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What do you think?

Of course they can.







They both have to be gay though.

I think they can.

If they have no physical attraction to one another OR IF their moral standards are high enough.

i have quite a few female friends...to be honest it would be hard to live without those friendships...
:)

I have to say no, most friends I have I like them or they like me at the end we just kiss or "hang out"  ;), anyway I think at the end someone likes someone it doesnt have to screw up the "friendship".

does Axl have the potential to release Chinese Democray?  ::)

Of course. I have a lot of female friends thats I'm not attracted to.












When i say lots i dont mean "all"  :P

No

one or the other will end up attracted to the other at some point

its not impossible but i think its very rare.


It doesnt have to develop into anything but either the girl will start likin the guy, or the guy will start likin the girl at some point.

yes

It's a case by case thing.  Maybe if they are physically close (hugging, touching, not sexual), they can be friends because then "touching" isn't forbidden, and there's no tension. 

Can A Man and Woman Be Just Friends?
Yes? : ok:

 :smoking: Izzy? :smoking:

i wouldnt mind my woman being friends with my close friends but if it were some dude i knew nothing about i wouldnt be able to accept it


its not because i dont trust my woman its more that i know how 90 percent of guys are and very few straight men want to be "just friends" with an attractive lady

friendship is a foot in the door to further develop things.

yes. if you can't look at a member of the opposite sex without having an alterior motive you really need to reasses your life.

I think they can,
but on a very limited, casual level, not very close - because at some point some wires are bound to get crossed, some jealousy WILL erupt.

Because it's a natural process that even if you don't fancy your friend of opposite sex, once they find someone else, jealousy sets in, and the jealousy that this other person has stolen your friend will translate in your mind as the belief that you suddenly fancy your friend, even if you don't.

Pffft, does anyone here actually believe that D's woman is an "attractive lady"?  ::)

I think Captain Obvious was right about the gay thing... I think it would be extremely rare to find two friends of the opposite sex who have never been attracted to each other.

ultimately and inevitably, something of a sexual nature will happen...it is just human nature...so I'd say Yes...before and after ;)

YES. All throughout high school I only had male friends (and I am a girl). and I have been going out with the same guy for 4 years so that means that I was only with one guy all through high school. I had many close guy friends and I never was attracted to any of them. I would even spend the night at their houses and stuff.

I think girls can't be girls friends cause they hate each other I don't know any woman that trust another woman.

Lesbians

YES!

My mistake I forget about them  :hihi:

No problem.

if you're not attracted to the girl i can you can easily be friend with her.

and then, my girlfriend is my best friend too. (i mean one of them)

and my best girlfriend is pretty much like a best buddy, my g/f wasnt pleased with that at first, she was like "she is too cute to be JUST your friend", but i wasnt attracted to her, never, so now it's accepted ....

but i guess, even with a real hot girl, you sometimes HAVE to be JUST friends because of numerous limitations (you have a g/f, she has a b/f, she is 5, you're 46 ....)

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I have to agree there

yeh

???? This was a joke I hope

 :smoking: Izzy? :smoking:

Not both, just him  ;D ;D ;D

Dude i really dont think your mom would like to hear that u find her unattractive

now go to your room, do your homework, clean up your room, keep that music down and stepdaddy D here will prepare u a nice hot bowl of dick for breakfast! :hihi: :hihi: :hihi: :hihi: :hihi: :hihi: :hihi: :hihi: :hihi: :hihi: :hihi: :hihi: :hihi:

I think the answer is yes, especially if the dude is married with children...if the dude or dudette is either married with kids or living with someone, or they may be separated from the mother of the kid, either way there's is still baggage attached to him and\or her...there's no other choice but to be friends...why would one voluntarily want to get involved with a guy (or girl) if he or she already has baggage...especially if the guy has a kid...cause that always means there's a "baby's mom" on the scene...relationships are weird enough without baggage...just my two cents ;D

if i were married, maybe

with my situation id find it impossible

where i live over 200 miles away, the thought of some guy "friend" seeing her more than i do wouldnt sit well with me and would ultimately drive me crazy leading to our demise. Now if we lived together and the dude knew me and knew the consequences of tryin to manipulate or go any further than friends, i could maybe deal with it. but in my current situation id have to say it would be a big hell no

not all guys are wolves in sheeps clothing but almost every guy ive ever known uses the buddy technique to get in a girl's good graces and a lot of guys are very very good at it.

id feel threatened if my woman felt the need to have a bunch of other guys around, it would make me feel inadequate

im sure its a case by case basis but for me the answer is definitely no.

of course if it were some next door neighbor they grew up with their whole life thats understandable but if they met someone at work or somewhere and started talkin, exchanged phone numbers, that isnt cool to me however if they have a friend at work and a bunch of them conversate at break but thats as far as it goes, i can deal with that.

yeah the girl may tell the guy she has a boyfriend but trust me, guys dont give a shit, there is no loyalty amongst guys, if they are attracted to a girl, they will do whatever it takes to get what they want.


you show me a guy who only wants to be friends with an attractive lady, and ill show u a guy who is full of shit or gay : ok:

I must be full of shit then cos I definetley ain't the latter? :hihi:

 :smoking: Izzy? :smoking:

I kind of agree with your point, D. But if a relationship does develop into more than friends, which isn't easy in stopping sometimes, it will most likely ruin a friendship. Is it worth it?.....Absolutely NOT. 

The friends involved have to have their hearts and minds in the right place.

i mean its not impossible but i know how most guys are, not all guys, but most guys and i wouldnt want one of them around my woman cause id have a hard time believin they wanted to be only friends.

like i said, if its one of my friends and they develop a friendship, thats totally cool, i dont mind my girlfriend talkin to my friends at all

but if its some stranger that i have never met or dont know id be very very suspicious and with good reason i believe.

plus guys are so manipulative and such dogs for the most part

they will be your friend, they will respect that u have a BF, but u let the first crack in that armor show and i guarantee they will pounce and steer the girls misery over problems in her relationship to their advantage.

a lot of girls dont wanna believe that shit and a lot of you guys wont disclose the dark secrets within but its true ladies

if a guy is just your friend 95 percent of the time he is thinking of ways to further that relationship

Well, think about two (heterosexual) men. ?A woman can come between those two men, obviously because of sex. ?Sex gets in the way of life and relationships one way or another, directly or indirectly. ?If you are attracted to someone, you can't be "just friends" with them no matter what your or their gender/sexual preference. ?But just because you are not attracted to someone, doesn't mean that you can be friends with them. ?Sometimes someone outside your friendship will come between your friendship. ?Women always do that, come between two men's friendship.

There's no way I could sit here and say I've never had "motives" for something more than friendship with a girl. Sometimes I lose my morals and ethics from time to time. I think both men and women are guilty of this. It doesn't make it right. And we learn from our transgressions. I think it's a part of life and growing up. And I've found out the hard ways, it's not woth ruining a friendship.

Girls always tell me that they want to be "friends".? It sucks ass, primarily because it's always a candycoated way of saying "you're unattractive".

It probably means they're not interested in your friendship either.  Maybe it's best to be a little attracted to all your friends, but never wanting to take it to a sexual level.  Then there will be no tension if you know that you think each other is hot.  Otherwise, it's one-sided or not at all (which can lead to things) and that can cause problems.  You don't want to have a "that's gay" attitude if one of your same-sex friends touches you (in a non-sexual way), 'cause that is sexual tension whether you're attracted to them or not.

i would love to write a book on this


id love to conduct experiments


let a guy and a girl of different backgrounds, looks etc hang out and review the results


for instance let two attractive people hang around one another for a month straight everday see what happens


let two unattractive people hang around

let one attractive female, one unattractive guy hang out

let one unattractive female and one attractive guy

i can tell u already what will happen


the two attractive people more than likely hook up at least sexually and maybe something more depending on their personalities and how they get along

the two unattractive people will also more than likely hook up depending on their personalities.

the unattractive male will grow feelings for the attractive female but she will only wanna be friends

the unattractive girl will more than likely grown a crush on the attractive male, he wont like her in a GF way but would still more than likely let her give him head


ive been around this stuff all my life and ive always been a very observant person, i am fascinated by people and their relationships and the above scenarios ive seen happen a million times.

sure there are exceptions but i think the majority of situations would transpire close to my model above.

It would be hard to judge whether or not the people are attractive it's an opinion, someone you think is ugly another guy could find attractive.

 :smoking: Izzy? :smoking:

dude work with me here :hihi:

Sorry? :hihi:? ? Good look with the book? ;D

 :smoking: Izzy? :smoking:

im not really writing a book but it would be cool to conduct experiments of this nature and write a book based on the results

ill store that idea away in case the music career doesnt work out : ok:


i just think its human nature

i even asked my mom what she thought

and she couldnt recall a single time in her 48 years of life that either a guy didnt end up making a pass at her or the ones that didnt make a pass at her she wished they had.

i believe its human nature

take two heterosexual or two homosexual people that get along

let them spend enough time around each other and one or the other if not both will fall

i think its possible for a chick to be just friends with a guy, normally its a guy they dont find attractive but like the personality of. but for guys i think its different. if your a guy and who have girls who are truly "just friends"  if u dont wanna get with em, you dont think about nailing em, or someone they know, your prob gay.

so thats a no cause the guy would be thinkin of nailin them

You got that right D.

Right now I'm at the point where I'm thinking about becoming a lesbian just because I'm sick of guys' shit, period (not really, just a thought lol). I just experienced a "friendship" with a guy, and let's just say it didn't work out after he got what he wanted. I thought he was my friend, but then he only called when he wanted to have sex, and then all of a sudden, he doesn't talk to me at all. I thought he was my friend at first, but then I realized that I really did like him, and when I told him, he got all these ideas in his head and decided to go for it (he lied to me about having a gf etc). He gives men a bad name. I wonder if there are any men out there who actually have any respect for girls whatsoever, and if I'll ever happen to meet one of the few.

So no I don't think guys and girls can be just friends, unless one of them is gay. It's rare anyway.  :-\

Hey, don't give up. There are alot of females out there that wouldn't make good friends aswell, they just don't pretend to be friends because they ain't tryin' to get anything from ya. In the same way that you're only friends with girls that share your intrests or that are friendly you should try to find guys that are genuinley nice people? : ok:, we're not all shitheads  :hihi:
 
:smoking: Izzy? :smoking:

Yes, men and women can be just friends.  I can't promise you that the man won't occasionally think of nailing the chick...but yes, men and women can be friends.  When women say that all men are pigs, I reply we all THINK like pigs...the men who act on it really ARE pigs.  How's that sound??? 

Now, when you're married, you've got to be good about this stuff.  All communications outside of work with men or women of the opposite sex should be done with your spouse aware of everything.  Mutual respect.  Make sense?

Yes, men and women can just be friends. They can have feelings for each other and still be just friends as long as they don't act on their feelings. That being said, I do think there is a high probability of at least one person in the friendship developing feelings for the other. It's not just due to physical attraction, but it's also because you become so comfortable with that person that they become appealing as a potential bf or gf.

Ka-zing...! Teh only correct answer, mah friend.

I'm a female, and most my friends are male. I just get along much better with guys.  :yes:

I have a lot of close female friends who are just that-- friends.  So it's entirely possible.  Does the thought of sex ever cross my mind with them?  In weaker moments, yes.  But nothing physical has happened, which is all that really counts to me.

They can but....






















Never let them together in the same room over 10 minutes  ;D