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Title: Getting married Post by: Miss-Aussie on August 05, 2005, 02:47:26 AM The big question... :nervous:
"will you marry me " "stay with me for the rest of your days " :nervous: Whats your view....? Would you do it, or is it just really a piece of paper?? Title: Re: Getting married Post by: Sin Cut on August 05, 2005, 03:04:14 AM I think it's a piece of paper.
It doesn't change anything. I love her married like I loved her before But I will get married someday, it may not be that important to me, but it is important to her. I wait to start a family more, I'm in no hurry about it, though Title: Re: Getting married Post by: Jessica on August 05, 2005, 03:35:28 AM Without kids, i don't see why
I've been asked by 4 men, i refused them 4. Now that i am pregnant, i slowly come to think it's a protection for the kid, but i am still very unsure as i tend to think mariage is a potential prison. Title: Re: Getting married Post by: Miss-Aussie on August 05, 2005, 03:47:41 AM Without kids, i don't see why I've been asked by 4 men, i refused them 4. Now that i am pregnant, i slowly come to think it's a protection for the kid, but i am still very unsure as i tend to think mariage is a potential prison. HAHA :rofl: a relationship is allmost like prison whether there are papers to sign or not :hihi: I have had a boyfriend propose to me, we can been together for 2 years and i rejected him... he wouldnt have been a good husband, and not a good family man, i didnt want that. With my relationships i let them know that they we are not ment to be joined at the hip, that we should both do our own things every now and again... but all the guys that i go out with want to spend 24/7 with me and i find it fusterating. so in allot of ways just a relationship is a prison... they call you up when your out with friends, want to know where you are or where you are going.. and its like FUCK N HELL.... let me be.. :love: I recon me and Clintron will get married when i fly over to brisbane with him :love: not that i am planning ahead or anything but i feel he is the kind of guy i could spend everyday with.. But then again.... i havnt lived with him yet :nervous: i hope he doesnt heat up his socks in the oven or microwave :nervous: :hihi: :hihi: Title: Re: Getting married Post by: D on August 05, 2005, 03:52:15 AM I definitely will get married
One thing I think both people in a marriage have to do is keep things alive. So many people get married and just quit they feel like they've reached the end and they no longer have to be the person their partner fell in love with. A lot of people change once they get married and I think that has to do with what I mentioned above. Also u better make sure before u get married that u have some things in common and truly enjoy each others company outside of the bedroom so many love fucking each other which isnt love but lust, but they mistake those feelings for love and get married. I dont care who u are fucking it loses its luster after a while and If u dont have some sort of mental and spirtitual connection with your partner that transcends everything, u could be in trouble. Title: Re: Getting married Post by: Miss-Aussie on August 05, 2005, 04:12:04 AM thats how i know that me and clint would work out...
from the beginning we had a connection... and then we talked to eachother on the phone. we have something special and we have not even met in person yet, let alone had sex. Title: Re: Getting married Post by: Sin Cut on August 05, 2005, 04:30:41 AM If u dont have some sort of mental and spirtitual connection with your partner that transcends everything, u could be in trouble. in trouble... unles you signed a marital contract! If I ever get married with you D, I'll make you sign a marital contract to keep you off my millions! one other thing. Gunna_girl.. how can you love someone you haven't even met? Sounds weird. Title: Re: Getting married Post by: Miss-Aussie on August 05, 2005, 04:41:32 AM i know it sounds wierd.
and i was expecting the laughs.. :-\ but really... i just cant explain..... it's not like we just email eachother....we talk on the phone everyday, he makes me laugh and smile, makes me happy. at first i was like OH MY GOD!!!! I am so not falling in love with some one i have never met, but it just happened. Clint is the most beautiful guy i have ever met, so genuine, so sexy, cool, swarve. he just takes my breath away. :yes: Title: Re: Getting married Post by: kathryn2662 on August 05, 2005, 04:57:14 AM gunnagirl....
falling in love with someone you have never met... not only do I believe in love at first sight, I believe in love before sight. You fall in love with someone for their soul and mind- not their physical state of being, which is what you did, you got to know this person. I think it's great that you found someone. The best thing to set yourself up for a good marriage, is to understand what marriage really is. Also, know that marriage doesnt mean one day of saying 'I do', it's an in a sense- an action word, it's a process, something that you build and work on daily- and grow further and deeper. If you keep that in the front of your mind, it will be easy to keep it fresh and developing. Take things in and take things out, get into agreement. If you go into something expecting the worst and lable it a "prison" then that is what it will be. Marriage is spiritually binding you to this person, each partner is to do their part to bring the best out of the other, if that is your goals then you both will achieve in making eachother happy. And it's not something you just declare, it's a conviction that you have to stay strong to and be commited to the process and help eachother out through that process. Marriage is the best gift. Title: Re: Getting married Post by: Where is Hassan Nasrallah ? on August 05, 2005, 05:27:40 AM i'd like a mariage, for the big wedding ceremony, expensive clothes for every body, papparazzi, super duper decoration, renting Notre dame or the Sixtine Chapelle ...
i dont care for the traditional, emotional, spiritual aspect of mariage. couture dress for my baby jeans and t shirt for me the spice girls singing live for us ;) yeah i'm that superficial :peace: :peace: :peace: Title: Re: Getting married Post by: *Izzy* on August 05, 2005, 07:17:39 AM they call you up when your out with friends, want to know where you are or where you are going.. and its like FUCK N HELL.... let me be.. So basically you want someone who doesn't care about you :love: I recon me and Clintron will get married when i fly over to brisbane with him :love: not that i am planning ahead or anything but i feel he is the kind of guy i could spend everyday with.. But then again.... i havnt lived with him yet? :nervous:? i hope he doesnt heat up his socks in the oven or microwave? :nervous: :hihi: :hihi: You're sixteen he's 22 ??? Don't trust Clintron he changes his name all the time :smoking: Izzy? :smoking: Title: Re: Getting married Post by: MR W,AXL ROSE on August 05, 2005, 07:20:53 AM :nervous: :nervous: :nervous: :nervous: :nervous: :nervous: :nervous: :nervous: :nervous: :nervous: :nervous: :nervous: :nervous: :nervous: :nervous: :nervous: :nervous: :nervous: :nervous: :nervous: :nervous: :nervous: :nervous: :nervous: :nervous: :nervous: :nervous: :nervous: :nervous: :nervous: :nervous: :nervous: :nervous: :nervous: marriage? ?:nervous: :nervous: :nervous: :nervous: :nervous: :nervous: :nervous: :nervous: :nervous:
Title: Re: Getting married Post by: Sin Cut on August 05, 2005, 07:23:55 AM [ Don't trust Clintron he changes his name all the time :smoking: Izzy? :smoking: Yeah, and he warms his socks in the toaster! GunnaGirl, yeah it is a bitch if the partner wants to know where you are, my ex had to come to the same club as me even if we were having our boys night out, I felt like she didn't trust me and had to see that I didn't cheat. She said she just missed me. anyway she made me feel like caged. Title: Re: Getting married Post by: Genesis on August 05, 2005, 07:26:56 AM I recon me and Clintron will get married when i fly over to brisbane with him. Aren't u a little young to think of marriage? ;)Title: Re: Getting married Post by: disease51883 on August 05, 2005, 08:09:08 AM I think marriage is definitely important. People I know don?t treat it with enough significance. In a sense, it is ?just a paper?, but it?s also a public declaration of love. I even plan on being married myself before I?m old and dried up.
With that said, I don?t recommend talking about marriage with someone you?ve never met. I understand the whole internet love thing. I really liked a girl on here when *I* was 17, and looking back, it?s pretty damn embarrassing. Also, I don?t recommend getting married at 17 or whatever. It?s too young. I?ve been with my girlfriend since I was 19, and I don?t plan on getting married until I?m at least 25. And finally, I think 16/17 and 22 is too big of an age difference, especially when we?re talking about traveling to meet someone long distance. But I?m just being old and wise. Don?t mind me. Title: Re: Getting married Post by: Sin Cut on August 05, 2005, 08:19:40 AM I think marriage is definitely important. People I know don?t treat it with enough significance. In a sense, it is ?just a paper?, but it?s also a public declaration of love. I even plan on being married myself before I?m old and dried up. With that said, I don?t recommend talking about marriage with someone you?ve never met. I understand the whole internet love thing. I really liked a girl on here when *I* was 17, and looking back, it?s pretty damn embarrassing. Also, I don?t recommend getting married at 17 or whatever. It?s too young. I?ve been with my girlfriend since I was 19, and I don?t plan on getting married until I?m at least 25. And finally, I think 16/17 and 22 is too big of an age difference, especially when we?re talking about traveling to meet someone long distance. But I?m just being old and wise. Don?t mind me. I'm 23, she's 17, 18 in two months We've been together for six months now and are doing great :) I think it's more about how mature the other person is, than about the age itself Title: Re: Getting married Post by: disease51883 on August 05, 2005, 08:34:27 AM Personally, it doesn?t seem right to me. I don?t expect that to phase you or anything though. Also, I do see a bit of a difference between a 16/17 year old with 22 year old and a 17/18 year old with 23 year old, especially when the first couple?s discussing marriage. It becomes a little more disturbing the farther away from 18 that the girl gets.
Title: Re: Getting married Post by: noonespecial on August 05, 2005, 08:46:47 AM I think marriage is okay...I know a lot of folks live together now, without the "piece of paper" and to me, you're still married--it's just emotional marriage not legal marriage...I think if you're going to bring kids into this world it's a good idea to have some sort of legal foundation around that...after all, having kids is a choice, whether that choice is "on purpose" or "a real lack of common sense\impulse control"--ie. you didn't protect yourself...
I think if you're realistic about it..don't believe the ole Cinderella, living happily ever after thing it's a good thing as long as both your eyes are open...it's not going to be easy and requires a real committment...and you have to realize that in the "big picture" view, all human relationships are transient...you know, you can't escape death...but all in all, I think it's an okay thing. Title: Re: Getting married Post by: Where is Hassan Nasrallah ? on August 05, 2005, 09:23:02 AM I think marriage is okay...I know a lot of folks live together now, without the "piece of paper" and to me, you're still married--it's just emotional marriage not legal marriage...I think if you're going to bring kids into this world it's a good idea to have some sort of legal foundation around that...after all, having kids is a choice, whether that choice is "on purpose" or "a real lack of common sense\impulse control"--ie. you didn't protect yourself... I think if you're realistic about it..don't believe the ole Cinderella, living happily ever after thing it's a good thing as long as both your eyes are open...it's not going to be easy and requires a real committment...and you have to realize that in the "big picture" view, all human relationships are transient...you know, you can't escape death...but all in all, I think it's an okay thing. but what about the fuckin HUGE classy ceremony with expensive chanel dresses and playmates everywhere ? ;D Title: Re: Getting married Post by: Jessica on August 05, 2005, 09:59:38 AM :nervous: :nervous: :nervous: :nervous: :nervous: :nervous: :nervous: :nervous: :nervous: :nervous: :nervous: :nervous: :nervous: :nervous: :nervous: :nervous: :nervous: :nervous: :nervous: :nervous: :nervous: :nervous: :nervous: :nervous: :nervous: :nervous: :nervous: :nervous: :nervous: :nervous: :nervous: :nervous: :nervous: :nervous: marriage :nervous: :nervous: :nervous: :nervous: :nervous: :nervous: :nervous: :nervous: :nervous: :rofl: :rofl: :rofl: :rofl: :rofl: :hihi: Title: Re: Getting married Post by: Jessica on August 05, 2005, 10:02:43 AM I think marriage is okay...I know a lot of folks live together now, without the "piece of paper" and to me, you're still married--it's just emotional marriage not legal marriage...I think if you're going to bring kids into this world it's a good idea to have some sort of legal foundation around that...after all, having kids is a choice, whether that choice is "on purpose" or "a real lack of common sense\impulse control"--ie. you didn't protect yourself... I think if you're realistic about it..don't believe the ole Cinderella, living happily ever after thing it's a good thing as long as both your eyes are open...it's not going to be easy and requires a real committment...and you have to realize that in the "big picture" view, all human relationships are transient...you know, you can't escape death...but all in all, I think it's an okay thing. but what about the fuckin HUGE classy ceremony with expensive chanel dresses and playmates everywhere ? ;D What do you do if she wants a tiny ceremony ( that can be as or even more expensive as any btw) ? What do you do if she wants to wear a leather bikini and chains instead of a couture white ? ;D Title: Re: Getting married Post by: Where is Hassan Nasrallah ? on August 05, 2005, 11:02:36 AM I think marriage is okay...I know a lot of folks live together now, without the "piece of paper" and to me, you're still married--it's just emotional marriage not legal marriage...I think if you're going to bring kids into this world it's a good idea to have some sort of legal foundation around that...after all, having kids is a choice, whether that choice is "on purpose" or "a real lack of common sense\impulse control"--ie. you didn't protect yourself... I think if you're realistic about it..don't believe the ole Cinderella, living happily ever after thing it's a good thing as long as both your eyes are open...it's not going to be easy and requires a real committment...and you have to realize that in the "big picture" view, all human relationships are transient...you know, you can't escape death...but all in all, I think it's an okay thing. but what about the fuckin HUGE classy ceremony with expensive chanel dresses and playmates everywhere ? ;D What do you do if she wants a tiny ceremony ( that can be as or even more expensive as any btw) ? What do you do if she wants to wear a leather bikini and chains instead of a couture white ? ;D it's not possible !! which girl dont want a huge ceremony and expensive clothes ? Title: Re: Getting married Post by: Sterlingdog on August 05, 2005, 11:38:51 AM As a general rule, I say don't get married before you are 25. I think people do too much growing and changing prior to 25, so that if you get married earlier you run the risk of outgrowing your partner (or them outgrowing you). And as adults you find out you don't really like each other all that much. I think marriage works for some people, but not for others. It is more than just a piece of paper. Its a legal commitment. It offers protection for children. If you aren't married, its too easy to leave. So when things get difficult, people bail out. Marriage forces them to stay and work on it (sometimes). It also protects the people involved financially, ensuring that you have a legal right to the property that you have acquired together. I realize that it isn't romantic, but its realistic. Title: Re: Getting married Post by: Jessica on August 05, 2005, 12:44:45 PM I think marriage is okay...I know a lot of folks live together now, without the "piece of paper" and to me, you're still married--it's just emotional marriage not legal marriage...I think if you're going to bring kids into this world it's a good idea to have some sort of legal foundation around that...after all, having kids is a choice, whether that choice is "on purpose" or "a real lack of common sense\impulse control"--ie. you didn't protect yourself... I think if you're realistic about it..don't believe the ole Cinderella, living happily ever after thing it's a good thing as long as both your eyes are open...it's not going to be easy and requires a real committment...and you have to realize that in the "big picture" view, all human relationships are transient...you know, you can't escape death...but all in all, I think it's an okay thing. but what about the fuckin HUGE classy ceremony with expensive chanel dresses and playmates everywhere ? ;D What do you do if she wants a tiny ceremony ( that can be as or even more expensive as any btw) ? What do you do if she wants to wear a leather bikini and chains instead of a couture white ? ;D it's not possible !! which girl dont want a huge ceremony and expensive clothes ? Me as a first Title: Re: Getting married Post by: Jessica on August 05, 2005, 12:46:17 PM As a general rule, I say don't get married before you are 25. I think people do too much growing and changing prior to 25, so that if you get married earlier you run the risk of outgrowing your partner (or them outgrowing you). And as adults you find out you don't really like each other all that much. I think marriage works for some people, but not for others. It is more than just a piece of paper. Its a legal commitment. It offers protection for children. If you aren't married, its too easy to leave. So when things get difficult, people bail out. Marriage forces them to stay and work on it (sometimes). It also protects the people involved financially, ensuring that you have a legal right to the property that you have acquired together. I realize that it isn't romantic, but its realistic. Yes, very realistic Title: Re: Getting married Post by: Tied-Up on August 05, 2005, 12:48:11 PM I was just about to say what Sterling said ^^^ ?I wouldn't have agreed with this before I turned 25, of course, because I was young and right about everything ?:hihi: and I got married WAYYYY too young. ?We become different people in our mid 20s, after we shed much of that which had caged us in our youth. ? ?
Something that I learned from my first (failed) marriage, is that marriage really is just a piece of paper. ?I'm married now, but that was at his insistance after I became pregnant, not mine. ?I would have been content to spend the rest of my life with him without the marriage thing. ?The people that generally claim marriage to be something more than a piece of paper (or a legal arrangement) are generally religious nut jobs that believe that whole 'joined before god' garbage. ?Hopefully that comment will not effectively turn this in to a religious argument. ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? I've also learned that YES you can fall in love with someone you've not met. ? ?You don't love something (or somebody) with the eyes, you may enjoy the sight of someone, but that isn't love. ? In many ways, I would say that meeting on the internet is an ideal way ?to meet someone, because you're dealing with pure communication, and not the other aspects of a relationship, and communication is a very good base upon which to start a relationship. And... not all women want the huge ceremony. ? Skip the huge ceremony and just give me the huge diamond, please. ?:) Title: Re: Getting married Post by: Jessica on August 05, 2005, 12:50:43 PM Can i have a saphire instead ?
I don't like diamonds... :hihi: Title: Re: Getting married Post by: Where is Hassan Nasrallah ? on August 05, 2005, 01:52:19 PM well you guys won't be invited to my super-expensive wedding on Notre Dame that's for sure :( grrrr !
- i've never been to a wedding my entire life ....first will be mine. never been to a funeral either. first will be mine ... maybe not :( - Title: Re: Getting married Post by: noonespecial on August 05, 2005, 02:44:17 PM LOL
You're funny... :peace: I'll second the don't need a big wedding thing\or a big ring for that matter...but I hope you're wedding is as big and lavish as you wish...just think, if the marriage falls apart you'll have some kick-ass pictures...LOL... :hihi: Title: Re: Getting married Post by: SLCPUNK on August 05, 2005, 08:35:50 PM As a general rule, I say don't get married before you are 25. I think people do too much growing and changing prior to 25, so that if you get married earlier you run the risk of outgrowing your partner (or them outgrowing you). And as adults you find out you don't really like each other all that much. I think marriage works for some people, but not for others. It is more than just a piece of paper. Its a legal commitment. It offers protection for children. If you aren't married, its too easy to leave. So when things get difficult, people bail out. Marriage forces them to stay and work on it (sometimes). It also protects the people involved financially, ensuring that you have a legal right to the property that you have acquired together. I realize that it isn't romantic, but its realistic. Marriage is hard. And is a lot of work. There are many things more to marriage then what people are talking about here. Finances are a biggie. I believe it is the number one reason for divorce, ie money issues. I waited until I was 30 to get married. Title: Re: Getting married Post by: noonespecial on August 07, 2005, 07:38:24 PM Good point...that why when I was married, we didn't pool our money...they only money that we pooled was for house bills, cable, electric, stuff like that...never fought about money once...he had his Visa and I had mine...I don't know why people feel the need to pool their money (joint accounts) when they get married...you're still an individual
Title: Re: Getting married Post by: Miss-Aussie on August 07, 2005, 08:41:43 PM they call you up when your out with friends, want to know where you are or where you are going.. and its like FUCK N HELL.... let me be.. So basically you want someone who doesn't care about you :love: I recon me and Clintron will get married when i fly over to brisbane with him :love: not that i am planning ahead or anything but i feel he is the kind of guy i could spend everyday with.. But then again.... i havnt lived with him yet? :nervous:? i hope he doesnt heat up his socks in the oven or microwave? :nervous: :hihi: :hihi: You're sixteen he's 22 ??? Don't trust Clintron he changes his name all the time :smoking: Izzy? :smoking: im 17..... and i really dont care what anyone thinks :yes: i like him Title: Re: Getting married Post by: Miss-Aussie on August 07, 2005, 08:46:05 PM Personally, it doesn?t seem right to me. I don?t expect that to phase you or anything though. Also, I do see a bit of a difference between a 16/17 year old with 22 year old and a 17/18 year old with 23 year old, especially when the first couple?s discussing marriage. It becomes a little more disturbing the farther away from 18 that the girl gets. well.... i am rather mature for my age... i no it wont sound good but here i go..... my ex boyfriend of 9 months is 29!!!! im not like the average 17 year old chick.... oh yeah and i was going out wit a 23yr old when i was 15..... age doesnt mean anything as long as you love the person that you are wit, and they love you in return Title: Re: Getting married Post by: Miss-Aussie on August 07, 2005, 08:48:21 PM I recon me and Clintron will get married when i fly over to brisbane with him. Aren't u a little young to think of marriage?? ;)Hell yes !!!! i aint getting married for another couple of years, around the age of 24- 27 im allowed to dream aint i ? : ok: Title: Re: Getting married Post by: Sterlingdog on August 07, 2005, 08:56:16 PM Personally, it doesn?t seem right to me. I don?t expect that to phase you or anything though. Also, I do see a bit of a difference between a 16/17 year old with 22 year old and a 17/18 year old with 23 year old, especially when the first couple?s discussing marriage. It becomes a little more disturbing the farther away from 18 that the girl gets. well.... i am rather mature for my age... i no it wont sound good but here i go..... my ex boyfriend of 9 months is 29!!!! im not like the average 17 year old chick.... oh yeah and i was going out wit a 23yr old when i was 15..... age doesnt mean anything as long as you love the person that you are wit, and they love you in return Every teenager says that they are mature for their age. They aren't, they are just acting their age. And if I were your mother, I would have had those men thrown in jail. I have a former friend who is no longer allowed in my home because I found out that when he was 25 he screwed a 15 year old. And he would never admit it was wrong, because they were "in love." So I don't allow him near my little girl, because I consider him a pedophile. I think you have issues with men and I bet a good counselor could figure out why and get you back on track. I know you won't agree with me, but a 29 year old dating a 16/17 year old? There is something wrong with a man that would do that. He was taking advantage of you, and that's not your fault, but I promise you he was a bad person. Mature, healthy, well adjusted men just don't do that. Title: Re: Getting married Post by: Miss-Aussie on August 07, 2005, 09:05:15 PM well i8 dont really care hey.... you dont know me , you dont know what i am like.
anyways... maybe this thread should go on topic aye !!! i was living out of home, so dont act as if i have a bad mother allrite buddy !! Title: Re: Getting married Post by: freysiamagic2005 on August 08, 2005, 12:10:09 AM Marriage is quite a scary thought. The concept is becoming more and more attractive to me as i get older though. As long as you don't lose yourself in the process you should be alright. And make sure the person you are marrying isn't a straight donkey.
Title: Re: Getting married Post by: Miss-Aussie on August 08, 2005, 02:19:18 AM Marriage is quite a scary thought.? The concept is becoming more and more attractive to me as i get older though.? As long as you don't lose yourself in the process you should be alright.? And make sure the person you are marrying isn't a straight donkey. need a good sex life too... : ok: Title: Re: Getting married Post by: SLCPUNK on August 08, 2005, 02:27:01 AM Every teenager says that they are mature for their age. LOL, they sure do..... Title: Re: Getting married Post by: Miss-Aussie on August 08, 2005, 03:50:50 AM yeah very true, but i have also been through allot in my life so far more than what an average teen would... you can ask mike or clint, and some others that i chat to, and they will tell you the same. after a conversation , people ask me how old i am (17) and they are shocked as i tend to think differently from allot of young people. but for sure mate your allowed your opinion, and you dont no me, or what kind of person i am. so therefore i understand your comment. have a nice day :-* Title: Re: Getting married Post by: Genesis on August 08, 2005, 05:29:30 AM I recon me and Clintron will get married when i fly over to brisbane with him. Aren't u a little young to think of marriage? ;)Dream until your dreams come true Title: Re: Getting married Post by: Mr. Dick Purple on August 08, 2005, 09:49:07 AM A friend wed last saturday both of them were 25, a friend told me if I can picture myself getting married, I panic. I'm really not prepare to commit to anyone I'm very irresponsable, I wish I'll be ready when the perfect girl cross my way :peace:
Title: Re: Getting married Post by: Neon Mobil Horse on August 08, 2005, 12:05:55 PM Actually, I already did it... I'll have been married to my best friend for 2 years this October. And, in just about one month... it will be our daughter's first birthday.
(http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v453/shannonn81/Anna-April07005.jpg) Our lil' angel, Anna. Title: Re: Getting married Post by: Miss-Aussie on August 08, 2005, 09:42:13 PM Actually, I already did it...? I'll have been married to my best friend for 2 years this October.? And, in just about one month... it will be our daughter's first birthday. (http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v453/shannonn81/Anna-April07005.jpg) Our lil' angel, Anna. She is one beautiful looking baby.. i cant wait to have kid, but yeah i am going to get married first, be financually ready, and be in a stable relationship before that happens... i dont want my babies daddy walking out on us... that would be horrible :no: the man of my dreams is in another state, but i will get there some day :love: Title: Re: Getting married Post by: Miss-Aussie on August 14, 2005, 09:32:41 PM As a general rule, I say don't get married before you are 25. I think people do too much growing and changing prior to 25, so that if you get married earlier you run the risk of outgrowing your partner (or them outgrowing you). And as adults you find out you don't really like each other all that much. I think marriage works for some people, but not for others. It is more than just a piece of paper. Its a legal commitment. It offers protection for children. If you aren't married, its too easy to leave. So when things get difficult, people bail out. Marriage forces them to stay and work on it (sometimes). It also protects the people involved financially, ensuring that you have a legal right to the property that you have acquired together. I realize that it isn't romantic, but its realistic. Marriage is hard. And is a lot of work. There are many things more to marriage then what people are talking about here. Finances are a biggie. I believe it is the number one reason for divorce, ie money issues. I waited until I was 30 to get married. are you still married? Title: Re: Getting married Post by: SLCPUNK on August 15, 2005, 11:29:37 AM As a general rule, I say don't get married before you are 25. I think people do too much growing and changing prior to 25, so that if you get married earlier you run the risk of outgrowing your partner (or them outgrowing you). And as adults you find out you don't really like each other all that much. I think marriage works for some people, but not for others. It is more than just a piece of paper. Its a legal commitment. It offers protection for children. If you aren't married, its too easy to leave. So when things get difficult, people bail out. Marriage forces them to stay and work on it (sometimes). It also protects the people involved financially, ensuring that you have a legal right to the property that you have acquired together. I realize that it isn't romantic, but its realistic. Marriage is hard. And is a lot of work. There are many things more to marriage then what people are talking about here. Finances are a biggie. I believe it is the number one reason for divorce, ie money issues. I waited until I was 30 to get married. are you still married? Yup we sure are. Probably always will be. I couldn't imagine being apart from her. Title: Re: Getting married Post by: Cornell on August 15, 2005, 06:51:31 PM I waited to get married too. So many of my friends got married out of high school, but I went to college and partied for a few years first. I had to get all that wild side out of the way, I guess. :hihi:
NMH - your daughter is precious! Title: Re: Getting married Post by: SLCPUNK on August 15, 2005, 07:09:52 PM NMH - your daughter is precious! yea she is, I mean...look at those baby blues!!!! :) |