't wait for it to be over (that used to be Me) ,But now I guess i'd say me and my man have an equal sex drive whenever we feel in the mood we just.......................................do it

Actually my BF's ex (who he was with for 3 and a half years), used to have a "Saturday night only" rule... and my BF has a really high sex drive... so he used to get really frustrated. She was a real bitch actually... and when the relationship ended, she ended it by saying that she hadn't loved him for the past year. :rant: Hateful cunt! I mean seriously!! What a disgustingly horrid way to break up with someone!!!

It really fucked him up as well!

At least he's got me now! And uh... I'm always up for it, so he's all okie now!


Dude, if your GF is shooting you down all the time, hmm... perhaps you should resort to reverse psychology... make her think you don't want to fuck. Then she'll want to. Doing favors for her all day will help too! But don't bribe her by saying "Oh I did all that for you today, you're obliged to....". Just make her think that you don't want to. : ok:

i haven't had sex since ... january the 9th :(

but ... in ... 3 days .... ?h? :)

depends on the woman that does not work with my other half looks like im on the verge of a 10 year relationship going to waste

You mentioned that you recently started to live together, right?  I think the problem you are having is a rather common one for couples who are living together or married.  The fact is, you are probably irritating each other.  Its normal, everyone does those little things that their partner can't stand.  The difference is that men can seperate that stuff from sex, and women have a more difficult time with that.  If a woman gets into bed after you have left your shoes in the living room, didn't clear your dinner dishes, and left the toilet seat up for the 800th time, she's not going to be feeling affectionate and she's not going to want to have sex.  Men can get just as irritated, but when its time for sex, that stuff goes right out of their heads.

The solution?  Well you won't stop being annoying.  Again, its not personal, we are all irritating in some way.  You would be better off just making a point to be nice and affectionate in the hours before you go to bed.  Compliment her, help her out with some stuff, etc.  Don't do anything that you know is a major pet peeve of hers. 

Chances are you won't go back to the way it was when you first started dating, but you can improve it. 

Oh shit dude! Don't let it go to waste! Let her know how you feel! Don't say it in a pissed off way, but say it in an upset and defeated way... that way she'll feel in a more powerful position, but she'll be less likely to have a go at you. : ok:
If all fails, get some counselling! :)

tried all that already hun nothing works been a long ongoing thing for last year and i thinks it time to move on only problem theres my Daughter nearly five and id miss her too much which is why i stay as long as i have :'(

What girls have you met? Its most likely they dont want to sleep with you.

Aww dude that's fuckin' awful! I don't know exactly what info to give you that would be helpful... I guess all you can do is just stick it out and try and work something out with your wife which allows you to still be near your daughter but at the same time move on...

I hope it all works out alright! :) *hug*

I don't know, she works the weekends and the weeks she at least two days in evening shift so really we ain't seeing eachother enough to get on our nerves.

Basicly one thing what I don't like about our relationship is the fact that we're seeing each other so little.

Actually I think this is something serious, she's been crying the second night in the row and when I ask what's the matter she can't really tell. Her moods are just shifting so fast, today she was like herself and now she's this other girl again.

Today is what "Life got no point, kinda like my life"-night.

I think that's a myth. It really just depends on the person.

Sometimes a person will have other things on his/her mind that distracts them from focusing on the current situation. It's a mental issue. There may be an underlying cause to what's happening.

Then again, there are some people who don't care about sex as much as others.

I think Sterling made a good point also.

Pregnant?

Sorry, sorry, just kidding. Man, this girl is depressed. Depressed people have no sex drive. Problem is that depression doesn't need a reason, you just feel that way, so the solution is not that easy. If she could tell you what's wrong, you can start working on it. If she just 'feels that way', and doesn't know why, there is very little you can do besides hugging her, right?

I know I made a joke earlier about asking her instead of us, but I think that?s the only real solution here. None of us can look inside her head and tell you how she feels or why she is feeling that way. Only she can. Try and find a way to communicate with her.

Try and talk to her at a time when she is feeling all right. Start by telling her how much she means to you and that you are concerned about her and the relationship you have with her. Ask her to please listen to your concerns and emphasize that your concern is the only reason for you to have this talk with her. Tell her you don?t want to hurt her in any way, but this is something that?s been bothering you very much. Throw in some juicy stuff, we girls like that. Tips: want to grow old with you, wake up with a smile every day when you lay next to me, my life started when I met you blah blah blah (just pull a straight face, she will totally fall for it). Then hopefully she will let you in and share her emotions with you and hopefully you can work it out.

putting down my shrink hat now...... good luck!

Remember, we girls can have multiple orgasms. So once for you, is 8 times for us  : ok:

Does masturbating count as a sexlife? :hihi: :hihi: :hihi: :hihi: :hihi:


I think the whole "it wears off" is bullshit.


I think it is a mental thing.

Friends and TV whatever teaches u that relationships start out great and then romantically fizzle and its become NORMAL to believe that this how it has to be.

I say that is bullshit.

Why cant u be as passionate and romantic and IN to someone in the 10th year as u were the 1st month.

I believe u have to keep things alive and both partners need to fight against it.

A relationship can be as great,happy and as passionate as the partners want it to be.

There isnt something encoded in our DNA that makes us less passionate over time.

only if you do it right  :rofl:

After reading this, I have to completely change my opinion.  This is much more serious than sex.  Clearly she's got something on her mind, and she may not want to share it with you.  But if there isn't improvement quickly (and I mean within a week or so) you should suggest that if she isn't comfortable talking to you, that she talk to someone about what she's feeling.  And you really need to be ok with the fact that you might not be her choice of who to talk to. 

I don't know how old you guys are, but I'm guessing early to mid 20's?  That can be a rough time because you start to feel like you have to make life decisions, and maybe feeling like you aren't ready.   In any case, it sounds like she's trying to get through some issues and the best thing you can do is be supportive.  Don't pressure her over the sex thing; I'm sure the last thing she needs is to feel like she's disappointing you.

This from the guy who had unprotected phone sex and caught hearing-aids.


Let me tie this in with something that got brought up in the "Brokeback/Sexuality" thread. It was mentioned in that thread that animals have homosexual relationships, so it should/could be defined as a "natural" act. Now I agree with this but thats not the point here.

Do you see any animal other than the human species that chooses one mate, and stays with that mate their entire lives? 

Aren't there quite a few?  I don't know where to look that up.  But I'm positive there are certain birds that do..I only know stuff about birds.

Homosexual animals:

http://news.nationalgeographic.com/news/2004/07/0722_040722_gayanimal.html

Animal mates for life:

http://www.azcentral.com/home/columns/articles/0212petdoc0212.html

Thanks for the links.

It even mentions though that with some of the "Mate for Life" cases the male still is not monogamaus.

They are good reads.

To be honest, I think monogamy itself is not natural.

I was just reading some stuff about birds and it said even in those that mate for life, both partners have sex with others.

Well there's certainly a strong biological case to made, yeah. But societal memes, and more importantly, individual leanings, could suggest otherwise. In fact, individual leanings (of the monogamous sort), would suggest otherwise.

But ecumenically speaking, you could easily argue both sides of that coin you just tossed in. Especially since we're now, as a species, pushing past foundational biology; if only just a little.

Me personally? Whatever I'm in the mood for... :yes:

Anyway...interesting thought is all...

If you got the right person then it will always be there.

10 months into my relationship and still hot and heavy for each other.

hope it works out for you mine was like that at 10 months and now 125 months later it has just finished ended just like that house mortgage a kid cars no one else involved either

Mind if I ask what went wrong?  And is there really no saving it?  10 years is a long time to invest in a relationship to have it end. 

She was 15 when we got together 19 when we got a house and 20 when we had baby. She now wants all the things she missed out on. We have very little in common we dont have a sex life she lost her sex drive 8 months ago. As a result we hardly talk no passion i work over 60 hours a week and she goes out most evenings leavin me with daughter and general housework.   

That's sad dude  :'( Sorry...

Agree 100 percent

22 months and counting and we are as passionate as we were in month 2.

I'm sad for you, but unfortunately it sounds like your situation was really set up to fail.  I hope you get to spend lots of time with your daughter if not get full custody.  Sounds like your girlfriend (?) has some major growing up to do. 

For those of you who are early in your relationships and still going strong...I'm happy for you.  But don't make the mistake of thinking it will always be so easy or that things won't change.  House payments, kids, jobs, etc. all take their toll.  It doesn't mean you can't be happy once you have those things, but your relationship will certainly be different. 

Of course not... you live in Utah, honey   ;D

LOL.........Touch?!

three words, buddy

Actually when I'm depressed I'm dying to get laid.  : ok:

But my shrink did tell me I got some sort of sex addiction and when she asked if I need some councelling I asked her why, 'cos I all ready know the cure  :hihi:

I'm pretty sure the root of her problems is the eating dissorder and I'm encouraging her to take some therapy.

Then I'm thinking that maybe it would help if she or us both would get some new hobby?

Baby, just from personal experience with friends who struggled with eating disorders... when things really started going downhill, just walking up stairs was a huge physical strain.? Having sex would have been out of the question... and was the last thing on their minds, I'm sure? ?:-\

Actually when I'm depressed I'm dying to get laid.? : ok:

But my shrink did tell me I got some sort of sex addiction and when she asked if I need some councelling I asked her why, 'cos I all ready know the cure? :hihi:

I'm pretty sure the root of her problems is the eating dissorder and I'm encouraging her to take some therapy.

Then I'm thinking that maybe it would help if she or us both would get some new hobby?

fuck me its like looking in a mirror reading all this at least it aint just me seems like were miles apart with all the same problems :no: